My married lover is going on vacation with his family for the next 2 weeks and I won't be able to see him. I get depressed when he does this because it makes me feel really lonely as I really don't have any relationship with my family and don't travel anymore. I have tried hard to find a single guy to date but haven't made any progress so far. I find myself going on nothing but one date wonders. I get locked into an endless string of perpetual emailers on the dating sites. The guy I am seeing is such an important part of my life and really the only person I have to talk to on a regular basis and I am going to miss his terribly. What can I do to get my mind off him for the next weeks? I know he is married but he is the best lover I have ever had and I have had sex with him more than anyone , including my ex. I just have this terrible lonely feeling .
2006-06-22 04:16:53 · 17 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really don't have any friends. I started a new job and we really don't socialize that much. I have searched very hard to find a single guy as i am looking for someone just for me but haven't made any progress, just one tense first date after the other where is i can relax and enjoy time with the married guy I am seeing. He has a good marriage except for the sex part. I'm not trying to break up his marriage and he has been married for many years. He is just an important part of my life and really the only person I have to tell my feelings too. Yes he is married but he is one of the only guys I have met that isn't flaky. All these single guys in their 40's and 50's seem so flaky and not looking for committment either.
2006-06-22 04:26:58 · update #1
I really can't get out at night because I live in a dangerous neighborhood and have to walk or take public transport. I work most evenings so I waste enough money on cabs. It is hard to meet guys during the day without they are married. I work alot of weekends too so I don't have much time to meet or do any activities to meet peope then either.
2006-06-22 04:31:10 · update #2
As far as he kids, he spends alot of time with them and does stuff with them all the time but they are all grown and married.
As far as waiting for mr right to come along I have been hearing that since I was 19 and I am now 40, it's time now.
2006-06-22 04:33:33 · update #3
1. Do something with your daughter every week. 2. Get an interesting book to read. (The Time Traveller's Wife is a good start.) 3. Go to a movie. (The Prairie Home Companion is romantic and will leave you feeling good.) 4. Start a project, organize something, make something. 5. Write to me. (After all, we could be married already: I am always nagging you and you always ignore everything I say!) (lol)
2006-06-23 13:14:46 · answer #1 · answered by AnOrdinaryGuy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some good things for you to do over the next few weeks are, go to the library and get several books on a subject you find interesting. Read them all ,and make a report of what you learned from them. You certainly need to get out of the house, if it's only to go to the park and "people-watch". Time spent alone at the house drags on forever. Go to a movie, or go to the mall, even if you don't buy anything.....the point is, GET OUT of the house! Go hear some music, or see a play at the local theater. Good Luck!
2006-06-22 11:28:18 · answer #2 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you have a major problem ,you must get this guy
out of your life ,I see no future in this, he has ,his cake and is eating too!!think about the fact that he may be a great lover,but he has no other intentions but, to have his faminly and his side
lover( YOU!!) I would suggest think negative about him and you'll
soon realize he is only a substitute for a real realtionship.
keep looking and dateing Mr. right is out there,I am over 50 so no need for me to push for a date,you sound much younger then I.
I am a sensitive man and hate to hear how your hung-up on a marreid man whom is just useing you, dont give up!
2006-06-22 11:27:49 · answer #3 · answered by zestyone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think he really respects you as a woman? He doesn't care about his own wife and family for that matter if he is cheating on them with you. Drop him and don't be afraid to be alone. It's OK the right person will come along when it's time. Don't rush there's a time and place for everything. Do not answer this guy's calls ever again get some self respect.
2006-06-22 11:25:07 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs.Davis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to clubs, parties, beach, hiking etc there is a lot you can do make new friends and see! Join gym you will meet a lot of people there and really cute, build guys who know you might find someone! And try to find a guy who is not married and get in a relationship that way you have things to do!
2006-06-22 11:22:21 · answer #5 · answered by Pari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what............you need a reality check. I know you didn't ask this question seeking for people to feel sorry for you. I hate cry babies and home-wreckers.
First off you need to seriously evaluate your self worth. It's obvious that you think terribly little about yourself because you are in search of love to fill a void and settling for less thinking that you have found it.
Learn to love yourself. You will never get a good man because men don't go for weak women. This married man probably loves his wife with more of his heart than you can imagine and to him you are nothing but a SCREW. He makes LOVE to her and it hurts you to see that you can't get what you want. Did you think the Lord would bless you with love after committing such a sin? You must be crazy....
Go shopping.....buy some nice things for yourself......some lingerie just to walk around the house alone in(get sexy for you)...BOTTOM LINE: LEARN TO LOVE YOU and RESPECT OTHERS RELATIONSHIP.....NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS.......and you will see how many good men you will attract. The numbers would astonish you.
2006-06-22 11:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you say, the married guy you are seeing is not prepared to leave his wife and kids and be with you...and it's not healthy to let that happen over and over again..it will get you more depressed and it will add up to your loneliness...why not invest in yourself rather than in a relationship that has no future...what makes you happy?and is no men related?reading?a sport? try a new thing...why not go to places where you can meet someone without trying so hard for it...Do something for yourself, instead.For your SOUL...How about signing up for a late class...it will get you a chance to meet someone...and if not romantically, at least you'll meet new people and have new perspectives over your life and your future...Try to be happy with yourself .With who You are.Live a little.Don't be afraid.You can do it.
2006-06-22 11:26:36 · answer #7 · answered by anilia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are the problem. This man is MARRIED you need to find someone that is not attached. He has a family don't you think if he cared about you, you would be the one going on vacation. Find someone who really cares for you and only you. Love is not a bug dont look for love. True love will find you when you least expect it, so dont look for it
2006-06-22 11:22:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are dating a man who made a lifetime commitment to someone else. He is a liar and a cheat, and you will never be able to trust him. You deserve to be miserable. Shame on you.
2006-06-22 11:20:58 · answer #9 · answered by Luann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean baby... Been there before. I'm sure there's another hung married stud (like myself) that wouldnt mind, uh, filling in, for the next two weeks or so... let me know!
2006-06-22 11:20:31 · answer #10 · answered by slick_pavement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋