Why do men think they can hurt a gurl by saying they love her but really dont?? Why do they do this???

Question

I have been in a relationship ( If u can even call it that) the boy cheated a whole lot. But, I still stayed with him. I thought he loved me because he said it alot. But, saying it to me n actually meaning it is what I have to learn. He has a new girlfriend for 2 weeks now so yeah. He tried to hide it from me because he said he would never love again. be being me believed him. But he told me n I told him off today. I said i didn't wanna talk to him nomo. I wanna know if I am right for walking away. I dont think I will love for awhile because it only hurts worse to think I can love n be loved. Can someone help me understand why I get hurt n fall into these traps all the time!

Answer 1

the word I love you is powerful only backed up by action. (caring, spending time, being there when you need that person, etc) You were right leaving him because he's just another faker. He knows nothing but to play people's mind. Everybody falls into traps of love nowadays, I can even convince a girl to go out with me without even trying. It works you know. The reason you keep falling into these "traps" is because you do not fully understand what is love and the meaning of it. Not everybody is on the same level. I have fallen into these kind of trap plenty of times, but this is the process of growing up and maturing your mind. It is okay to fall into these trap because you can always learn from your mistakes. Now in order to grow, you have to understand why he left you, what were the signs, what did he do and all that stuff. A common perspective of your situation. He has not showed that he cared for you, he really been there when you needed him, he spent time with you, comfort and hold you. These are the actions to keep his words true. Now if he keeps saying it, it is pointless, he is nothing but a talker. He's the type you should not trust and love completely. If he does back himself up with actions like those things I have mentioned a little bit back, then yea, that is the man of his words. This is just the process of learning and maturing, don't worry. good luck on recovering.

Answer 2

Jayme, it sounds like you have relationship issues, honey. Yes, don't "love" for a while. Spend time just on you and look back on what went wrong in past loves.

If you expect a relationship to be different then you have to be different. You could also be at an age where you should be pursuing other things than love.

I don't think men say they love women to "hurt" girls but to maybe get to a sexual stage quicker, and they can "fool" themselves too so they don't feel like users.

Relationships work like this: people meet and become INFACTUATED, continue seeing each other and the infactuation is replaced by romantic LOVE. Maybe you confuse love with infactuation.

Don't worry-you'll figure it out if you work on it.