how do i tell him i have fallen for him?

Question

i only wish i could tell him that i have fallen in love with him.
i tried not to.
but we ended up going through alot together ...
and having sex too.
i really love him.
he really likes me.
but he keeps saying "just be yourself"
and i do.
he moved here at the begining of the year and now he has to go back to were he used to live....he is comming back to visit...i really wanna call him and tell him i really care for him.
he makes me feel so amazing all the time. how do i do this?

Answer 1

That's a tough one. Sometimes it's a good thing to do and sometimes it'll distant that person if they aren't on the same wave length. I'd take it slow and when the right moment comes up go for it. Good luck hun

Answer 2

do u know how he feels about you? sometimes boys or men feel threatened when a girl talks about her feeling, it can make them become distant and end up hurting her. however, sometimes they're just not sure about your feeling and wanna know before taking the plunge so to speak. my advice is spend a lot of time together and observe his behavior toward you (is he touching u all the time? is he impatient to see or to be away from you? does he defend u to his friends or is he always taking their side against u?can u be yourself around him or do u have to pretend so he can like u? r u always fighting' is he gentle towards etc...) all of these r clues u need 2 look out to so u can guess his feelings for u. either way telling someone u love them is a gamble and only u can determine if it's a risk u're willing to take or if he's worth it, after all u're the one who's gonna live with the consequences or the rewards. sometimes people regret not telling someone they love and wonder what would have happen have they told.
good luck to you and wish that whatever u decide turn out to be OK.
PS: u said he's living soon r u sure it's worth it to let him know when he will soon go back? long distance relationships rarely last.

Answer 3

If I was you I would step back and take a deep breath. Look to make sure that you are doing the right thing. Are you just good friends and has he at anytime stated that. I did tell someone that I cared and was hurt to find out they didnt feel the same. Woudl hate to see you get hurt. Just ask him how he feels about you and him and just see if he will make the move. I know it is hard but you dont want to lose a friend.

Answer 4

Well, you don't want to overwhelm him because he just came back. Let him settle down and adapt again. There's always signs that you could tell if he likes you like the way he looks into your eyes or the little things guys do. But be honest and true to your heart. If you really love him, you should tell him. Just make sure that he feels the same way. Good luck!

Answer 5

Just tell him before it is too late..call him ahead of time before he travels like a 10 days may be and tell him your feelings..you can say hey X i know we've been through a lot and now you're going back, but i really feel like i need to tell you this no matter what the consequences might be, but you are a person that i enjoy being with. you make me laugh, your a good companion ship and i really hate to see you leave because i have feelings for you." that's just an example u know....

let me know how things go with you OK...Good Luck

Answer 6

this worked for me:
How are you doing, though boy???, just calling to let you know that I think you rock!!. Whenever i see u, is like this little excitement, cool, interesting, you really are a nice guy. The last times we talked, I flirted with you. I’d catch myself doing it and laughed and loved it. I bet you got the point, but in case you still haven’t gotten it: I reallyyy LIKE YOU, and I wish something can be done about this.

i called him and told him some thing along this lines

Answer 7

Well, if he is single and available there is no harm to open up your heart for him and tell him directly since you have already done so much with him. On the other hand he should realize your feelings too...if he is just playing the fool then forget him....

Answer 8

in your sitution i know its really hard. But the best thing to do is tell him in person as soon as possible. Because if you never tell him you may never know if he loves you the same way. So just simply tell him how you feel (trust me guys like to know girls like/love them) and then what he says after you told him will be the one thing you need to here so you don't worry about it forever.

good luck!!!!
--hope it helped

Answer 9

You don't. It's up to the man to say those words first. Try to avoid an egg smear all over your face. If he loves you, he'll tell you AND come and see you. He'll call you a lot, too.

Answer 10

Just tell him next time he is visiting. If he doesn't feel the same way, then you can at least move on. If he does, then you can work on building a relationship. (Unless he's married - then you should just move on.)