The other day we were supposed to go out, i got dressed and waited for him but he never arrived, he has done this plenty of times now. When we go out with his friends he makes fun of me and he dosen't talk to me, he embarasses me in front of them doing things like grabbing my a$$ or my other private parts, he does this a lot in public or when we are with his friends.
When we go out with other girls he is rude to me but very kind to them. He is always nervous and aggressive and iven thou he knows i don't like oral sex sometimes he pushes my head against him without me wanting to till he finishes. He dosen't iven say please when he asks me things he gives orders and he only talks to me about sex in rude ways. I love him and i know he loves me but i don't like his attitude sometimes. I know is normal having problems in a relation so any suggestions?
2006-06-21 22:56:55 · 47 answers · asked by Lassy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No girl, you need to get a real dog.
2006-06-23 02:49:03 · answer #1 · answered by Mattia 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he doesn't have much respect for you. You should start having respect for yourself more, say no to him.
All I can sya is if my boyfriend acted like this he would be the first to hear about it. Stand your ground and don't give in, remember, you aren't in the wrong. Some men are womanising pigs. Have more respect for yourself and he'll do the same. Be more independent as a person.
Also, if your boyfriend is having none of it and thinks you're unreasonable when you approach him. He is in the wrong and he isn't worth being with. I can guarantee if you walk away he'll come running back.
Just have respect for yourself. It's easy to think there is no one else out there but there is. There are plenty of other people that will give you respect, care for you, and give you the attention you deserve.
Relationships all have their problems, and that's not the hard bit. The hard bit is working through them (and that is where a relationship is tested).
It's easy for others to tell you to tell him to 'piss off'. It's also hard for them to understand you're obviously attached to the person you care for / love. If he's worth it, stick in there, everone isn't perfect. Just rememebr to tell him how you feel. Obviously, if he takes it the wrong way, it's another hurdle you have to get over. One step at a time though.
Keep your chin up, have respect for yourself =)
2006-06-21 23:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by iBac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wheres Ur dignity?? and also Ur self respect. Don't let know-one treat u like this. i know what others have said above, along with my-self can hurt ur feelings. but if you look at it from the outside, ur really are truly just used and ABUSED. Show him the door... and keep that door closed. with so many fellas out there, its true the worst seem the best. but then again you can only take so much..... im saying these things cause they actually happened to me a couple of years back.... hes history. and i have found someone, who respects ME.. i do hope u come round to the right decision soon. GOOD LUCK..
2006-06-22 01:18:50 · answer #3 · answered by Heavens-@ngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he's ashame to be around you. He's got an attitude problem. I don't know why you love him still. I don't even think he loves you in a lovey dovey way. He's a control freak. You're only his pleasure giver or teaser. He's rude to you, which eventually this causes more trouble, and sooner or later it's not going to work - period. I'd say... you can find someone else that has a much better respect to you.
2006-06-21 23:05:01 · answer #4 · answered by appletech089 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be important to look at what you are truly getting out of this relationship. I think it is one that is spiraling quickly towards abuse. Grabbing your private parts in public without your consent is not only unacceptable behavior for a grown man, but also borderline sexual abuse. His aggression during sex worries me and it should worry you, because it can lead to him forcing other sexual acts on you. This is evident by his aggressive behavior and lack of respect for your boundaries. Is this something that someone who loves you would do? Yes it is normal to have problems within a relationship, but his behavior is not normal and you do deserve better. It is normal to have mutual respect and trust that someone is looking out for you, listening to you, and giving you the support and love you need. It is out there :)
2006-06-21 23:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by Falayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetheart, it doens't even seem like he is interested in you. It seems like he is only using you for sex and whatnot. You should really let loose of this guy, he's not worth your time at all. Why are you still with someone who pushes you around and makes fun of you and whatnot? A real boyfriend would never do that, and it seems like this boy has no respect for you at all. This is not normal at all, my boyfriend loves me, and I love him, and we have never fought or had any kind of dissagreements because we really are in love. But the attitude that your boyfriend has...it's nothing like how a real boyfriend should be acting as.
2006-06-21 23:07:06 · answer #6 · answered by MedStudent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your guy has a serious complex problem. I am sure you must be very good looking and he is proud to flaunt you. You must be superiour to him in many other ways also. The way he behaves with you shows that he is suffering from inferiority complex and needs to constantly prove to himself and others of the extent of the influence he exercises on you. You exist in his life only to flatter his ego and this purpose is acheived considerably everytime he hurts and insults you. Beware of him. If you really love him ask him to go for counselling. Else this guy will do you no good.
2006-06-21 23:15:43 · answer #7 · answered by pakir poyum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a woman but I would dump his sorry butt and find some one else who will treat you with respect and not force you to do things you don't want to do or embarrass you or make you feel uncomfortable. if he does these things then he does not really love you and he is not a real man just a stupid boy who needs to grow up but don't feel you have to help him that's something he has to do on his own.
2006-06-21 23:03:56 · answer #8 · answered by graywolph82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is so NOT normal. if he truly loved you he would not treat you that way. he should treat you with respect all the time, not just sometimes. it doesnt matter if your around his friends or not. he doesnt sound very loving either. i personally would not put up with that, i would dump his no good *ss and move on with my life. find someone who will love and respect you no matter where you are or what you do. im sure you know you deserve better.
2006-06-22 03:48:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to me very very carefully... this boyfriend of urs is a creap... u should never ever forgive a guy for treating u like this so if i were u i'd dump his sorry *** like a year old bag of banana peals...u deserve much better and if he treats other girls nicely but treats u like crap try thinking about his other time (the time he doesn't spend with u) my openion is that he has about three other girls.... as for the sex part.... i hate oral sex... but guess what none of my bfs ever forced me to give 'em a bj... so think about that... and try asking ur friends is their bf ever forced them to do something they don't like.
2006-06-21 23:25:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a selfish, inconsiderate and immature *** to me, but as for the finishing of the oral sex, it is every woman's responsibility to find out how their "loved" ones like it and deliver.
2006-06-21 23:00:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋