my ex g/f of 3 years to stop saying that i have dine things when i havent done them. i moved to the other side of the country to break off with her, her friends and drugs, but i had to go back to the town to complete my community service and so fourth. and at community service someone said that my ex said that i hit her when i do not and will not have anything to do with her or anything she is into ie;drugs. but she and her family know more poeple around this town than i and some of them go to community service and have friends go wherever i go how do i stop this nonsence from her her family and friends ps i wanted a marraige and i was under the impression she did too. i wanted to get away from the drugs so i left and now she is saying that i am doing things how do i stop this please i need help from you
2006-06-21 18:02:14 · 9 answers · asked by luckydo6 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i did not plan to come back but i was joining the army i was nearly there i should have stuck it out but i decided to coume back to this town to complete my cs there are poeple there that she knows and is feeding her info
2006-06-21 18:11:21 · update #1
I would get this on record so your community service officer knows of your concerns and has a chance to make suggestions. You can't stop people from trying for revenge.
2006-06-21 18:04:37 · answer #1 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
File a restraining order against her if she is following you or bothering you in that sense... also if she is lieing about your character as a person and personally damages your reputation around others or creates a problem by saying so much damaging, yet false things about you with regards to your job ( not being able to make money because of what others at your job heard prior or presently to hiring you & you discriminated against you because of that. ) or it has damaged your character in some way that it now personally affects your life, which sounds like it does. That could be a defamation lawsuit against her. Although I don't know how badly you are willing to sue her or anything, or if that is even a solution for you, because it always doesn't solve everything.
Those are a couple things you can do but don't pay attention to her or what is being said, because if you let her know that she is getting to you she'll keep at it and get worse!!
2006-06-22 01:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by Blondie* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have grounds for a restraining order, get one. if not, just do you. make sure that people know where you are most times. but, everyone needs me time. wish her well and call it a day. she can't fight with no contender. don't defend or explain yourself to anyone. speak well of her to anyone who brings her up and change to subject. fire can't burn without fuel. it will be hard at first. but, you'll get used to it. talk to someone you can trust. you mentioned community service so obviously you have access to some sort of counselor. just speak to them only. as far others, people love drama. don't give it to them. find some encouraging books and activities that make you feel good about who you are choosing to be at this point in your life. eventually she'll feel like crap. it might take years before she admits it but she will. most importantly....give up the need to appear right to others. as long as you know,.....they can believe what they feel they must. all the best.
2006-06-22 01:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even respond to the rumors. If they know that they are getting to you, then it just gets worse. You've done the right thing in getting away from her. She's just mad and bitter and wants to spread rumors now. Ignore them, and focus on doing your community service. Once you're done, you can leave and never see her sorry ass again. Stay strong, you're on the right track!!
2006-06-22 01:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by Astro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finish your community service then leave and never go back.
2006-06-22 01:06:24 · answer #5 · answered by Jammy D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bubba you cant you just have to blow it off. she is doing this just to get back at you. i had an ex that ran around for a long time saying i raped her and all that. if you start to get mad and frustrated ppl are going to think its true and if you dont just say that she is full of ****. and be ohnest about it then they tend to belive you more to the point
2006-06-22 01:07:58 · answer #6 · answered by slipout2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to stay as far away as possiable and from the ppl she knows, thats about all you can do. there is someone out there that will be just right for you
2006-06-22 01:09:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say no
2006-06-22 01:05:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop cold!
2006-06-22 01:05:38 · answer #9 · answered by Ginny C & Hobie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋