How to graduate from therapy when I disagree with my therapist on positive thinking?

Question

I've been in therapy for about the past 6 months. I didn't have a job when I graduated college and not having a job and not being able to find one made me feel depressed and anxious. So I went to a therapist. Now, I'm working at a good job and will soon start a great promotion that will take me to the state capital.

Now, I don't feel depressed or anxious and I want to graduate from therapy. But here is the problem: My therapist believes in "positive thinking," and I don't. Maybe that makes me a pessimist. If so, oh well. But I don't believe in thinking "things will work out," because in many cases and for many people they don't. I think that right now things look likely to work out for me personally. But I think blindly believing that things will work out is what leads people to speed, use drugs, and engage in generally risky behavior ... that I think is the true insanity. Should I just lie to her and tell her I believe? I'm kind of frustrated.

Answer 1

why do you have to "graduate" are you earning a diploma? Getting a degree in being therapied? say Thanks for seeing me through my rough time- catch ya when I need ya! Bye!
No long goodbye no graduating necessary! Just stop seeing her. I have been to therapists and psychologists and psychiatrists.. I haven't graduated from any of them... but when the need is over so is the paycheck! I stopped when I didn't need them anymore... if you are done be DONE take control!

Answer 2

I don't think you should lie, but just think... you now have a job, but what if all of the sudden you lost it imagine that... you being pessimistic might say " well that was bound to happen or it can only get worse from here", If you go to work everday and think and act like you are going to lose the job you will, because people can sense things in others, just like you can tell a really happy person when the walk in the room, and just like you can tell a person that looks happy but really isn't, it's a sense. if you out put negativity people will feel it. Think about why you are negative. I don't think anyone is pessimistic, everyone wants to be happy even our bodies try to reach homeostasis (well being) all the time! constantly making positive moves to try and reach it, filtering out all the bad stuff and taking in the good stuff that keeps it alive. negative people usually have something they are afraid of, like change, like when you were a kid and you had to go to a different school away from your friends or move to a new neighborhood, you didn't want that change so you became negative to the idea of change, because you were Comfortable. Give this thought a chance, and maybe you will find the reason as to why you don't want to be positive. you could end the therapy, unless you don't want to???

Answer 3

Congratulations on the new job and the promotion! :) Re therapy, I would NOT lie to your therapist; it really doesn't help anyone. You can just let her know that you're frustrated with the way the therapy sessions are going. She will talk to you about that and hear where you're coming from. If you decide that you don't want to go anymore, just tell her! She'll ask why and go through the "termination" process with you. If you decide that you want to continue to see a therapist, but not her, see if she can refer you to someone.

This should definitely NOT hurt her feelings or anything. I'm in mental health and I definitely believe it is VERY important for the client to feel comfortable with his/her therapist. And we also understand that our style or whatever may not be for everyone. (For example, some clients may specifically want a man or a woman therapist for whatever reason, or a specific race, or sexual orientation, or specific therapy method (e.g., psychodynamic, interpersonal, cognitive-behavioral, etc.))

Therapy is not meant to be a life-long thing. Many times, it's very short-term. And you can always stop and start whenever you want. So you can decide that you don't want to go anymore, but who knows? Maybe a month from now, you decide that you may want to see someone again. It's really up to you and what you feel would be best for you. And again, make sure you find someone you're comfortable with and you feel as though you can trust. It's really important.

Congratulations again on your new job and promotion! Good luck with everything.

Answer 4

do i understan i well ? are u finally getting the idea that scientology/dianetics sucks? u were so curious about it in the past. it is great that you attained some critical thinking. there were many who didnt so u have my great respect. pls do urself the favour and quit the terapy, it is only meant so that it helps you somehow just in order to lure u to buy more and more courses and make it more and more difficult to quit from it, my friend is already spending about third of the family income on this auditing that is getting longer and longer... dont be frustrated dont blame yourself, don let them tell you that you are incapable and unable to continue. that is why you call it graduate from therapy - if u decide you dont want it, it is twisted into somethik like you flunked the therapy as if it was a school course and u a bad student. this is just their manipulative ways, telling you all the time that if u stay with them, you are so good so improving, and if u leave, so bad, so worthless and weak - when u tell your therapist you are quitting u will hear quite a bit of it !! like sugar and cane

i understand that dianetics sounded good to u, but indeed it is just meant to be attractant, something that helps u and therefore you wouldnt question other things that come from the same source.

pls visit xxx.xenu.net to find out what concepts will be given u to bellieve in if u continued the therapy - read about the thetans, what they are, the extraterrestrial stuff, the fact is that Hbbard simply thought it up purposely. some terapists themselves are abused that if they do nt have enough patients too bad for their spiritual development. just subject to brainwash

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Positive thinking is not *really* how anyone thinks. I won't agree. That kind of therapy is just dumbing down of emotional thinking to try and get you to see the negative effects of your own thought process. You don't actually have to believe everything will work out for everyone, but your therapist is trying to tell you to stop thinking "I'm such a retard and things will never work out for me" because it makes you feel bad. Or at least that's my guess.

Really if you don't like your therapist just stop going. Unless it's court ordered you don't have to continue any kind of psychological treatment against your will.

Answer 7

Unless you are in some kind of supervised program, which it doesn't sound like you are, you don't have to "graduate" from therapy. You can just choose not to go. It won't do any good to lie to her. Just cancel your future appointments and move on with your new job and life! :-)

Answer 8

Just don't go back anymore. No one is making you go to therapy are they? You sound like you have it all together. Good luck with the promotion,
Take care.

Answer 9

hullo
you have to be on good terms with your therapist,otherwise the whole process might be futile in the end.
try to work things out with him ,otherwise you have to quit treatment.

D.r solo

Answer 10

Is she your therapist or what?Of course you shouldn't lie to her or yourself!!!If you're o.k. now,just say it!