my child is 3+ she is ok with me but if any one comes to the house she won't listen to me.?

Question

if we went out we have to buy what ever she ask's.if not she will sit on the road and starts crying.at that time she won't listen to my words.she is very fast how should i control her?

Answer 1

1. Remember you're the parent!!!
Children acting up in front of other people do so because they
have an audience, It's normal- don't worry. Just take the child aside and tell her in firm tones that the behaviour is unacceptable and it will not be tolerated. When the child acts up in stores do the same, you have to be firm, very firm!! Children need to know their boundaries, at first they'll scream etc, but if you persist they will get used to the idea that they can't have everything and they'll be much happier and know how far they can go. But it all depends on you, you rule the house-- not the child. And trust me they will try you all the time, consistency in punishment and praise is the only thing that helps. Wishy-washy parenting makes children that nobody likes and doesn't want in their house for a visit. When the child runs away and I know they're fast, after you catch them, leave the store and don't buy anything, let the child know, if she behaved you maybe would have bought something but bad behaviour gets no rewards. Trust me they understand more than you think. Good Luck

Answer 2

Don't shout and don't argue with or bribe her I tried all these with mine when she was two-three and she was a monster in company or out shopping in the end if she plays up when were at the shops I just completly ignore her no matter how many funny looks I got and believe me I got some. If we were at a resturant or someones house I just immidiatly took her home and if we are at home she has to go to her bedroom and stay there until I say she can come out(don't leave her in too long she'll forget why she's there). My daughter is now a much better behaved child. It's hard work and you have to stick with it and never give in, there were times when I just cried in desperation I felt like it would never end but now we have a much better relationship she knows when she's good we have lots of fun and if she's bold No Treats.

Answer 3

She is trying to test the limits. She probably has figured out that you will not pubish her in front of people, therefore, she acts up in front of people. I learned with my oldest child, that I should not be afraid to punish or even spank my kids in front of people, or they will be horrible in public...I was having an interview for being a childcare provider through the county, and my son was an absolute BRAT! The lady looked at me, and said "do what you need to do, I can see you are holding back because I am here". So, I did what I needed to do, and haven't had any problems with any of my kids in public since. Don't be afraid to discipline your daughter in front of people just because you are worried what other people will think! I know when I see a child acting that way, I think to myself, "I would beat my kids butt if he ever acted that way!!" Be consistant with her so she doesn't get confused, let her know that you will NOT tolerate that kind of behavior.
I hope this helps some...good luck!

Answer 4

You taught your child how to manipulate you by using crying and tantrums. You do need to learn how to set up healthy boundaries for her and yourself.
1. Learn to see bigger picture, aim big.
Your big goal is to raise healthy and smart human being with positive qualities. To do so, you need to set clear and healthy boundaries.
2.Don't be afraid to say "no" to her. I understand you feel uncomfortable when she starts crying on public. But She counts on it!!! She is expecting you to do what she wants.
If she sees that her tricks do not work, she will stop them (after several tryouts).
Example.
You are in the store, she wants new toy. You say "no",
she starts to cry. In calm voice you need to say "Stop crying or we're going home right away"
OF cause first time she will ignore you. C'mon, she did it before and it worked! So, be prepared to leave the store at once.
If she is smart and stubborn, she will try to push your and her limits again (2-3 times again).
3. Children always try to push their limits.

4. Find and Read books of Jim Fay, Supper Nanny about how to deal with kids. You are smarter then your kid (at that age at least). Educate yourself , nobody was born as a perfect parent.

Do not be afraid to ask an advice from professionals .

Answer 5

That is normal for a 3 year old - - especially a 3 year old little girl. I went through the same thing with my daughter (who just turned 4 last week). You just have to be firm and let her know that you are the parent. Good Luck!

Answer 6

You need to set rules, and be consistent with them. You DON'T have to buy what ever she asks for, you should be in control. If she throws a tantrum, take her out of the store and go home. If you keep rewarding tantrums with toys or whatever, she'll keep throwing them. It sounds like you may be sending her mixed messages. Reward only the behavior you want to see.

Answer 7

If you're giving in to her now, that's what the future will be like.
Tell her before going to the store that you will not be buying whatever she asks for. And that if she starts fussing, she will be going home, or in the car for a time out. Follow through. You're in charge, right? This will help her control herself.

Answer 8

You have yet to learn for yourself that:

A: no child ever died from crying. Let her cry.

B: It's okay to say no and mean it.

C: Saying no to buying things isn't bad parenting, it's good parenting.

Answer 9

what you think that she is ok with you is not correct - she has noticed your weekness and is exploiting the same - as you know children are very wise - try to be a friend with her - she will improve - talk to her as a friend

Answer 10

child's are just like that they try to have there resemblance so dint worry that its a common child hood