Bed Wetters?

Question

When can you say a child is just being lazy?

This is my dp's daughter and she is 9. She will wet herself and tell you she's not wet. It's really bothering me because her mom and dad are too nonchalant about it. It's like they don't care. She will walk around wet because she knows her dad won't say anything. I hate the smell and I don't think it's fair that neither of them will do anything about it. I have suggested he buy her those overnight pants they advertise but he's so concerned about what people will think. Who cares what they think? My daughters are tired of going swimming when they don't have to.

Answer 1

I don't think that's the reason children are bed wetters. Who wants to wake up wet and smelling of urine... and cold as soon as the covers are lifted?

Some important points to remember:
Your child cannot help wetting the bed.
Your child is not wetting the bed out of spite, or to attract attention, or by being too lazy to get out of bed.
Try not to get irritated, and don’t criticize your child for bed-wetting. Punishing a child for bed-wetting certainly won’t help, and may make it worse.
You and your child may feel depressed about the bed-wetting, and may feel it will never stop. Keep reminding yourself that most children grow out of it - think of it as a temporary problem.

Bed-wetting seems to run in families - the likelihood of a child wetting the bed is 40% if one parent suffered, and 70% if both parents suffered. So there is often a genetic element.
One of the most common reasons for bed-wetting is the bladder muscle contracting and emptying the bladder when it is only half full of urine. This is because the child is just being slightly slow in developing the necessary nerve and muscle control - there is nothing wrong.

Answer 2

Don't worry, i don't like to talk about it but i was bed-wetting well into my 14th year of age. Then again it turns out i had a bladder problem with growth and all, as well as a load of stress, but thats that. Just make sure the kid changes the sheets and try and encourage them to do the laundry, and soon enough, you'll see they're doing it a lot less, because they're subconsciously getting used to not wetting the bed, and just like me, it'll be a thing of the past. I woudn't say it was lazyness, i would always have a hard time falling asleep, i would fidgit into different positions and try and fall asleep sometimes it would take a few hours, then i would wake up cold and wet, and i would feel bad at first, but then i would do stuff to try and fix it, like not drinking before bed, stuff like that nothing worked so i just mentally tried to not let it happen, eventually i was overjoyed when the "plague" was lifted, all of life's lessons come in time,

Be safe, and try and work with the child as best you can.

Answer 3

You can say a child is just being lazy when they refuse to do school work. Bed wetting is *not* lazy!! A child who wets the bed is just as annoyed and even more embarrassed than you are. Especially if she isn't yours (what's a "dp"?), leave it to the parents, even if you don't agree with the way they're handling it. (And they may be refusing to make a big deal out of it because they don't want to add to the girl's embarrassment!)

Some things that *don't* usually work include withholding drinks late at night and waking for bathroom visits. Even if you don't eat or drink anything for 24 hours, you will still need to pee! Some children will do better if you bring them to the bathroom at night, but more often, it will teach the child to pee in her sleep!! The exact opposite of what you want!!

Answer 4

My best friend growing up was a big time bed wetter. Every night. They got this waterproof sheet that goes on the bed with an alarm attached. When it gets wet, it goes off very loud to wake up the kid. Over time, it teaches them to recognize those "feelings" in their sleep and stop it before an accident happens.

She was the hardest working, smartest kid around. Would get next school year's textbooks the summer before and bone up on the curriculum. She was Valedictorian.

She's now a Pediatrician.

I remember a couple times when I was little...I was going through a "scared" stage and convinced someone was in the house. I wouldn't leave the bed and wet myself.

My Mother was a bed-wetter until 11. She wasn't lazy or anything at all. Highly intelligent and motivated.

Answer 5

Most kids aren't that lazy. Consistent bedwetting, when there's no medical cause, can be a result of post-traumatic stress, abuse, or attachment disorder. With attachment disorder, by the way, ignoring the problem is the best way to make it stop, though that can take time. It can be caused by a botched circumcision, but given that it's a girl, that's probably not the case. It can also be that it just happens.

I have two 19-year-old sons, both of whom tend to wet the bed. When they were young, they lived with other families, but we're told that they would hide it or lie about it. They've tried the overnight pants with some success, and without it being a social or emotional nightmare. With both, the problem seemed to be linked to early sexual abuse, and it has eased greatly as we have tackled that issue. So if it's an emotional problem, it can be solved, but you need to figure out what's causing it.

Answer 6

I dont think they are just being lazy, it's part of being a child although it depends on the childs age. If he is already old (9 and above) there must be something wrong. Maybe he is tired from playing that's why he bed wets, or sometime he has problems that he can't tell anyone. Try to make him pee before going to bed and less liquid before bed time.

Answer 7

I have a son that does this he is 9 and my other son wet the bed until11. Promise them a toy as a reward for having a dry bed for a week and you will then see if they are being lazy. I used to wet the bed when I was little and it wasn't laziness I would dream i was going to the toilet but woke up in a wet bed instead

Answer 8

Bed wetting is due to the body not producing the chemical to reduce the urine at night. When the time is right it will happen. There are methods like the mat and bell system that work wonderfully in helping train the child

Answer 9

bed wetting can be many things that cause it ,,like attention or stress ,a change in family life , heriditary,(how ever you spell that), a medical problem , and the worst a sexual abuse . they first should take her to the dr to make sure there is nothing wrong then look at other factors.. my middle son did this at age 5 i first took him to the dr and nothing was wrong so we talked to him and praised him when he did not wet the bed and ignored him when he did because even if you are fussing with them about peeing in the bed its still attention and they are wanting it so we gave him alot of attention when he did not do it instead of when he did .. plus if he stayed dry he got to play games and stuff . it only took about 2 weeks and he never has done it again

Answer 10

My daughter is ten, she wetst the bed. the doctor gave her some medicine to prevent her from doing this. Also the child could have a small bladder the doctors can test of the kids bladder is healthy are not.