is it true that parents are hard to please?

Question

parent and child relationships

-Place yours shoes as a child of an Asian nationality.

Answer 1

All kids think this, but as you grow older, someday you will realize that their discipline and strictness with you is really for your own good, and you will soon be doing the same thing with your kids.

Answer 2

What kind of Asian.. that's a huge spectrum! And I hate making generalizations, but the Japanese culture is far different than that of Korean, Vietnms or Filipino, etc. And even the time period.. what generation.. today's generation is much different than that even of 5-10 years ago - things are changing rapidly.

In general though., .. this is a TOTAL generalization!!! -- but at around ages 10-13, children WANT to please their parents.. then around 14-18 they could care less about pleasing them. Then at 18-young adulthood, they start respecting their parents more and realizing things.

As far as the parents go though.. man.. it TOTALLY depends on the parent or parents. My parents.. hell yeah., most difficult to please. My wife.. her mother was easy to please, but her father I would probably suspect was difficult to please.. many expectations.

That's really what it all boils down to.. having the expectations out on an open table.. and making sure they're communicated and followed through on. Some have more strict or difficult expectations.. Those parents are probably difficult to please. And then of course there's the parent that no matter what you do, it's always wrong and you can never please them. I've seen where twins.. one is always perfect and the other can never please the parent. In most cases, it's the parent with the problem though., not the child.

Answer 3

Some are harder than others. It depends on the parents expectations of themselves and their children. I guess most (apart from abusive or abused parents) want their kids to grow up strong, independent, carefree, loving, healthy and to be able to have a career that they would enjoy.

Part of being a child is the learning curve and the hormones. Parents often see it as a failure in themselves to teach/guide, if kids do things that are negative to their state of being. Also...some parents are genuinely pleased and proud of their kids but just dont know how to communicate that...especially if the child also does stupid things too.

Seriously think about it...if you carried a baby for 9 months, loved/kissed, told them stories, cherished them, fed/cleaned, eased their pain/fears and THEN that lovely child hits its teens and starts swearing, smoking, back talking, doing drugs, comes home drunk, tells you they hate you, come home late so you fear for their life...etc...and why? because of peer pressure, lack of respect or hormones. If you had children would you be hard to please...or would you just want happiness and peace?

To become an adult, most need to cut the apron strings and how does one do that? Usually by causing a rift. It only lasts until the hormones balance out or child leaves home but heck it hurts for a while. Some children are nicer/sensible/reliable than others...just as some parents are more caring/stable/wiser than others.

Answer 4

Don't know too much about Asian rule, but I do know they are more disciplined. I think however, if they have high standards for you then they might be a little harder to please.

We as parents all hope our children turn out to be good, decent, loving adults. Some parents might expect more from their child then someone else. I think all parents want is respect and love. If that is given, then NO they aren't hard to please.

Answer 5

There is a saying " You can please some of the people some of the time, you can't please all the people all of the time"
I think this holds true to any relationship, especially parent/child relationships.
Parents raise there children, and when the child grows up and becomes an adult, I had to decide wither or not I was living to please my parents or living for myself.They may not agree what I do, or how I do things, but all they want for me is to be happy.
The rules of a parent/child relationship changes threw out your life. sometimes its great and sometimes it sucks, just remember we are all human and all of us make mistakes.....

Answer 6

I Black. I can't put myself in an Asian's shoes, but I've been to Singapore, Republic of the Philippines, Hong Kong, Korea and Japan. Based on what I've seen in those countries ( I'm assuming you're in the US now.) your parents know that you have a very big opportunity to go far in this country and they want you to do well. They are probably coaching you like my old football coach coached me, wanting you to excel because they see excellence in you. They, based on their age alone, have a lot of knowledge that they are trying to pass on to you. They don't want to see you make mistakes that could jeopardize you doing the very best you can do. That's a part of love man. They want the best for you and they know that you can achieve it. For them to do any less would hurt you. You may think of them as old fashioned and out of touch with the times but believe me, nothing has really changed in this world except the dates. Your parents have faced tough times and got through them which qualifies them to give you advice on a good path to keep you out of misery. Give your parents a chance. After they tell you something to do, take a minute to think about what they are trying to teach you and what good it would do in your future. You'll be alright man. With parents like yours, you'll do alright.

Answer 7

Okay, if I am in the shoes of an Asian girl. My parents would be after me constantly to practice my violin!!! I would not be allowed to hang out with the redneck American kids I go to school with.

Answer 8

100% yes as a child you a wanting recognition wanting to make them proud then as an adult they live vicariously through so seems you do nothing right to be 13 instead of 32 or is that the other way around

Answer 9

NO! i don't believe so. all kids think so because they do not see things from the same perspective as their parents. I used to think so myself when i was much younger but as i grew up as started having my own kids, i realise that parents see things in a different way from the kids. they only want what they think is best for the kids because they know kids are still very young and cant think in a way that will affect their future positively. basically parents help the kids to make the right decisions in life.
i don't think any parent is difficult to please as all parents only want what is bets for their kids: to be the best in life.

my father never wanted me to have a male friends so he achieved that by not allowing me go out without his consent, will smack me whenever i come home past 6.30pm, will not allow any male visitors in the house to see me till i graduated from university. the i felt he was mean and difficult to please but now i know better.

Answer 10

Yes