I've been in a relationship for 1yr. and 11months. It's now time for me to attend college. I've been accepted to FAMU and I really want to go but if I do go there will no longer be a relationship between the two of us. He has cheated on me about two weeks ago and this pushed my decision even more. But I feel as if I cant live without him. Someone please tell me what is a girl supposed to do!!!
2006-06-21 17:50:50 · 38 answers · asked by shania02 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
girl go, he not someone you should be with in the first place trust me i learn the hard way, i had a chance and a dream and my ex-boyfriend/husband, he destroy them all he did want me to go UF so i stay 1 month later we move together, 3 month later i discover i was carrying his child what should have been the happy time in my life turn in to the most painful time i discover I'm HIV positive, and two month before giving birth i discover he been cheating on me all that time and i didn't even know it. i feel like a fool know, i am not saying it will happen to you but you have something i didn't have you know he cheated. so girl run to FAMU!!!!!!!!! don't let him bring you down, have fun for the both from one black girl to the next black girl.
2006-06-22 04:29:34 · answer #1 · answered by lisa may 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl...you have got to live your life for you, not him!!! Your going to go to college & meet new people & new guys & start having new friends & creating a life and personal network of friends & relationships where you start to really begin your own life away from home! Your going to have many guys in your life you will feel that way about & then break up with & get over and move on from. If he has already cheated on you ...... then the answer should be clear & easy for you. Go away to College and do the thing that will ultimately benefit you as a person & help you grow and experience new things & new people. You'll be so much happier!! I went through the same thing, you won't regret it.
Keep in mind also if a guy you were with has already cheated on you & you know about it....... then he will do it again, and loose respect for you by you even wanting to stay with him after what he did. It's like the old saying goes, " Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater."
2006-06-21 18:04:32 · answer #2 · answered by Blondie* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things stand out here --
1. He cheated on me about 2 weeks ago and...
2. It's time for me to attend college
Go to college - now! In any relationship if 2 people care and respect each other they will not "cheat". So.. he's cheated, there is no relationship. If 2 people care and respect each other they will support the other one in their endeavors and encourage them.
What bothers me is your statement that says "I can't live without him".. A relationship should compliment each other, and one person should never feel they can't live without them. That simply is the fear of being alone - not love, etc.
Again - Go to college. Good Luck!
2006-06-21 17:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make a decision. This decision can possibly affect your future. Since he has cheated on you, you can forgive and FORGET, then continue your relationship. End the relationship and move on. OR you can simply sit down with you boyfriend and have him tell you what he thinks you two should do about your relationship. Either way, if you want to continue your relationship, try to trust him and let him know that you have forgiven him and will not mention his mistake again.
2006-06-21 18:00:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a problem with co-dependencey. There is no way he cares about you enough to desirve you otherwise he would have never cheated. The only other way is getting realy messed up, but that's no excuse, no one should put themeslves in that situation. I'm speaking from experince, as the Cheater, the Co-dependent significant other, the one beind cheated on, do whatever it takes to move on, cause when you hit college you'll have enough good and bad to distract you.
(you can alwayz get ahold of me :) )
2006-06-21 17:54:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anti X35 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy, I say, If you play a bit hard to get... he will come back with you or better yet, he will go off and try to find something else. Why would you want to settle, for now. Why do most all women, accept these phrases, "Men will be men." or "He hears what he wants,too." or "Are any real men out there?" You can live without HIM at your side. Shouldn't you be treated with respect, thoughtfulness, love, and caring attitudes?... I SAY, YES. There are others who you will like and will treat you better. I know, this to be true. Because I would treat you and others just like that.
2006-06-21 18:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by Dale S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey shania! first of all you are no longer a little girl. you have blossomed to be a very beautiful woman who seems to have a clue to where she is going in her life. now don,t get me wrong i know that you are in love and that you care really deeply for the man in your life, however if he really loved where you two were in your relationship then why is it that he would jeopardize the one relationship where he had a chance at being with a beautiful, diplomatic,strong minded,down to earth strong black woman. what i think you should do is focus on handling your business without old boy and show him that despite how much he tries to bring you down that you are so cold until the ice melts when you get real close to it... i also think that when you start college you would probably not worry about him all that much with all those fine *** brothers on campus. well good luck and keep doing what you are doing i am proud of you my sister.....
2006-06-21 18:09:16 · answer #7 · answered by 0samaria s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on girl!!! You can live without this dirt bag...You got accepted into college my God that is such a privilege. Don't lose the chance to expand your world on a loser that ruined yours by having an affair. In college you will meet people with similar interests , goals and ambitions in life, you are creating a future for yourself. Do not settle for second best on some jacka*s that is going to fool around on you before you even go!
YOU GO GIRL!!! Kiss him goodbye!
2006-06-21 17:54:24 · answer #8 · answered by hipergirl22 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why wouldn't there be any relationship left if you do go to school? I think that's a lot of crap. Go to school, if you don't, you'll regret it, I speak from experience.
Second, if he's cheated on you, he doesn't deserve you. Don't ever think that he's the one if he's cheated. Cheating even once is once too many.
Forget about him, go to school. You'll probably meet someone who will value women and will treat you better than this other guy.
2006-06-21 17:55:30 · answer #9 · answered by heather47374 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to FAMU. An education is more valuable than a cheating boyfriend and if he cares for you he will get in touch with you there.
2006-06-21 17:55:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋