How can i grow up and become a man? My girlfriend wants me to become a man. She wants me to change for her. I don't know how I don't have anyone to look up too to know how or to guild me. I can't stop makeing mistakes and upset her. I love with all my heart and she loves me with all her heart, but she can't take it any more. What can i do to change to become a man to show that I love her and i can do this? Please Help me!!!
2006-06-22 04:46:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What can i do to show her that i care about her and that I love her?
2006-06-22 04:51:46 · update #1
Try to calm down & relax. From reading your information, it seems like you are trying way to hard. Your girlfriend wants you to change so the more you try to be somebody that she wants you to be, you get nervous & keep making the mistakes that she is complaining about.
Try keeping a journal. Get one of those small memo books so you can keep it in your back pocket. And everytime you do something that she says is wrong & wants you to change it, write it down. And then later on when you are alone recap everything that you did that your girlfriend thinks is wrong. It will help you out in more ways than one. I don't mean to sound judgmental but after a day of writing & at night when your recap, you may realize that she complains about everything that you do and you might want to reconsider the relationship. I mean if she complains about everything that you do then she is looking for something other than what she has with you. One important thing that you have to remember in a relationship or not:
2006-06-22 05:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by ~Sheila~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becoming a man is taking responsibiltiy! Being able to do things on your own, getting a job, etc. How old are you? If you're 15 or younger, dont grow up too fast! If you are 15-20, its time to start makin some changes in your life. If your 21 and above, then maybe u should start thinking about what u want out of life!! Maybe this is what she means by being a man. If i wasnt any help jus let me know!!!
2006-06-22 11:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by JERmama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a man means knowing your strength and yet never using it except to defend those who have none. Being a man means taking responsibility for your life and the lives of those you love, even though you might not think it should be your responsibility. Being a man means knowing when to speak up and knowing when to shut up. Being a man means comittment, sacrifice and dedication to what you know is right. Being a man means never intentionally lying. Being a man means keeping yourself in good condition physically, mentally and emotionally. Being a man means not spending the money you make on your own wants, but using it wisely to protect the future of those you love. Being a man means not letting your loved ones over-work, over-spend, or over-stress.
Change of any sort is difficult and especially personality and habit change. It can, however be done. But you really, really, REALLY have to want it. Start with small things one at a time, then gradually move to larger behavior change.
Good luck!
2006-06-22 11:55:57 · answer #3 · answered by fhornsr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be more responsible, wake up when the alarm clock rings instead of pressing the snooze button. Clean up after yourself, if you dirty a dish, put it in the sink and clean it, don't leave it on the floor or the table so that someone else comes along to do it for you. Take out the garbage. If the floor is dirty or the carpet is dirty, sweep or vaccum. Give an extra effort with everything. Women tend to feel appreciated more when their boyfriend/finace/husband puts in more of an effort around the house with chores. Don't fart/burp in front of her, its disgusting. If you don't have a job, get up and get one. All these things show that you are responsible and are willing to change your ways because you love her. You can say "I love you" all you want to her, but it is your actions that show her that you actually do. Actions speak louder than words.
2006-06-22 11:56:17 · answer #4 · answered by jennienettie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What it means to become a man is to to be able to stand up for what you think is right. Treating a woman right and letting her know that you love her. What it means to become a man is to take care of a family and be a good father... To be a man is to be there for those who need you.
2006-06-22 11:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becoming a man. Hmmm. Basically, she meant you should stop being a child. Which is REALLY, really sad. If theres something with the world that I can change using magic, I really wish we wouldnt have to grow up.
2006-06-22 11:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how you can grow up to be a man is act like you daddy if that is what you mean be proper do like if you go out for dinner open a chair and if you have a car just open and close the car door for her thats what i see when i go to red lobster that is a great place!!! :-)
2006-06-22 11:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by dolphin_grl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably things you immature. Start acting more mature around her, and be responsible. Do small things to show her that you care about her.
2006-06-22 11:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she wants to do you.
Have fun and bang her
2006-06-22 11:50:09 · answer #9 · answered by ricgrif 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋