I got out of a serious relationship recently and now I feel I am ready for a commitement. I am only 20 yrs. old and I have never been with another guy besides this one. I don't want to be the commitement type yet. There are many things I want to do before taking it too far.
2006-06-21 18:20:04 · 18 answers · asked by funkymonkey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'M 50 BELEAVE ME JUST LIVE ONE DAY AT ATIME YOUR SO YOUNG JUST ENJOY LIFE AND YOUR FREEDOM.
2006-06-21 18:28:37 · answer #1 · answered by david c 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I just got out of a serious relationship that I had been in since high school. I know that it is tough, but we need to take the time to see the world and figure out what is really good for us. If you get back together with that person...than that is the way it should be. Don't look back...there is too much ahead of us to do that! Don't jump back in quite yet unless you feel that is really what you want. Take time to enjoy things for yourself without having a commitment. See life for what it really is by yourself for a while, and hang with the friends that you neglected while you were in your relationship. Good luck...things will be ok!!!
2006-06-22 01:26:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help the way you feel this is normal you had a committed relationship. Once you have a serious relationship it's kinda hard to settle for anything less. My advice is have fun as quickly as possible doing the things you want to do because before you know it you'll find yourself locked down again.
2006-06-22 01:31:29 · answer #3 · answered by askmeguru21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal? Heck, yeah. You are twenty. Twenty. You have lots of great years ahead of you to explore who you are, and who you want to be with a partner. There is no shame in not wanting, or "being ready for" a commitment. There is no rule that says that is necessary. Go after and build the kind of relationships that work for you. It's your life. Just make sure to remember to show respect for the other person's feelings by being honest, and have a wonderful time finding out what you want. Best to you.
2006-06-22 01:29:26 · answer #4 · answered by Cindi A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are at the age, of just finding out, who you really are, these are the fun years. Don't get serious, just go out and party, have a good time.
If you meet someone you like, great, but that's not the point. The point is to have fun, so live a little.
You can get serious, when you get to be my age, 44. Although, I still have fun too. Serious, can be sooo very tiring, so do it for only five minutes a day. That's more than enough time.
2006-06-22 01:26:15 · answer #5 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's perfectly normal. This isn't your parent's generation when they felt 20 years old is prime wedding time. I've only been in "serious" relationships (3 of them) but sometimes I really want to be in the dating scene, too. You're feeling normal - just try not to compare the next guys to your old beau, it's a definate turnoff.
2006-06-22 03:32:58 · answer #6 · answered by veinposeur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is perfectly normal, i have been single for 2 yrs now and i love it. i don't have to tell anyone what I'm doing or where I'm going. it is complete freedom, and when someone does ask you out you can go out with him and keep it very casual, then when you are ready you have every thing you wanted to get done, done, then you can do the commitment thing again when your ready. good luck and take care
2006-06-22 01:33:55 · answer #7 · answered by truckinglove22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married from the time I was 19 until I was 30. Take it from me. It is hard not to want someone to cuddle up to every night. But take the opportunity while you still have your youth and enjoy every second of it. You only live once! Don't live it tied down, you want to be able to enjoy life without having to answer questions to someone about where you are and what your doing 24/7.
2006-06-22 01:36:11 · answer #8 · answered by Heather 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt that way before and i took time for myself and did things for myself, spoil yourself, go out in the city light beinf single with your girls, have fun. You are young and you have a long way to still go so it is normal to feel like that. I do and i am not ready yet, i feel you will know when you are ready to settle down.
2006-06-22 01:25:07 · answer #9 · answered by jen. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its perfectly normal. i feel the same way (about wanting commitment) . and i also just got out of a long relationship, and you should know that you will find the right guy, just give it some time. good luck!
2006-06-22 01:24:13 · answer #10 · answered by Marines 4 Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy being young. Focus on things that matters in the future, like self improvement/development. Real love will come one day and you will know when its there.
2006-06-22 01:28:56 · answer #11 · answered by orkid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋