how do you tell your parents that you've already moved to the next base??

Question

I'm afraied to tell my paents I've moved to the next base?? what do I do? what do I say to them?

Answer 1

Be open and honest it is better to talk with them and for them to know what's going on. Parents may be disappointed YES, but that doesn't mean that they are going to stop loving you. It's like I'm trying to teach my kids, I may not always like everything you tell me, in fact somethings I might even get upset over, but that has NO impact on just how much I LOVE YOU! It's hard to believe but most times when we get upset over something it's because we've been there and done that, we know the mistakes you are making and how painful the pitfalls can be, and we hope to prevent you from making some of the same ones. But you also have to grow and learn and even though we would like to lock you up and never let you out you have to learn to make wise choices and that doesn't happen with out screwing up occasionaly. We also like to think that our little girls are never going to grow up. It's tough for us to see you making grown up choices. Honestly though, parents know more than their kids think, and sometimes it's easier to turn a blind eye. It's killer to think of your kids doing those things, one day you will understand. I have eaten my words of "I'll never be like you when I'm a mom" "I'll be understanding" Yeah right, as a teen you can't fully understand parents because that's God's gift to us. We on the other hand have the experence and knowledge of our youth, and the smarts from learning from our screw-ups. and you can learn alot from sitting down and just talking about this with your parents. It can also bring you closer. Parents like it when their kids do take the time to confide and trust in them. Just tell them that you want to sit down and talk. Decide on a time, make an invitation and give it to them, saying the date and time. Then plan out how you want to tell them. You could always write a poem and stick it in the poem. Or you could write it in your journal and leave it out in a open place for them to read. Of coarse I'm sure they already know where you keep it and could already be informed and are just waiting for you to come out with it. Just remember that know matter how upset they may seem at first, they really do LOVE YOU!!!! I guarantee it.
Anytime you want to talk feel free.........Your parents are not the enemy! Learn to trust in their love for you. In closing I really hope that this isn't my daughters friend Becca, I might just have to whop you myself when you get back. So much for the pleasantries sounded nice though lol...........but really it is true. Just alittle humor there, who knows maybe my daughter put you up to the question. OH that would be really bad!!!!! OK, don't let my thoughts get the better of me. It's tough being a parent, and really we don't get paid nearly enough. Take care and stick with the game of softball and those bases, it's much safer.

Answer 2

The next base?? i will answer this from a dating "1st base, second base scheme" - like you've either made it to third base or slide home...rather than "moved to a military base"

so...
I think it's really a matter of expectation vs maturity.

My sense is that you're young...under 16.
And your parents have this expectation that you won't be ready for "the next base" for some time...

if you feel it's important to talk about your "dating" progress with them, it might be easier to sit them down for a talk about the birds and bees...
ask your dad what the bases are to him...
then ask your mom how old she was when she got to third base...

what you're doing with this is opening a forum where they "give a little" in order for you to "drop the bomb".
It makes it easier for all of you...

If you wait for dinner time and say ..."I made it with Johnny Rottencrotch - please pass the peas" ... I would say you are definately NOT going forward smoothely...

create the forum by asking casual questions that pertain to what you want to say...
if your dad is listening...he'll know what you're trying to say...and he can handle it much better than if you close the statement with "pass more food".

give them time to think and react and they'll stay far more objective than if you suprise them...

stay safe

Answer 3

which base? it depends on how open your parents are. If you are considering telling them I am assuming they are pretty open. In that case I would talk to them one at a time start with the really easy going parent first and ask them to help you tell the other. And if you know your parents are gonna go crazy I wouldnt say nuttin, until I was ready for 3rd base then you need to talk,

Answer 4

How old are you ? Why do your parents need to know how far you have gone? What will their reaction likely be? If you are 17, 18 years old , they really do not need to know. If you are 10, 14 --- they should be paying enough attention to you and talking to you enough to have an idea what is going on , if not know what is going on. You need to figure it out. You know the answer.

Answer 5

first of all i think u have a need to tell them or u wouldn't be thinking about it maybe it would be easier if u went to someone older and told them your situation and they could help u talk to ur parents or go to one and tell that parent and then get the other one involved. choice a good moment in time and make sure u have the time to talk dont just drop it on them,,,dont wait till ur in trouble to tell them that can make the situation worse for all..and if its birth control u need then u really need ur parents help,,,dont just go and get on the pill talk to ur mom and dad...thats why they are ur mom and dad to help u out in life

Answer 6

not to be mean, but if you were mature enough to move to the next base then you have to be ready and mature enough to speak to your parents. I recommend that you do not lie but if they do not ask there is no need for you to offer the information.

Answer 7

you don't have to tell them, you can just wait for them to ask you. Thats being honest. Me and my parents talk about it casually. In fact, they tell me i'm not even half as bad as they were at my age.

Answer 8

yea it depends on what base you're talking about. if its going all the way and if your open enough with ur parents, tell em i guess

Answer 9

DONT! cmon who tells theyre parents that stuff! NOT ME! to weird for mom to know what i have and have not done, and i doubt she really wants to know anyway...unless u wanna tell her/him then by all means just out and tell her/him

Answer 10

Sneak it in while talking about a base ball game.

"Well speaking of people who stole third base..."