At our wedding last year, my (now) sister in law was proposed to by her boyfriend. It would of been great.. but he did it infront of all our guests, right after the speeches.
It stole the excitement of our marriage/wedding.
Do you think he should of done it in private?I
Was it wrong for us to feel annoyed with him?
Whats your opinion?
2006-06-21 15:31:11 · 13 answers · asked by Witty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Thanx for all your comments... i love the idea of announcing that we're expecting at their wedding.. but they were married three months later (i wasnt preg, but thought i should do it as a joke!!)
They announced just this Saturday gone that they are expecting their first child in the new year.
Thanks for all your opinions... I dont hold a grudge or anything like that... I just wanted to hear other peoples thoughts.
2006-06-21 16:29:02 · update #1
Before doing it at your wedding, he really should have come up to you both for permission. That way you could have figured out how you could make the announcement in a way that would still make it your day, but rejoice in love and committment in the room. You could have arranged them to do the asking in private and announce it at the end of the reception in a very nice way. He was out of line, but on the other hand your wedding is now special since you were a part of the history of another marriage. He did a thoughtless thing, but didn't he mean well? Did he really do it to steal your limelight, or was he just clueless and meant well?
If you really want to make announcement at his wedding, why not ask if there would be a way to do so without detracting from their big day. If you just want to do it out of spite, I would argue against it, especially if they didn't propose to spite you. It is never a good thing to do the wrong thing, even if you think you were wronged.
The fantasy of revenge rare holds up in reality.
You can choose to hold a grudge, or let it go and just be happy that they felt comfortable enough to share their joy on your day (ie. spin it to something positive). Life is too damn short.
2006-06-22 05:39:27 · answer #1 · answered by Denise C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, It's not that big of a deal. If her wedding is in May, the novelty of your new engagement will have worn off by then. Besides, this is probably stemming from a bigger issue, perhaps she doesn't like you? and doesn't want you marrying her brother. She is obviously very jealous that her newly engaged phase is over and you are now going to be in the spotlight, but the world does not revolve around her! She needs to suck it up, she will get over it eventually. If you love this guy, it shouldn't matter what anyone else thinks! I had a similar issue. My sister got engaged fall of 2011. Everyone was so excited about it. I, then became engaged over Christmas. I was so afraid that she would be uber jealous. I am sure she was a bit too! But she payed it off cool, she was happy for me either way. She said that as long as we don't have anything the same at our weddings, then she would be fine.
2016-05-20 10:14:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it was supposed to be your day. When my ex was preparing to propose to me, friends of ours who's wedding we were in, told him to propose at the wedding. They were going to set it up to have him catch the garter and me the flowers. I would have been furious!!! I wouldn't want anyone stealing my day and I certainly didn't want any parts of it. Luckily he opted not too but obviously still didn't work out.
Just remember "your" part of the day. Don't focus on it cause its only going to make you bitter. If it makes you feel better, announce at their wedding that you and your spouse will be trying to have children :-)
2006-06-21 15:37:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it was very inappropriate for him to propose after your speeches at your wedding. He didn't exercise very much tact. He's probably just a thoughless clod who doesn't use his head to think before he opens his mouth. While it may have been sweet and memorable for your sister, he could have picked another place and time to do it. Nothing you can do about it now, just let it go.
2006-06-27 09:04:10 · answer #4 · answered by Samba Queen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think to propose to someone at someone else's wedding is out of line, but it is already done. Focus on how great your day was and announce you are expecting at her wedding!
2006-06-21 16:25:28 · answer #5 · answered by housefullofboys3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man, I would have been so PISSED!! Yep, you two are right, he should have waited for an appropriate time. Stealing someone elses thunder is NOT COOL. I'm angry just reading this and I don't even know you! Don't worry about feeling annoyed, I would have too.
2006-06-21 16:21:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was completely wrong for him to do this. You only have that one special day and he had no right to take the joy and excitement away from you. Sorry hope the rest went well.
2006-06-21 16:10:52 · answer #7 · answered by brezzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he was wrong to steal you guys moment he could have at least waited until the reception
2006-06-21 16:22:15 · answer #8 · answered by toosexy4thisshit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be mad... But he did it in front of everyone than I would... He shouldn't have done it in front of EVERYONE, right after the speeches... That was just rude.
2006-06-21 15:46:47 · answer #9 · answered by Dana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it has been done. i would have been extremely pissed off. he should have done the proposing somewhere private, like in another roomor somrthing. i hope this helps you. :?)
2006-06-21 15:55:07 · answer #10 · answered by jea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋