How do I tell my very judgemental family???????? Help!!!!!!!
2006-06-21 19:20:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Well there is no easy way to do that I guess, but being honest doesn't hurt. Most important of all is not to worry or obsess about this, as you will need all your strength for the coming months. How you got pregnant isn't the issue anymore, despite some of the rather judgemental statements you will probably get from some from very cold and unfeeling people that will answer this (shame on you for being so mean spirited). Do you have support and friends you can talk to? I hope your new baby will be healthy and happy and you too, as it is a truly blessed event.
2006-06-21 19:28:30 · answer #1 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a very touchy subject. I've been there. All that I can say is this; everyone wants to comment on it but no one can live your life and learn its lesson but you. Don't let anxiety at someone else's opinion control you. You must decide what is more important to you; somebody's judgment or that precious little life inside you that's going to one day look into your eyes and say "Mommy" without even speaking a word. With the two year old, you already know how good that feels...I have a six year old and to keep the long short, I got pregnant with her in college after being the only one to go to college in my immediate family. Imagine the stress...LOL. I wouldn't trade her for the world.
Don't worry about who's gonna get angry or "disappointed". The only judgment that matters here is yours. So just be straight out. Who knows, you might even get love and sympathy. The baby deserves recognition and not to be treated as a "bad secret". Don't let "them" make you ashamed of something beautiful. Go for it and good luck!
2006-06-22 02:36:19 · answer #2 · answered by Shanel H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is very important. Sit down and talk to them and be open and honest. Get their advice and ask your self some questions in the process. Children are a blessing from God. They bring joy and laughter into our lives. Children are like flowers. We as parents are teachers to our children, we are there to teach them everything in life has to offer.
Everyone is judgemental...we all have it...it is our choice to be judgemental or not. Let them be the way they are, but remind your self LIFE IS SHORT, DON'T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF, CONCENTRATE ON THIS NEW BABY AND YOUR 2 AND HALF YEAR OLD. Love them and teach them about life, and let your family be part of the process if they want to.
2006-06-22 02:40:16 · answer #3 · answered by Joey L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the truth, if they love you they will be there for you, I mean it can't be that hard I found out I was pregnant at 15, and i'm turning 16 in 7 days, and i'm four months pregnant, and my family is judgemental, but mistakes happen.
2006-06-22 02:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by Pamela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I'd suggest is that you sit your family down and tell them that you need to talk. If you feel that you need to tell them your sorry then do so. Try to explain your situation in another point of view. Sometimes it makes it seem easier to explain when your not saying "I did this..." Explain to them what happened and what your going to decide.. if your going to keep the baby or not. Let your true feelings show. Try something like "I feel ____ when you ____ to me" ( I learned it in school.. sorry)Don't hold anything back and if the guy that got you pregnant is still in your life, dont forget to tell him and hopefully he stays there to support you.. I wish i could say more.
2006-06-22 02:30:11 · answer #5 · answered by Katie K. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them that what you have planned for the baby. i mean if you only say "im pregnant" that leaves a whole lot of silence and too much time for them to think about what they are gonna throw at you. i would say " i had a pregnancy test come out positive, but until i go to the doctor nothing is for sure" then quickly start talking about baby names that you have picked out and how you need to start looking for baby stuff, but say all of this very excitedly. maybe they will see that you are really looking forward to this and not jump you on the spot. explain what to them?? how babies are made? i think not. just keep rambling about the whole concept and maybe they will just congratulate you and keep their opinions to themselves. and if they do start to criticize, Just say" well i will take your advice into consideration, and thank you for letting me know that you care about my future as much as i do" but you cant get worked up!! when i found out i was pregnant with my 4th, i told my mom, "Guess what i took a pregnancy test today and we've got another bundle of joy coming, i can't wait to find out what it is!!" she didnt know what to say, i think i caught her off guard and i didnt get a lechture . either which way CONGRATULATIONS!!! I hope everything goes great!!!
2006-06-22 02:36:56 · answer #6 · answered by mrsbeisner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them when you feel like you are ready. The sooner the better. You are not a moron. You just made yet another mistake. I am curious as to how old you are. Hopefully you are being responsible with your child. Maybe after the birth of this one you could get your tubes tied. .
2006-06-22 02:29:42 · answer #7 · answered by SassyLeo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to growup and start using common sense when it comes to sex! Look what happened the first time when common sense went out the door.....How about using a comdom. Its not fair to your children....do you want all these different guy to be in and out of your children lives....you know that whats going to happen. If the dad stays in their llives it will be every other weekend and hearing you and the male arguing able money and what weekends and hoildays they have.....ITS JUST NOT FAIR TO THE CHILD. I hope you learn from all this!!!
2006-06-22 09:45:25 · answer #8 · answered by Timothy B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have 3 choices keep it adoption or abortion now you can be honest with your self and family or hide it and give the baby up to a family who desperately wants a child contact the hope center they can help u decide whats is best 4 u
2006-06-22 02:40:30 · answer #9 · answered by drf412415 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish people would be a bit more sensitive to your situation...yes, I agree it's probably not the best of ideas, but everything happens for a reason.
Take the one in your family you trust the most to a public place, that makes it so he/she will be more reluctant not to cause a scene. Then break it to him/her gently and explain the situation.
2006-06-22 02:27:48 · answer #10 · answered by Curtysaurus Rex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋