i knw this is long but pls read n help... i met a man online and by 6 months of talking wid each other thru mails as well as on the phone, we fell in love with each other head over heals... when my mom came to knw bout the relationship she ordered me to break all ties with him bcoz our family is very conservative n she said she cant trust him (since i've never met him).. i obeyed her n somehow broke all ties with him... its been 1 year since that n i still love him... in the meanwhile he's still sending me smses n mails occasionally n refuses to move on as he says he still loves me... now what should i do? should i resolve the matter by meeting him n talking to him or should i just keep mum n go thru the agony that i'm going thru... i'm in first year of my graduation n he's into post graduation studies...i'm an indian girl n i just dont want to go against my parents... thank u for reading...
2006-06-22 03:19:23 · 13 answers · asked by kanu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he loves you as much as he professes to explain how you feel about not going against your parents wishes and he should understand. Otherwise your going to have to sever the ties. I think meeting him would be going against your parents wishes don't you? If you were to meet him would it really solve anything your parents still wouldn't want you to see him and what if he turns out to be awful. You have got to talk to this man and figure out a logical solution,otherwise he will continue to pursue you.
2006-06-22 03:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by LUNCHY THE PIRATE 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried asking your mom to go with you when you meet him? If you haven't think about it, if your mom meets him she no longer feel like he is not to be trusted. If your mom refused to meet him ask her if it would be alright if you and some friends met him in a public place. You are an adult and ultimately the decision to meet him or not meet him is up to you not you parents, but if your mom is right the last thing you would probably want to hear is "I told you so". So taking a safe approach would be the best thing here.
2006-06-22 03:28:25 · answer #2 · answered by itiswell4me8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two have such strong feelings for each other, I personally would take the chance and meet him...if you don't, you could regret never taking that step and could end up wondering what could of been if you had met him...you also run the risk of not having these same feelings for someone else if you chose to break all ties and move on...gamble and roll the dice, you could roll a lucky 7
2006-06-22 03:27:57 · answer #3 · answered by Maestro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really double check with your doctor, they know your specific case and you don't want to risk bub for a few minutes of feeling really wonderful. It can be an orgasm alone that can cause problems so you probably should check just to be on the safe side. If you are just too shy, embarassed etc to ask the doc just try and hold off for another two weeks, babies have an awesome survival rate if born after 20 weeks as they are fully formed. Good Luck!
2016-05-20 11:08:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look dear, I can quite understand what's goin on in ur mind right now. But dnt u think its good 2 be cautious when u havnt met this person in real life? I mean, it wudn't really be a very good decision on ur part to just go ahead & meet him. I've got a good way for you to know whether this guy really loves. Call him up & ask him to come to ur place to sort things out. If he agrees to ur request, then that wud mean a green signal 4 u. &, for heaven's sake, dnt tell ur parents about this. Indian parents generally dont kick out unwelcome guests. Trust me, u'll be on the receiving end.
Best of Luck.
2006-06-22 03:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by Sandeepsingh Sisodia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is okay not to disobey your parent, but you have to choose your own boyfriend or husband. talk to him and see him in school. If he is a nice guy, then tr dating him for a why, if he is bad, than you can see with your eyes. Remember when you meet him, bring some friend to see if he is good. if he is, then your parent would approve in the long run. good look, just remember when you tell your parent this is not the guy online, but a guy you meet at school. that way they don't know if they are the same guy and will have no negative about him when you do bring him home for dinner.
2006-06-22 03:25:37 · answer #6 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As we have now reached the 2000's things have changed a lot with regards to meeting people.The internet has become a great source of connections for some folks and it too has its sleazy side! My niece met her future husband by the net and 2 kids later still very happy! It is a chance just like anything else you have to ask yourself how much of a chance are you willing to take? Don't rush into any decision without getting as much knowledge as you can...................................
2006-06-22 03:29:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're over 18, you're not a child anymore. You are an adult. Do what you feel is best for you. Sometimes parents are right, and sometimes they aren't. If you choose to meet him, however, do so in a public place where there are lots of people around. Be safe.
2006-06-22 03:23:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow your right that was long & i feel for you & my answer to you is when you turn 18 give him a call be careful meet him in aresteraunt tell him to bring couple of friends & youll bring couple of friends that way there are ppl & its sort of like a group date & you will have some one with you at all times so nothing can happen(in case he's not safe)
2006-06-22 03:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. If I were you, I will go with a trusted girlfriend and meet him for the first time.
2006-06-22 03:27:40 · answer #10 · answered by Timeless - watcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋