My friend is being abused!!?

Question

Last night around 2 in the morning my friend came to my house looking like someone hit her a lot. At first I thought it was her boyfirend, but last night she admitted it was her dad. So my parents let her stay at our house. My mom and dad are both doctors that work at a hospital, and they took her with them to the hospital this morning because she looked dyhydrated and she had tons of big bruises especially on her head that needs to get checked out. My dad said he will report her father to the police today and she will stay at our house for a while. What else can be done? please help me!!

Answer 1

Thank your parents for me, there should be many more caring people like them , the world would certainly be a better place. Going to the police is the best thing to do. I wouldn't confront the dad. If he beats his own flesh and blood I think he won't care much about kicking someone else *** for getting into his business. Dad needs jail time and psyciatric counseling. I fear for his wife as well cause the apple doesn't fall to far from the tree. Good luck to you and thanks for being such a good friend to turn to. There is a great need for more friends like you in this world as well. Stay sweet hun.

Answer 2

Following through with your father's plan to make a police report is more than many would do, so that's a wonderful step to make on behalf of your friend. She's your friend so continuing to support her during the crisis as it goes from this point on, will be your most important gift to her. The police, if they take a proper direction on the matter, can fill in the remaining gaps by not only investigating and perhaps applying an enforcement remedy, but they should also have resources available to provide your friend with temporary shelter at a different location, or counseling opportunities, etc. You did not mention the age of the victim, so it's hard to speculate beyond what I've already written.

Answer 3

pretty much, what your Dad and Mom are doing is about the extent of what can be done. Once your dad reports the abuse to the police they will want to talk to her, take pictures, etc. If there is enough evidence of abuse, then a warrant will be issued for her dad's arrest.

Your friend may want to look into a restraining order, might not be a bad idea for your parents either, cause her dad is gonna be pissed when he gets out on bail!

Just do your best to keep her safe.

Answer 4

That is so sad to hear but yet good that she has a friend like you. well, it's going to be a battle. i say this because, once reported to the police, they are going to do an investigationa dn unless she is place with someone in her family that can take care of her, she will go into the "system" till they get in contact with other family or until her parents are deemed responsible enough to take care of her. Your family can take care of her if the parents give them permission to, which i dont think they will because they are reporting them to the police or if by some stroke of faith if your family is deemed responsible enough totake care of her, then the courts may place her with you guys. However, this is just the beginning of a long, hard legal journey. Patience and prayer is what its going to take to get through it all. Just be a good friend to her and care for her. God bless both your families and I hope that it all works out in the end!

Answer 5

if you are religious, then the first thing you know you need to do is pray for her, since dad is handling everything else. you try to be the best friend that you can be, because her mom will probably support dad, not her. she doesn't need to feel like she is alone, she may need time to herself to think every once in a while, but you just be there when she needs you.

she is probably confused right now, because she loves him. after all that is her dad(despite how much of an a**hole he is.)

surround her with happy thoughts and activities, don't dwell on the situation unless she wants to talk about it. doing so may cause her to become upset with you, and want to return home, which is where she doesn't need to be.

Answer 6

In addition to the police you need to be there for her. No matter what don't say anything judgmental about her own actions to her and let her know it wasn't her fault. Many victims like this tend to start thinking it may have been their fault. Be strong for her and let her know things will get better and that it doesn't matter what anyone says or does, that you will always be there for her. Also she should see about counseling with a counselor or qualified pastor. If her parents should someone show up there, DO NOT let them in. If they refuse to leave call the police immediately. I'm glad that you were there for her.

Answer 7

Pray and also support her by listening to her. Remember that supporting her doesn't mean that you have to always agree with her. If she is wanting to go back home, that is not the time to support her wishes.
Let your father handle the big stuff right now. I'm sure he knows what he's doing. He's probably had to do this before with a patient or two. She's had enough to worry about.
Being there for her throughout this whole ordeal is the most important thing that you can do for her right now.

Answer 8

She should also go to the police, file a report and have them take photos for evidence. Otherwise she will not be able to stop this from happening again. Her Mother may also be on the hand of the abuse and too afraid to get out of the relationship and afraid what would happen if she tried to protect her daughter. This guy needs major help.

Answer 9

That's pretty much it. Responsible adults are now working on the problem. Defer to your parents on this one....they are both doctors, and they know how to handle this type of thing. That's one of the things medical professionals look for in underage patients. They have people they can call to get thnigs taken care of....all they want to do is protect your friend.
The only thing you can do is be her friend. Just be there to listen, let her talk when & if she wants to, and lend her a shoulder to lean on.

My prayers are with your friend. Tell her to trust in God, and although it may not seem like it now, everything will eventually be ok.

Answer 10

It sounds as though your parents have a good handle on it. I hope that your father does indeed call the police. Your friends father is very, very sick. He needs to be locked up and undergo some longtime serious therapy. What you need to do is love your friend unconditionally. Offer her strength and listen to her. This may have been going on for a long time and no one knew it. I hope he hasn't assaulted her in any "other" way. She will need counseling also. Please help her get it.