how far as a father do i go to protect my child from bullying? shall i assault the bullys father? eye 4 an eye

Question

my daughter gets bullied at school by a boy, the school have failed to stop it, i want to put bully boys father in hospital to see how they like being assaulted. or am i lowering myself to there level?

Answer 1

I know this probably isn't the "right" way to do it, but teach your daughter to punch him right square in the nose. You didn't mention how old the are, but I guarantee if she fights back the school will take notice then. When they call you to tell you what she did, tell them, "maybe when I came to you about this boy and told you he was bullying my daughter, you should have done something about it!!" Putting his father in the hospital will only get you arrested, and paying fines etc. Who wants to deal with that!
Also make it very clear to her, tha she is ONLY to do something like tha to defend herself, not just to do it! That is what worked for me...when my son was in 1st grade, a 6th grade child was bullying him. He handled it on his own, and the kid never bothered him again! He knows if he ever starts a fight, he will be in serious trouble when he gets home!

Answer 2

I wouldn't necessarily agree with other answerers that going round and talking to the bully's father is a good idea.

There are some bully kids where we live and their fathers are just as bad as they are.Trying to talk to these sort of people is pointless - they'll just laugh in your face!

As your daughter is being bullied at school then you should continue to pursue this through the school until they do take notice and action. They can exclude the boy or at least call in his parents to the school and have a meeting where they will explain what's going on so you don't have to. Also consider pursuing it via the police as an assault charge depending on how physical the bullying is. Some friends of ours did this and the bully ended up in court and was convicted of assault.

Beating up the bully's father is tempting but counter-productive. The results would probably be -

1. You in court
2. The bully's father and some of his mates beat the cr@p out of you down a dark alley one night and you end up in hospital. When the police question them they all say they were in the pub at the time and the rest of their mates lie and corroborate it.
3. Later they come round and put a brick through your window.
4. They repeat step 3 frequently until you move house.

It's just not worth starting a war you can't win, and that's what you'll probably get - a war.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Indeed you are, putting yourself down at their level. I would also presume that the parents of the boy does not know any thing about their "bullied child". I am just wondering why the school teacher is not able to do anything about it. In our country (Singapore), if a child gets bullied, a complaint will be raised to the form teacher of the class and if the class teacher did not do anything about the big bullies, the principal will be informed. Doing this will get the teacher into big trouble as she will be investigated by the school.
Try also speaking to the parents of this big bulled, if his father behave the same way as the child, then the conclusion is this child bringing up is wrong. Every single child is innocent, they do what their parents do, in another words, they cannot differentiate between the rights and the wrongs.
Or maybe, you should speak to the boy whom bully your child as all children are afraid of adults. Tell this big bully, you know he has been bullying your daughter, warned him not to do it again, if not, you will report this not only to the principal, the teacher and even his parents. Ask him over and over again, does he understand what you are saying. Last but not least, make him promise not to bully your daughter again and tell him to stay 50m away from your "cutie pie" (your daughter)

Answer 5

Put your concerns in writing and have a meeting with your daughter's teacher and the principal.Most schools have a policy in place regarding zero tolerance for bullying.The parents of the bully should also be contacted. Their son's actions are not acceptable. Do not physically attack the other father. It will not stop the bullying and may result in assault charges for you.Make sure you let the school know you expect them to provide a safe and positive environment for your daughter while she is on school property.

Answer 6

Don't get angry - get even!
Legally you may not assault either the boy or the parent and it is not wise to do so because the parent will probably get you fined or imprisoned. The best course of action is to pester the school. Its governors have a duty of care towards your daughter and you have a right to that care. If you can't visit the school every day and be a nuisance until they take action, at least get on the phone and complain daily until they act.
Secondly, consult your local citizens advice bureau. It is staffed by lawyers and is free. They should give you a range of legal options open to you, such as solicitors' letters to the school and to the offending boy's family. If you become a nuisance to the parents, at the very worst, you might get the boy's father to attack you so make sure you pester them in front of witnesses and then get him fined or imprisoned for GBH.

Answer 7

The school has a responsibility to protect the welfare of every child in their charge. legally!
Violence to prevent violence is not an acceptable means of resolving the issue either. Perhaps you should try and discuss the issue amicably with the anatagonists parents. If the parents and the school refuse to at least try and prevent the bullying, then it is a matter for the police. Assault is assault at any age above reason (7 years and older)

Answer 8

If in the uk contact www.kravmaga.co.uk top martial arts which covers ground fighting, strangles, knives, anti car jacking from early on.

Suggest she grabs his hair and slams his head into a desk till he stops moving... Worked for my sister.


Or stabs him in the nuts with a metal pen.

If in front of the head to say 'if you didnt want him in hospital you should have stopped him hurting me.'

Chilli powder blown in his eye to even the odds.

Use an extinguiser (CO2 to blind him (freezes eyes)) then break his legs and hands with the big heavy object.

How old is the daughter?


You could try this one... would need help. And a van.

Have the kid grabbed off the street. Hood over head in the back of a van with nobody around. And put a metal tube to his head.

Que itallian (mafia) irish republican army accents, poss CIA (dep on acting skills) and make the kid think he is going to die due to him harrasing someone with friends in hig places , move the tube to his nuts (with someone saying don't kill him just make him a girl' or something like that... get the kid to wet his pants he is so scared and beg you not to kill him... terrifed that he is being watched then dump him someware...


Thinking that daughters mafia or terrorist friends are watching him and will kill him if he tries it on her or anyone else. (if near a desert take him there and make him dig a grave...Get the general idea?

Handle him roughly but no real harm

No real harm to the kid only his boxershorts needing a clean and a taste of his own medicine.

And you can say exactly that if you get cuaght. He ewas a bully and you were scareing him especailly if no gun or it was emplt and for blanks

Answer 9

Unfortunately, as tempting as this idea may sound, all that you will be doing is teaching your daughter that the only solution to problems is using violence.
Don't stoop yourself to their level.
There should be a board that you can report the school to for not acting on reports of bullying.
It is a hard one though, because usually the concequences of your actions will just make things worse for your daughter...and you going to prison for assult is not going to help her either.
You shouldn't have to need to resort to this, but have you considered changing your daughters school ? She is the one suffering, and although running away from problems isnt a solution, at least as a parent, you can be happy in the knowledge that your daughter is getting the best education, the safest surrounding and the best social skills that she can.
Good luck.

Answer 10

Hard one mate. I have a little girl and can imagine how you feel. Lots of things to consider. What sort of area do you live in? Is violence the norm there? Have you spoken to the Dad? Are you sure it's true (just being realistic).

Speak to the Dad and explain you will not tolerate this any more.

Then do what you must.
BUT be clever. It is Not worth going to jail and getting letters about her being bullied or worse.

Communicate first. Hope this helps.

Answer 11

I answerd a question like this last week! The same thing happend to my daughter,the schools anti bullying policy is a joke! it protects the bully not the victim.The girls parents couldnot even drag themselfs from the pub for meetings at the school with the head,in the mean time my daughter missing her education!my husband went to the girls house and spoke in the way they understood! The stupid father shouts the girl in and says "of all the people to pick on you pick his, you know he is a doorman" can you belive that!! People like this should not be alowed to bread! Anyway he shi* his pants and my Daughter goes to school safely now!