BATTITUDES! How do I tell him an adjustment is needed?

Question

My boybfriend got a snotty attitude about the TV. Just asked him about whether or not he would mind if I changed the channel to see something real quick and he gave me that annoyed look. I try to tell him that he could be more pleasant and he gets an attitude. Furthermore, he tells me that I need to be more understanding, but where do you draw the line between understanding and taking borderline abuse.

Answer 1

Sounds like you're figuring it out, good for you girl. A realtionship is giving and taking, not just one person taking and the other getting taken from. You'll know when it's right, don't put up with anything that is'nt loving.

Answer 2

Just tell him how you feel. Look, I know you're sorta scared [I mean, look at the way he responded when you asked to turn the channel. Imagine how he'd be if you told him he had an attitude!] Say one of those corny lines: I know you're upset...but so am I or whatever... Say: "Look [his name], you want me to be more understanding but do you understand how I feel?" Blah, blah...etc. Hopefully, he'll understand how you feel as well.

Answer 3

Oh my GOD!

He denied you the TV clicker?!?!


JESUS! THAT IS SO ABUSIVE! DUMB THAT ZERO FOR A HERO!




Come on, lady. I'm sure you're smarter than this. Denying you a TV channel is far from abuse.

Answer 4

What kind of stupid question is this? Are you like 12 years old? Grow up, get some maturity, then come back with decent questions.

Answer 5

I would have given you the choice, even the TV.
But think the other way, the picture have two sides.

Answer 6

I really don't see how that was "borderline abuse".

Answer 7

if you can't talk it out with him, you better move on.

Answer 8

Ditch him.