i'm trying hard to be a nicer person. any tips?

Answer 1

Treat others how you'd like to be treated. Everyone is human. Everyone has feelings (cliche) but it's true. If you're nicer to others you'll feel better within yourself. Obviously being nasty to others won't have a positive impact on you.

Having more respect for others will allow you and others to have more respect for yourself. Everyone is on this earth for a reason (an unknown one at that). Life is hard enough as it is without people being twats to each other, that's commonly human nature though. At the end of the day, it's only you and your conscience that will enable you to be a nicer person to others. You just need to be more considerate to others, even if they aren't considerate back, you can rest knowing you've done the right thing. Directly that person may not appreciate it, but you'll notice others will (and they will)

I hope this has helped.

Answer 2

Read the Bible so you know what God has to say about how a person should act, from the heart, and then walk according to the Spirit.

"For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would. But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law. Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another. Galatians 5:17-26

Answer 3

Don't ever try. People may even acknowledge that you are nice if you put in lots of efforts. But within yourself there will be a natural resistance and ultimately result in problem to mental health. Look at it logically... If you have to be a nice person, others around have to be less nice, or not at all nice. So being nice is just a matter of comparison. Instead be loving, and if situation needs, action flows out of you, and it is bound to be 'nice'. There is no wisdom in being unhelpful, unkind, aggressive etc. We feel happy when we do something which is suitable to the situation. That's all is needed. Become a 'nice person' is a consequence of your action and 'being' a loving person, and not a goal or purpose.

Answer 4

There are quite a few scriptures in the Bible you need to read...Colossians 3:12-17. This is one of my favorite ones. The Bible is your source for knowledge in everything you do. Seek Him everyday through prayer and reading His word, in following His commandments and doing His work and you will see your spirit open up to a renewed you. God Bless You in your journey toward kindness for your fellow man. Isn't that what life is all about?

Answer 5

I hope you are trying to be nicer but I must tell you won't get to heaven this way!

We've all missed the standard "All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God" Romans 3v23

We will be judged against this standard, "God.... shall judge the world in righteousness" Acts 17v31 "God shall judge the secrets of men, by Jesus Christ" Romans 2v16

We must have the problem of sin taken away - for all the world is "guilty before God" Romans 3v19

God has a rescue plan for us that we might escape his just sentence of judgment

"God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believes in Him should not perish, but have evelasting life" John's Gospel chapter 3 verse 16

The poet has said

God sent His Son,
They called Him Jesus,
He came to love, heal and forgive,
He gave His life to buy my pardon,
An empty grave is there to prove,
My Saviour lives

And because He lives,
I can face tomorrow,
Because He lives,
All fear is gone,
Because I know He holds the future,
And life is worth the living just because He lives!!!!!!!!

Its true you know!!

The Lord Jesus has died that our sins might be taken away and has been raised again from the dead - trust him and you will enjoy life, be nicer (because you will have a new life within you) and have the great assurance of being in heaven - read these verses from that Bible and think about them is all I ask -

"Christ died for our sins.. was buried and rose again the third day" 1 Corinthians 15v3-4

"He was wounded for our transgressions, bruised for our iniquities, the punishment to procure our peace was upon Him, and by His stripes we am healed" Isaiah 53v5

"Christ also has once suffered for sins, the Righteous One for the unrighteous, that He might bring us to God" 1 Peter 3 v 18

"we implore you, in Christ's stead, be reconciled to God for He (God) made Him (Christ) to be sin for us, He who knew no sin, that we might be made the righteousness of God in Him" 2 Corinthians 5v20-21

"Believe on (ie depend upon) the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved" Acts 16v31

Answer 6

Being nice? What does that mean? Forgiving the *** that just cut you off in traffic. Or being honest in every breath and word you utter. Nice is a politically incorrect LIE! Try honest, upright, and forth-right. While it will at times anger your friends, it will always enrage frustrate and confound the manipulating phony game players that consider themselves elite. But at least you can sleep easy at night.

Answer 7

Don't EVER stop trying....even when it gets hard...
Calamity is the test of integrity.
—Samuel Richardson


Getters generally don't get happiness; givers get it. You simply give to others a bit of yourself—a thoughtful act, a helpful idea, a word of appreciation, a lift over a rough spot, a sense of understanding, a timely suggestion. You take something out of your mind, garnished in kindness out of your heart, and put it into the other fellow's mind and heart.
—Charles H. Burr

Answer 8

I've found that to not look for anothers faults, and to forgive them, especially for small ones, makes a huge difference in yourself. You'll be happier, and therefore treat others nicer.

Answer 9

Repeat several times a day: "My business is my business, their business is their business."

Being a nicer person (for me, at least) means knowing where to draw the line between "my business" and "their business." It's getting easier now that I've been practicing it for awhile, but I still need to repeat the little mantra from time to time, just to reinforce the habit.

Answer 10

Depends on your definition of "nice". Just be considerate of other's feelings but don't be a door-mat and let people walk over you in your attempt at being "nicer".