I talk to my mom almost everyday & all she ever talks about is how stupid her husband is or my sisters boyfriend is? Her tone of voice is always so harsh. She brings the worst out of just about anything. I'll say something good about my husband, & she will say something bad to change the subject. I wanna pull my hair out. She started a fight with my step-dad on his birthday, & if that wasn't bad enough she started a fight on father's Day also. What do I do. She has a good man who puts up with a lot & she constantly puts him down. I hear EVER fight they have even if I'm not there. I mean she'll tell me word for word how the fight went. This is an every day thing.
2006-06-22 04:20:42 · 20 answers · asked by Monkee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just continue to be positive and say positive things to her...maybe she will turn around.
2006-06-22 04:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by carrie_hendley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about calling home everyday, try once in a week! Because if you talk everyday than there is nothing to talk about but all the negative things left. and as for your mom and her man well try talking some sense into her and if that doesn't work let things the way it is... she will soon realize it the day he walks out and it will be too late but she will realize it though! Some women deserve that! The next time you call and she starts with her stupid conversations you better stop her before she gets carried along and tell her that you do not want to know what happened between her and her husband! Tell her that you called to check how things are and that's all!
2006-06-22 04:28:17 · answer #2 · answered by Pari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take a break from her for a few days, or so. Give yourself a breather, so to speak. Then, confront her about her negative behavior, explain if need be, and tell her you will not tolerate it any longer, and refuse to visit until she takes responsibilty to change her behaviors that should include professional help. Sometimes we got to do what's called tough-love. Additionally, in that thought...before going through that process...keep an open mind, also, that there may be a slight possibility, there is a medical reason that could be bringing out this behavior as well. Make sure you access your information correctly, before hand. She may need a full physical check up to rule out anything serious. Hope that helps, good luck!
2006-06-22 04:42:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your Mom maybe going through her 'change of life' syndrome? If so, the hormone levels are all whacked out and mood swings are inevitable. If she's been like this always, I'm not sure what to tell you except this: You need to tell your mom something like if she doesn't have anything good to say, then don't say anything. Talk to her and ask her why she seems so angry and negative about everything. Perhaps she doesn't even realize she's being this way. People CAN change, maybe she just needs to be aware to do so. I wish you luck - it won't be easy.
2006-06-22 04:27:25 · answer #4 · answered by Decoy Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever told your mom how she acts and the effects she is having on everyone around her? It also sounds like she is mainly talking trash about guys. Maybe she went through something hurtful and hasn't fully been able to fully express it to others. Just talk to your mom in a calm and relaxed way and try to be patient about what she is saying. Tell her about her attitude and what effects it has been causing around her. If she blows up on you tell her something like I am sorry mom, but I just want to know what is really up. I just want to be able to have a true conversation with you that doesn't allways end up with you mad at everyone else and that later we can't be able to connect with you like we want to. Or something like that except add your own feelings and the truth about the subject. Just present it to her in a delicate manner so she doesn't feel she is being attacked by all sides. If you keep trying with her and she keeps up her negativeness you may want to ask for extra help.
2006-06-22 04:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by natelements 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, your mom has a good man. If he puts up with the yelling and arguing everyday. It sounds like your mom's husband really love her. If your mom don't get it together, her husband might leave. Like the saying goes : "you never know what you got til it's gone" Maybe your mom has to go through it, to feel it.
2006-06-22 04:26:31 · answer #6 · answered by anw110784 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not participate in such conversations, when she starts tell her that it is none of your business and don't want to hear it. If you say this every time she starts talking negative she well adventually get the hint and maybe stop, at least she won't talk to YOU about it. She may get angry but just let her tell some one what you did and they may take their lead from you and then who well she be able to be ugly with? No one!!!
2006-06-22 06:25:30 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has she always been so bitter? Sounds like she is just an unhappy woman. I would do spontaneous things for her like send a loving card in the mail, or have flowers delivered.
Maybe you could talk to her about being more happy or positive. Good luck!
2006-06-22 04:25:39 · answer #8 · answered by Katherine M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom needs counseling.
My mother does the EXACT same thing. She's negative about everything, and can take a terrific day and make it sound horrible.
Something in her life obviously isn't the way she would like for it to be, and she's taking it out on everyone around her. Get her some help immediately.
2006-06-22 04:25:28 · answer #9 · answered by Luann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell my mother I don't wish to hear every detail of her marriage and if things are that bad maybe she should seek professional help. Suggest that she and her husband seek marriage counseling, I bet she will stop telling you every little detail. I know it's your mom and you don't want to be disrespectful,but she's not happy and misery loves company so enabling her to make you feel this way!
2006-06-22 04:27:57 · answer #10 · answered by LUNCHY THE PIRATE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your mom just isn't happy with her man , or maybe any man,she seems like a bitter person, maybe u should ask her how she feels about men and does she love her man and if so then y does she always put him down , tell her how it makes u feel when she does that,and how her unhappiness is having a bad effect on others and it's not fair
2006-06-22 04:28:17 · answer #11 · answered by cc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋