My gf and I are always fightin about things. Some dumb some not. She has cheated on my many times. Also she talks to and txtes other guys. I read her email and IMs and it doens't look good. She shows love, but turns off her cell when she gets mad. She txtes 24-7. And some time says that she thinks I'm cheatin if I don't txt her back or anwser my phone. I know she loves me but I don't know if it working out. I'm only 16 and now I don't know what to do. Is my relationship really a relationship?
2006-06-21 17:26:58 · 10 answers · asked by jazjadaz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
At one time she left me for one of my better friends and ended up havin sex with him. Also she has hit on other one of my friends. She has also told me that she is cheatin. I always get I'm sorry.
2006-06-21 17:47:21 · update #1
She is accusing you of cheating when you don't answer the phone or text her right away because she is guilty of cheating. She is probably cheating on you now and you just haven't caught her. So she is accusing you because she feels guilty of what she is doing and she knows what being a cheater looks like...You aren't really happy so there is no point in being with her.
2006-06-21 17:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Resist Despair! Not ALL relationships go down the drain. Having said that, finding the "right" one is a long term project. You must know yourself WELL, you must grow into your fullness (or at least have fertile ground in your mind and heart) before you will recognize THE guy/man. Equally important is you knowing how to be a Best Friend to him. My husband is my best friend. I am his best friend. This is what makes us strong. This is what keeps our relationship happy. We've been together for 10 years, married for almost 8 years. Patience is the key to finding the relationship you want.
2016-03-27 00:36:46 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a situation like this. There's 2 ways to look at this... 1. Yes your relationship is going down hill and her feelings aren't as strong as they were before... She basically wants to have the cake and eat it too.... && if she has cheated on you many times well then i think you should sit down with her and have a major talk... Like try and get the point acrossed taht you really care about her. and has she ever proved to you that she's done making stupid careless mistakes. I don't agree with her texting other guys.
This is were my part comes into. I've made stupid careless mistakes @ the beginning of my relationship but i eventually learned from them after he got the point across that he really cared... But the last time we broke up it was because he was talking to other girls telling them he was single and what not. I just don't agree with that...
Now the 2nd way you can look @ this is it's healthy to argue in a relationship because that means that you do have many feelings for that person. So what if they are stupid arguements in means that you care.. Jelousy tends to take a big role into arguements for most cases like this one. Are they guys you know or are they guys that you've never talked to or heard of before that she talkes to ? just a few things to think about.
2006-06-21 17:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by ash6lei2a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on brother, you two are co-dependent (look it up). You think she cheats on you and you trust her so much that you check her IM and text/chats ... sounds like real trust issues here, on both parts.
Let her know how her text / chat comms with other guys makes you feel ... and if she doesn't show interest or changes her actions, take a break.
Yeah .. emotional pain sucks as does the loss of intimacy. But what is more important, the relationship or your self-worth. If she is conversating with other guys, maybe you are not filling some need she keeps beating you about the head about...
2006-06-21 17:35:39 · answer #4 · answered by TEK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 16 and already in a very controlling relationship. Get out now you have plenty of time to date and eventually find a person that you truly love. What she does is not for love but control. Enjoy high school and date.
2006-06-21 17:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by deltazeta_mary 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey You are just 16,wait for some moretime,now is the time for you to study and build up your career.Your GF doesnt look faithful to me, N being true in a relationship,is very vital for the relatioship to survive.and she thinks you are cheating on her,maybe shes cheating on you,thats why she got that notion.she should understand if you havent answerd her phone,there must be a reason behind it,instead of blaming you....think over it..
2006-06-21 17:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by hs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let go. She is stomping all over you and you are letting her. She thinks that she can now get away with more. You should be talking to her about this stuff. If not, then confront her. If she gets mad about it, this relationship isn't working out. Personally, I don't even think you should be going out with her anymore. She does not deserve you. It should be a DER!!!! :)
2006-06-21 17:33:15 · answer #7 · answered by J.M.M. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your relationship from a third party looks like crap. You have no trust because ou are reading her stuff, and i am not arguing that it is not for a bad reason, but look beyond that, you aren't married, thank whomever for that. Get out, it will be hard because sometimes we get into routines, and it is almost easier to stay with someone out of routine.
don't get sucked in for more time, get out.
2006-06-21 17:32:55 · answer #8 · answered by emilio9382 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart you are to young for a relationship at your age (a serious one) it sounds like to me that she is the one who is cheating and she is showing her guilt by trying to put the guilt she is feeling on you. get on with your life
2006-06-21 17:47:58 · answer #9 · answered by lavinyac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesnt deserve yu if she is doin that, even tho its REALLY hard to let her go i think yu shud
2006-06-21 17:29:46 · answer #10 · answered by soccersweetie982005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋