She is wanting to die herself and i cannot bear to hear her say things like that. I know she is grieving we all are but i know not as much as her. I do know how she is feeling cause i have had miscarriages and i had a daughter that was killed by a drunk driver. It took me a long time to get up out of bed but i didn't want to die cause i had my son to think of but how can i make her see that dying won't help her in the way she thinks it will?
2006-06-22 01:25:21 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I am afraid she will hurt herself. I don't know what to do. We are very close (we are only 17 months apart) so we have always been close.
I want to help her but she won't let me in
2006-06-22 01:27:20 · update #1
They gave her an anxiety pill and sleeping pills but she hasn't gone back to the doctor cause we just buried "Alexandria" 2 days ago
2006-06-22 01:30:00 · update #2
God bless you! You're family has been through more than its share of tragedies. Just be there for her, and listen to her. Tell her that you need her, and if she were to die it would leave an awful hole in your heart (and probably many more family members). Only time can partially heal something like that. I prayed for your sister the minute I read her tragedy.
2006-06-22 01:34:07 · answer #1 · answered by makingthisup 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
This feeling is normal, really there is not a whole lot you can do, but let it run it's course. Show support, let her know you are there for her & that you love her. dont suffacate her, but be strong. monitor to her. My sister lost her baby to a serious heart defect at 8 months. I really understand what your going thru, but it gonna take some times. We try to find great memories of my little "Hollybird". Although she was still born. I used to tell my sister that God had given her an angel as a practice run to prepare her for motherhood. and "Hollybird" had to record the information and give a great report on how good a mother she was. It might sound stupid to you, but in times like these we look for security blankets, that why we have family. the supporters have to be able to carry the load for those who are not able to do so . Be strong for her, you did well, I'm pretty sure she will do the same.
2006-06-22 02:05:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, That's hard. I was thinking about that the other day - if my son was to die... the first thing I thought was that I would kill myself. Then I had the realization that my wife would miss me to much, and my parents... I couldn't put them all through that. I don't know much but carrying this scenario out --->
Support... be present with her. She should not be alone.
Change... It's a different world now, help her to adjust.
Love... Does she know that there are people that would feel the same way she does if she was to take her own life? You, her husband?
Man this is a tough thing to go through. Wish her, you and all affected the best wishes possible!
2006-06-22 04:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by DJFresh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as you know, it is quite normal to grieve and feel sorrow after this experience. She must be allowed to grief: to feel angry - why this happened to her, to feel empty, to feel hopeless and to feel the lack of meaning in her child's death. It is OK for her to stay with these feelings at least a week or two - maybe more.
The best thing for you to do is to be there for her. Let her cry, and talk it through 1000 times. Let her tell you about what happened. Dont try to convince her that she'll get through this - she wont believe you yet. Later, you can implye that things will be allright.
If you are afraid she will hurt herself, you have to be with her all the time. Watch her. If you are really frightened you have to make sure - all the time - that you are there for her.
2006-06-22 01:34:33 · answer #4 · answered by Tones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My prayers are with your sister. I lost a baby in 2000 he was still born also. There is really nothing that anyone can say or do to make the pain get better. The only thing that anyone can do is be there for her to let her know that things will get better. The pain never goes away but it does get easier with time. Try talking her into going to the doctor and getting in a support group. She will get better it just might take her time. I am so sorry for her loss.
2006-06-22 02:56:33 · answer #5 · answered by lilbit6996 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeh is hard, it was only 5 days ago so she will in time move on, just be there to support her, my mother had a still born birth she was 8 andhalf months and my aunt had a 9month old son that passed away due to sids and i've had a miscarriage aswell so i am also able to see the pain that she is going thro. like i said be there for her, give her time to let her greiv and try and do the things that people did for you when you lost you daughter.give her a little time if it gets too long and u really think she would actully do something to hurt herself then talk to her to see someone
2006-06-22 01:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the father a factor in her life? Does he have any feelings that he can share in this? If so, reach out to him and get him feeling, sharing and working on this too!
I suggest that you continue being a supportive, sharing, loving sister. Try to get her to see that her feelings are not so crazy and that she needs recovery time like you did. If she is at all spiritual, work her beliefs into the logic of your discussions. Ask her what she wanted for her child and find out if she still would want it for another one.
Of course, try to determine if she needs professional help.
Maybe a counselor is called for, maybe some anti-depressant or hormone therapy of some sort.
Is there anything you could ask HER to do for YOU at this time (to help her take her mind off her own situation for a little while)?
Best of luck to everyone involved.
2006-06-22 01:49:36 · answer #7 · answered by brother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not help her but just come out and say all right if you want to kill your self then go and do it some place other then around me. Then tell her god wanted her baby for some special reason and you been through this also but you came out ok. Just show her you do not care if she takes her life and offer her a knife or rope She will see that there is no one babying her any more and be ok
2006-06-22 06:33:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My prayers are with your sister. I am no doctor but i have dealt with death personally, though not the loss of a child. Just be there for her, to listen to her, let her cry on your shoulder. She has to go through the grieving process. It is normal for her to feel like she also wants to die. Ask her dr for lexapro for her depression. It has helped me through the worst time of my life.
2006-06-22 01:37:46 · answer #9 · answered by Janet M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Homeopathy for grief and depression :-
Give her IGNATIA 30C thrice a day to overcome her sense of loss and grief if after one day the symptom still persist please follow up IGNATIA with NATRIUM MUR 30C give IGNATIA half hour before meals and NATRIUM MUR 30C half hour after meals, Keep me posted about her progress she should be fine and getting over her sense of grief and depression and after taking the two remedies I have given above for three days if she is still having suicidal thoughts AURUM MET 200C once a day half hour before bedtime will cure her within a few days completely.
Take Care and God Bless you
P.S
You can find Homeopathic Remedies at most Herbal Shops and Pharmacies and they are quite inexpensive.
Email me if you cant understand anything or have difficulty in finding the remedies .
Take care
2006-06-22 08:02:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋