Approximately two and a half years ago (give or take a couple of months), I met a wonderful man named James. He's a very close friend of mine. He's honest, sincere, trustworthy. He's the only man I've met in a very very long time that I believe I can trust. He has a great sense of humor. We flirt often, but nothing has ever come of it. He's kissed me three times, and I don't mean just a quick peck on the cheek or lips. Yet he's never expressed any true feelings of romance toward me. However, I fear that I am falling in love with him. I'm not sure what to do though. I want to tell him, but I'm afraid that he'll reject me, which in turn would make our friendship awkward. What should I do about this? Should I try to convince myself to get over him? If not, then what could I do to win his heart, without actually telling him how I feel? Any suggestions and advice would be so great right now.
2006-06-21 16:40:03 · 6 answers · asked by writer_girl20 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'd tell him and wait for a reaction..thats what i did with my bf and we've together ever since :)
2006-06-21 16:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by ♥•ßÃߥ•♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that if he has actually kissed you that he does have more than feelings of friendship for you. It sounds to me like he is unsure of you feel towards him. I think that you should talk to him about your feelings and take it from there. Don't worry about feeling akward, there are much worse things that could happen. I really think that he will appreciate your honesty. You'll never know how he feels unless you ask and get everything out in the open.
2006-06-21 23:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy
Share your feelings and if they are mutual great if not then you know your emotions are missplaed and you can keep looking. ( Just remember the good things James did that you enjoyed and keep those in mind with your future boyfriends.
Smart Love By Dr. Phil McGraw Great dating book a MUST read
2006-06-21 23:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by Sully 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't live a lie. If you truly feel as though you are in love with this guy tell him in some way, shape, or form. I myself have made the mistake of waiting too long to tell the guys i've loved this and it's led to me losing them.
2006-06-21 23:43:57 · answer #4 · answered by chocolatechip333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its always better to speak up than to remain quiet and wonder. ask him directly ... if he refuses u still save on precious time in your life which can be utilized for doing something better than being with a stupid human who does not care for ur feelings ....
hv u checked out if he is into some other relationships?
2006-06-21 23:45:17 · answer #5 · answered by Jay Emm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has already showed you that he is interested when he kissed you respond to the kisses and if you don't let him know how you feel how will he know don't play games communicate you are going to let him get away
2006-06-21 23:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by toosexy4thisshit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋