i want a baby! but am not sure if parntner is having an affair! should i have 1 with him
2006-06-22 03:56:29 · 40 answers · asked by purdy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
grow up and settle your issues before you bring a baby into the world - it's not fair to the child or your partner to do that.
2006-06-22 04:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by Angie's mom 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. You should only consider brining a child into the world if you are in a stable realtionship and have stable finances.
Think of what is best for the child not of what is best for you or whatever your wants and needs may be. Realise that the baby will be helpless and completely dependent on you, surely it's best to have as much help as you can get with such a huge responsibility. When you have a baby priorities will change. You are no longer the main character in your life story, your child is. Your needs must be put aside to care for the baby who will always come first. If you are as selfish now as to consider having a baby who may or may not grow up with a father then how will you change into a loving selfless mother when the baby is born?
It is not wrong to be selfish and ambitious if you only have yourself to look after but when you are a mother you must be selfless for the sake of your child.
2006-06-22 04:06:21 · answer #2 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a baby that badly and not bothered whether the father will be around or not, then go ahead.
If you want the ideal , couple thing and little baby, all happy families then I would say not, not with him. Find a nice man who wants the same as you.
And lastly. Follow your gut instinct. If you suspect an affair, its probably true. The inner voice rarely gets it wrong. Listen to it.
2006-06-22 08:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by super_star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure if you really understand what you're asking here. Because if you did you would know the answer. If you can't even talk to him about whether he's having an affair, and you can't talk to him about wanting a baby, then you really need to reevaluate your life. Communication is key, especially once you have a baby. If he can't commit to you and you alone, why would he commit to a baby that he didn't have a choice in having?
2006-06-22 04:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by photomom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, a baby won't fix your relationship and could in-fact make the situation worse, there is obviously trust issues and you need to work those out before bring someone totally dependant on the both of you into the equation. you may want a baby but do you want it with someone you don't feel is truthful and if they are having an affair they are obviously not ready to commit to a family if they can't have a committed relationship with just one person.
2006-06-22 04:11:28 · answer #5 · answered by i don't have a nickname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no this will coz a whole lot of problems down the line been there done that. Find out first if you partner is having an affair before traveling down the road of babies with him. By the way this message is coming from a father!!!
2006-06-22 04:02:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a plant. If you don't kill it after 6 weeks, get a dog. If he's fine after 6 months, get married, then consider having a baby.
If your partner is having an affair, a baby is basically the worst thing that will happen. He already doesn't like being tied down to one girl. You think he'll enjoy being tied down by a kid?
If he isn't willing to commit to marriage, he is NOT going to commit to a child and making regular child support payments.
2006-06-22 04:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by Kats 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT! Not only does single parenthood really suck but a child deserves two parents that actually want them!
To have a baby now would be wholly selfish. How can you expect to be a good mom if your only motivated by selfishness?
Get a puppy or a kitten. You'll get the affection you need.
2006-06-22 04:04:47 · answer #8 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only do it if you can see yourself as being a single mother...You shouldn't have a child and stay with him just because of that bc you and your partner should be setting good examples for him or her. I found out I was pregnant after I tried to work things out with my bf and now I'm pregnant and alone bc he left me for another woman. I'm just saying that if you really want this baby you may end up doing it by yourself so decide if thats something you can do. If he can hurt someone he loves by cheating there's no telling how he could emotionally hurt your child....
2006-06-22 04:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by mk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! Babies test even the strongest relationships, it won't make him stay faithful/marry you/buy you diamonds etc. They are hard work with 2 parents, even less easy when you are alone.
The vast majority of women who have "Superglue babies" (Sure he'll stick with me...) end up as single parents. Find out for definite if he is cheating then take appropriate action but don't get pregnant by this man as an attempt to keep him.
2006-06-22 05:07:53 · answer #10 · answered by felicity_pink 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend that you wait until your home life is settled. Babies are wonderful, but they change life dramatically. If your family life is already a little iffy, then I would wait. You don't want to have to do this alone and until you are sure what is going on with your partner, I would wait. You want to have a baby with someone who will love you, cherish you, adore you and be there for you. If they can do all that for you, then they can do it for your baby too. Good luck!
2006-06-22 04:10:22 · answer #11 · answered by pammy_6201 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋