i have a boyfriend and he cheats on me!!! i love him soooooooooooooooooo much tho....he says he loves me too!!! he has only cheated on me once! we have been dating for 3 years now and for our anerversity he gave me a huge diomond ring with matching necklace and earrings!!! should we end this now over something as little as this!!!
2006-06-22 01:11:22 · 29 answers · asked by Katelyn R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
leave him he isnt worth a broken heart
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2006-06-22 01:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this so little? Is your self-respect worth so little? Can you honestly sit here saying you believe that he loves you when he has pushed you aside to be with another?
This has to bother you more than that.
You know it kind of makes me a little sick to see people go through such things. Staying with someone who has shown unworthy of having a relationship while so many lonely people out there.
I don't know your boyfriend but I know that cheating is wrong and should face punishment not rewarded with chances to change.
I can see that most likely you will stay with him hoping he will not fail again and I can see him doing it again and the more he gets away with it the more he will cheat and I see you a very sad woman saying I wish someone would have told me that this might happen.
I do hope whatever you decide that it all works out for you but personally i think you need to love your self a little more and demand the same in return and settle for no less.
2006-06-22 08:35:36 · answer #2 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As little as this?? Cheating not a big deal to u?? Well I'll put it to u this way, You forgive him and let it go , guess what?? he'll do it again. He will buy you more things to , to make up for his mistake. Very typical. C'mon and he did this to you because he loves you. Gee, i thought if u love someone somthing like that wouldn't happen. U also said he has only cheated on me once. How many chances does a guy get with you to cheat?? Quit making excuses up for him. You don't deserve to be cheated on. He disrespected you. Don't be a pushover. Make yourself your no.1 priority. You can easily fall in love with someone that would never do that to you. Think about it. He knew what he was doing. Take the jewlery and say thanks. You should get something . But remember material things are replacable, what he did to you isn't. **** Luck!!
2006-06-22 08:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. If he loves you he wouldn't have cheated on you.
2. Buying diamonds and fancy things is only trying to buy your love. (Take them anyways. They can be payment for his sins)
3. Go and sit in a quite place and listen to your heart. It will tell you what to do. If you are young, move on. There are bigger and better things out there. One day true love without pain will find you. Don't fool yourself by saying he only cheated on me once. Love is like a crystal glass, once it is shattered it cant be put back together again. When trust has been broken, the black spot it leaves on your heart will never truelly go away. True love has no black spots! FGollow your heart...pure love is out there for you and always has a way of finding it's way home.
2006-06-22 08:20:38 · answer #4 · answered by George 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between cheating once and "he cheats on me". Albeit it's a small difference and he's still wrong for having done it.
If you feel very strongly for him and he hasn't slipped up since then give him another chance. However, if it happens again you have to leave him. It's not good for you to always have to worry about whether he truly cares about you. Also repeatedly cheating means he doesn't respect you and without respect there is no love.
2006-06-22 08:17:00 · answer #5 · answered by jjbeard926 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lose him! i just went through the same thing, but we were together for 5 years and engaged.. it will hurt, and you will think you are all alone, but your friends will help you through it, if he's cheated once, he's thought of it plenty more times than that and he will probably do it again....get all your stuff from him, and don't forget all the little things like your cds, and split up all your pictures.....if he is a truely good man, and you leave him, don't contact him at all.....he will come back and that's when you can decide to either take him back, or laugh at him and slam the door in his face. but be the stronger person and walk away with your head held high... he'll eventually realize how stupid he was for doing that to you, and if he really loves you like he says, he will grovel at your feet. and tell him that you deserve better...that will really get to him.
2006-06-22 08:22:31 · answer #6 · answered by amy s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he admited to 1 time, multiply it by 3. Any man that
admits to cheating is either really close to being caught
by you or he has done it so much that he is overwhelmed
by his concious.
Be smart keep the jewelry and dump his a$$.
Once a cheater always a cheater!
2006-06-22 08:42:23 · answer #7 · answered by desire4reallove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your boyfriend and are really in a serious relationship, then you should be communicating your feelings to him and he to you. If you truly believe that he made and mistake and won't do it again and you love him, then marry him, if you are not sure, then don't as diamond rings are useless unless there is real love to back it up. You have to learn to forgive and forget many, many times in a marriage and realize that he has to forgive and forget your faults too. If you don't think he can, then you already have your answer.
2006-06-22 08:17:17 · answer #8 · answered by Rhonda P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trsut me... it is very hard to digest that your partner cheats on you and you still want to be with him.... because you love him/her a lot... i was more or less in the same condition...
i am a guy... so you may think i am biased.... but trust me.... take my advice.... GIVE HIM A SECOND CHANCE.... he has only cheated you once... may be there is an explanation for this... may be the circumstances led him that way... may be the girl was seductive enough to break him..... come on... there are so many points to think about.....
guys have a tendency to fall for other girls when they are not satisfied at home... still i don't know anythign about your guy... the decision is upto you.... you know him better... no forum can answer this gurl....
2006-06-22 08:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by mitr_hamesha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will always be on your mind will he cheat on you again. You have to decide in your heart if you can forgive and forget and take another chance that he may slip up again. Gifts are nice this is true,but is a diamond worth more then your heart?
2006-06-22 08:20:02 · answer #10 · answered by sweet girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated once he will cheat again, Now what you need to ask yourself is would you cheat on him? And if so what would his reaction be?
Would he be so understanding and forgiving are would he end the relationship.
2006-06-22 09:18:28 · answer #11 · answered by David H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋