what will i do?

Question

i am 12 years old to tell u the truth........... i just came from the philippines and i left someone special....... i really love him...... and i always think of him and i really miss him........ the worst part is is that i miss him and theres no way on how i can see or talk to him.... i'm really hurting............ i need advice

Answer 1

Missing someone and not being able to see or talk with them is so horrible, because you feel so helpless and you feel as if there will be no end to your pain. Can you email or write to him? It may not be the ideal situation (because you want to be with him), but it will help--and although I know you won't believe this, you will eventually feel better and maybe even meet someone new. He will never be like the one you left behind, but it will be ok--I know, because I've been there. Take care...

Answer 2

Can you write to him? You may be able to keep in touch through writing - what about email? If even this is not possible, get a journal - a private diary. Write how you feel in here - write imaginary letters to him in here. No, it's not the same as being able to speak or contact him in real life, but it is a time honored technique that works! It won't remove all your angst, but you'll find that it actually does help you feel just a wee bit better. I won't say that at 12 you are too young - I'm sure with a bit of effort many older people on here can remember when they were 12 and 'love' hurts just as much at that age as it does at 18 or 28... maybe even moreso because at 12 you don't know how to deal with it.
You know, and I bet you've heard this many times and all I can say is that is because it is true... you are just 12 now, you are going to fall in love with many other boys before the day arrives when you find Mr Right... and of course in the meantime, every boyfriend you have you will think IS Mr Right! For a while, anyway.
Keep yourself occupied and busy for now so you don't have spare time to dwell on your missed boyfriend - get out and meet new friends and start mixing - the sooner you do this, the sooner you will also start to feel "okay".
Then one day you will think about this boy, not with the pain you are feeling now, but with a warm fondness... he'll have become a special friend in your memory and nothing more. It happens, but as with most things, you do have to give it a little time.

Answer 3

Oh hunny .....I'm sorry..Life can really hurt sometimes.If there's no way you'll ever see or talk to this person again, you must move on.I know its easier said then done.I'm not saying forget about him.There will always be a special place in your heart for him.I'm sure you'll go through a grieving period just as you would as if a loved one had died.But with time it will get easier.Hang with your friends or get a hobby,it may help you keep your mind off things for awhile.Keep your head up baby and try to remember the good times.♥

Answer 4

does he have email? that is a good way to keep in touch...if that is not an option and there is no way you two can speak on the phone then I'm sorry but chances are that with time and distance how you feel would eventually disappear. you are still young, and i am sure you have heard that there are plenty fish in the sea, and honey you will see that as the years go by. take this as a learning experience, better to of have loved and lost than to of have never loved at all. as you get older you would realize that love could go deeper and be alot more special..and if this is meant to be..it will happen.

Answer 5

Mariel,

This is absolutely normal. You have developed an emotional attachment to your beau ... it is supposed to hurt. Trust us, this will pass.

In the short term, find some other outlets for your energies than lamenting your loss ... this only makes the feelings worse. The bitter truth of life is that this has to pass ...

If the relationship is over, relish the relationship for what it is, a past relationship that you are truly sorry to have passed. Mourn the loss, but realize that you have moved on, reluctantly, and will slowly overcome this loss.

You are a tremendous person for having invested this amount of emotion into a relationship at such an early age. Yep, it hurts. As said, it sucks, but it is normal. Enjoy life and enjoy the memories.

Answer 6

I understand how you feel, i had to leave behind others that i dearly love. It hurts, but you will get through it. It was meant to be then you will see him again. You two might be able to communicate differently, maybe writting letters or something. If you loose touch, then it means that it wasn't supposed to be. Listen, hun, you are still young and you will love again. Just take the experience, cherish the good memories in your heart. Don't forget them, learn from it and try to be happy with someone else. You will be ok. While you are still hurting over it, just take care of yourself....pamper yourself with a hot bath and tea or hot chocolate. Write in a journal to get your pain out....and smile at yourself in the mirror every morning and remind yourself that everything will work out the way its supposed to and that you are going to be OK!

Answer 7

Chill down and relax. moving on is a touch experience for all most all of us. we often leave our loved ones who we couldnt take iwht us and go. This is only a temporary phenomenon. soon you will make new friends in this new place and will get ypur groove back. this parting will also determine the strength of your friendship with this person..and imagine the joy that you will have when u see him gain after so much time?? So relax and dont take anything to heart. everything will be allright

Answer 8

I am thirteen years old so please appreciate this. I think i know how you feel.I had someone like that. I lived in SanAntonio. Now i live farther away. It's been three or four years since i have seen him. I still can't stand it. but if you really love him, and can't stand being away from him, you can find a way to get a hold of him. If not, think about him enough, and wish enough, and he will find you or you will find him again someday. Just keep wishing..... It will happen.
:)

Answer 9

ur too young to really know what love is. If u got a computer see if he does and email him, write letters. I know the Philippines is not some remote area with out any phones or computers so dont act so weird. Like I said ur too young.

Answer 10

You are not too young to know what love is. If you're sure you love him write to him. If you don't know the address or don't know the number then NEVER forget about him. Write about him everyday in a journal. You won't forget him. Keep pictures too. Keep him in your thoughts. I know how love feels. My sister told me all about it. She is 25 and the nicest sybling I have. Trust me if you really love him you won't give up. Persue your dreams and maybe...just maybe you'll see him again.