Should wives agree to love, honor and OBEY?

Answer 1

Yes -- if you've found a real man who understands the difference between being dominant and being domineering! At the risk of sounding archaic, I believe the husband should be the head of the household. That does NOT mean that he should boss you around. It means he should be a leader. Don't get me wrong -- I believe in equal rights and a good man will respect his wife as a person. He will exalt her judgement and be awed by her talents and good works. But when there comes a time when there's a decision to be made and it's a tie, a woman should trust him to make it. (So you have to find a man you can trust to make decisions with EVERYONE'S best interest in mind -- not who's just putting his foot down because he can.)

Answer 2

It depends on what the couple agrees on. I, personally, believe that a marriage is a partnership, with two equals, and no one should obe y or serve the other. Decisions/actions can be made that benefit one person more than the other, but compromise, teamwork, and hardwork on both sides is important. However, some religions believe that the man does have the power to command his wife, that the wife should obey the husband. The couple should talk about what the marriage relationship means to them, and then decide whether or not to include that word in the vows.

Answer 3

well love and honor is some thing u have to agree if u want to keep the good honest and faithful relationships... but obey.. well depends... no nobody have to obey to any body out of fear in a relationship... if u obey something tt should be cos of understanding and the respect for tht person and of the issues..
and if a wife just have to obey evry thing blindly to wht there husbunds say then that is not a perfect relationship.... so husbunds has to be thoughtful... and well wives also have to be thoughtful tooo..

Answer 4

In a good marraige that word OBEY doesn't mean what most think it does. A good marraige decisions are made together.
So, the obey word isn't really relevant,, its just the way the vows were written and if you don't like that part of it, then change the wording. It actually was meant as cherish.

Answer 5

Absolutley not, unless however they are very submissive to their men and honestly do agree to obey. I take wedding vows to be a very serious thing, the most important contract you'll ever enter into. Why would you want to stand up in front of everyone and start your marriage off with a lie?

Answer 6

Most husbands and wives won't do ANY of those things, eventually, anyway.....so be VERY careful what you promise God.

My suggestion is to know and trust a partner long enough and WELL enough to come up with some concrete vows that can ABSOLUTELY be followed and expected.

It may be just one thing.....when the negotiations are finalized.....but that is better than a bunch of empty promises and vows.

RIGHT???!!!

Answer 7

Sure, happens all the time...The agreement, that is. When was the last time you saw anyone "obey" when ordered...other than in the service? That is a very quick way to get beat over the head.

Answer 8

Women should love and honor but to the OBEY well HELL NO women are not dogs. we were made from a mans rib to be loved and protected not top or stepped on.

Answer 9

No....decisions should be made together - as equal partners & beings. A couple is a partnership in which the people should love and trust and respect other. If there is a difficult decision to be made, they should go with who has more experience in that field or a better idea....not just the one with the penis.

Answer 10

nowadays, its not applicable anymore, you see many marriage fails. and its not what we called "forever" ...

love, honor and obey, only if you both respect each oder.. if not hell NO!..

Obey doesn't mean you have to follow everything unless he has the couraged to obey and respect you also.. marriage is a give and take relationship..