I started at age 16, but I wish now I had waited until 18. 16 is just not old/mature enough (no matter what you think at the time) to handle the effects of it. I don't think there is an age too old to be a virgin. It is up to you, my dad for instance married a 59 yr old woman who was a virgin, HONESTLY a virgin. He had to explain everything to her. She really appreciates sex now. It isn't just something you do, she waited all that time to really enjoy it.
2006-06-22 04:03:51
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answer #2
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answered by sandrarosette 4
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If you still are watching cartoons, listen to extreme Pop geared at a young audience like britney spears, P.Y.T., spice girls, and would be too afraid to go into your local drug store or liquor store to buy condoms, you probably should not be having sex. If you don't know that sexual dieasease can kill you and cause you to be infertile, you probably should not be having sex. If you can not deal with the consequences of being pregnant and know you can not deal with the consequences of being pregnant, you should not be having sex. If you are using sex to save a relationship you should not be having sex.... And for old age, I don't think there is such as thing as 2 old to be a virgin.
But here's an infamous list from a cool website that you should definately check out would get better support from if you ask this question on their message boards.
Here's just part of what you need in order to even consider sex.
The Big Checklist:: Material Items:
I have several up-to-date, good quality latex condoms, and both I and my partner know how to use them.
I have a large bottle of latex-safe, water-soluble lubricant (KY Jelly, Astroglide, Wet, etc.).
I have a secondary method of birth control for use with condoms.
I have a towel, and a stock of menstrual pads.
I have a list of local clinic or gynecologist phone numbers.
I have a savings account I can use myself at any time (preferably, with a pad of $500), and I have a "sex budget" of about $50 per month to take care of birth control, safer sex items and annual testing and sexual health care.
I am covered under a health insurance policy, which can cover pregnancy, neonatal care, gynecological visits, STD testing and/or birth control, or I have the funds to pay for these services.
We'll get to the first three items in the next article, but the last three items are what you will need to deal with potential disease, illness, infections or pregnancy, just for starters. There is no sex, save masturbation -- no matter how long you and your partner have known each other, or what you have convinced yourself of -- that does not carry some risks, no matter how safe you play it. If you haven't checked all the items in that list, take care of that first.
Physical Items:
I have had regular doctor checkups, disease and infection testing, and am in good health, and my partner has had regular doctor checkups, disease and infection testing, and is in good health.
I understand my own anatomy and my partners anatomy, as well as the basics of vaginal intercourse, STDs, STIs and human reproduction.
I can tell when I am sexually aroused, and also know when I am not, what I need to be aroused, or when I simply cannot get aroused.
I can relax during sexual practices without fear, anxiety or shame.
I can handle a mild level of physical pain.
Relationship Items:
I am able to create limits (to say no when I want to) and can trust my partner to respect them at all times.
I can assess what I want for myself, and separate it from what my partner, friends or family want.
I am able to trust my partner, and am trustworthy myself.
I can tell my partner easily what I want sexually and emotionally, and when I do and do not like something.
I can talk to my partner about sex comfortably, and be honest and forthright, and they can do the same with me.
I care about my partner's health, emotions and general well-being, and act accordingly.
Emotional Items:
I don't have any strong religious, cultural or family beliefs or convictions that sex for me, right now, is wrong.
I can take full responsibility for my own emotions, expectations and actions.
I can handle being disappointed, confused, or upset.
I have a member of my family I can talk to about sex, and friends I can go to for emotional support.
I can separate sex from love, and do not seek to have sex to use it to manipulate myself, my partner, or anyone else.
I understand that having intercourse could change my relationship for good or for the worse, and feel I can handle whatever may happen.
I feel I can emotionally handle a possible pregnancy, disease or infection, or rejection from my partner.
2006-06-22 04:06:53
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answer #6
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answered by kitt 4
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