ok so my cousin is my age and he is so bad. he cuts himself, he steals, he tryed to kill one of his friends, he smokes, and i have tryed to help him because i love him so much. when we were younger he was such a good kid but it has all gone downhill in the past year, i dont want him to end up killing himself or ending up in jail "again" . he is only 14 and is planning to get married have 6 kids and take pills so all he has to do is sleep all day for the rest of his life. i want things to be the way they used to be. i thought about writing him a letter because it would be easier than saying it to his face. i am the only one he trusts and he has told me that, he think i am the only one left in the family who doesnt think that he is a psyco killer convict. i am the the only one who belives there is still some good in him. i dont know what to say to him but i want to help him. any advice???plz
2006-06-21 16:57:58 · 5 answers · asked by liz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think it's great that you want to help him, but your only 14. That is a lot to have to deal with at your age. That is a lot to deal with at any age really. I'm afraid that this may be more then you can handle alone. You might try talking to your family and see if you can get them to help you set up an intervention for him. If your family will get together, it might show him that he is loved by someone other then you. At his age, it isn't to late to change. There has to have been something that changed him. Some times there is just nothing that you can do. I'm almost afraid to say it but if he doesn't change his ways, you could end up losing him. Then you would end up feeling that you didn't do enough for him. It isn't fair for him to put all of this on you. Maybe you could sit him down and tell him that. Tell him that you love him and that you will always be there for him but that you can't handle it all by yourself. Maybe he will go talk to someone, an adult, if you will go with him. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-06-21 17:15:28 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it would better to say it to his face. It will be harder, but it will mean more.
I had a friend that commited suicide once because she was just so unhappy. Everybody ignored her depression and it only got worse.
Tell him to think about seeing a psychologist. But don't force him to see one. It's not going to do any good unless he really wants to change.
2006-06-22 00:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by xheartcorex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey sounds like a guy version of me lol
ok anywayz
i went to a shrink, but it didnt help
the only thing that worked for me was that my mom would kill me if i started cutting or smoking again
other then that, id be on it again so quick
2006-06-22 00:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by GC_RiotGrl_879 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u better write him a letter, that way he will always read and always remember and always feel bad and will eventually change. good luck.
2006-06-22 12:19:28 · answer #4 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey lizzie its banana!!!! luv ya bbye!!!
2006-06-22 03:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by ♥hannah banana♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋