.....wasn't ready to have an emotional relationship with you 'ever', she only wants to be friends with you, would you still be friends with her even though you still love very much?
2006-06-21 23:37:01 · 13 answers · asked by lacoste 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, i 've gone thru a similar situation and better understand u. I came to a conclusion that she is just satisfying her egoistic nature .She might b taking u as an ego bloomer and is taking advantage of ur vulnerability.She will b very happy indeed to see the same old pain in ur eyes and would take all of it in her stride . You have already suffered so much .Plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz dont let her do that once again. come out of ur shell and live ur own life withou anyone directing u ur availability.
2006-06-21 23:58:25 · answer #1 · answered by dolly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship IS an "emotional" relationship; it is simply not a hormonal "love" relationship. In fact, friendship can be just as deep a commitment as a love affair - if not more. So what I am saying is that perhaps neither of you has a good handle on the concept of emotion. However, in answer to your question, this is all up to you. It's pretty clear what SHE gains: she doesn't have feel like she hurt anybody's feelings (yours - even though you will be hurt); she gets to keep a source of emotional sustanance (ah, that would be you again); and she moves on. You, on the other hand, are left with what ? Unrequited love (ouch) and longing plus the reminder, each time you see her and each time she calls upon your "friendship" that she doesn't love you and you love her. This does not sound like a win-win to me..... It is, of course, up to you - but the usual wisdom is that staying nearby the one you love (who doesn't love you) is a pretty painful place to reside and it oftentimes means you are staying there in hopes that she will eventually "change her mind" and love you. (Double ouch.) It gonna be all about your own fortitude and what you want in your life. If being 'friends' with her would hold you back from healing and moving on to someone else, then it's a baaaad idea. (Would you long for her ? Would you compare every new woman in your life to her ? These are not good things.) Might be just the time to say that while you care for her and respect her desire to remain friends, it is just to raw right now for you to do that - and move on to a brigter tomorrow.
2006-06-21 23:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude get rid of her, even if you love her and she wants to be friends for whatever lame reason, you guys will still betogether and have a good time which will cause memories and thinking of the past, and your feelings will grow more towards her, and she will leave you in the dust again while she is banging someother guy,
take 2 of these daily with a glass of water and call me in the morning.
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2006-06-21 23:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by lizardstaph 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good to remain friends after a relationship because (a) you may have another chance to date and (b) it will make the other ladies see that your a really nice guy.
2006-06-21 23:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. When something is over, it's over. Let her go. Seems to me she doesn't love you but neither does she want to let you go. Not a good basis for any relationship. She's just keeping you hanging on.
2006-06-21 23:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your comfortable being around her and just being friends then yes but make sure that you can handle being just friends cuz it might be too akward. and also give it time and space because otherwise you might try to get something out of the relationship that she doesn't want to give
2006-06-21 23:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by barbiedoll17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
She is either ready for everything or ready for nothing.
This "I just wants to be friends" crap is BS.
2006-06-21 23:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by Hockey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.I will not accept anyone who dumped me as my friend.
2006-06-21 23:47:29 · answer #8 · answered by J.SWAMY I ఇ జ స్వామి 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont burn your birdges, maybe she likes you as much as you like her, but she just isnt ready and if she means that much to you, it wont be that and you might still get laid every now and then...
2006-06-22 00:23:45 · answer #9 · answered by Jessie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can yo be her friend without being tortured inside? if you can, try.... time will tell the outcome.. if you are not ready yet, tell her about your feeling..
2006-06-21 23:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by hsmnt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋