..the parents of your fiancee said to wait until the year next after next year.. should we wait or should we marry next year? if we won't be maried next year..is there any disadvantages in a long period of engagement?
2006-06-21 15:29:34 · 9 answers · asked by [][][][][][][][][] 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The only disadvantage of a long engagement is if you believe in not having premarital sex. The in laws may want you guys to have a little more time to discuss your future. There is no need to rush into anything. If you 2 love each other what will one year out of the rest of your life matter. This will enable you guys to save money for the wedding and help with planning and invites. be understanding. And try to see it from there point of view.
congrats on the upcoming wedding. Communication is the key to a good relationship, and NEVER let money come between the 2 of you and you will be happy with each other.
2006-06-21 15:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by JACK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can give time for everyone to save up some money. Cause it can cost alot all the little things add up. Everything costs so it is not a bad idea but if you are not having a big wedding then it won't take as long to save. I don't think there is any Disadvantages to being engaged for a long period of time I was engaged for 3 years. I found nothing wrong with it We grew Closer and I still think we are growing closer to this day.
Marriage is only a peice of paper!!!!
Even if you are not legally married if you live togther for 6 months you can still get a divorce and get half of everything!
Get married when you want not when people say IF THERE IS A WILL THERE IS A WAY!!
Congrats and Good luck
2006-06-22 03:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by kiwi_08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is their reason for you to wait? In the end it is entirely up to you and your fiancee if you two get married next year or the year after. But you need to do what is right for the two of you not what your soon to be inlaws think you should do. After all this is your wedding and your happily ever after. Not theirs. You and your fiancee should talk it over and not let anyone sway you away from what you two really want.
2006-06-21 15:39:56 · answer #3 · answered by Mary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have you been together? if 6 mos or more, then next year should be a plenty long enough engagement. it depends on if there's a specific reason why they don't want you to get married so soon and what that reason is. But if they're just trying to delay the inevitable, then i wouldn't wait.
2006-06-21 17:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by jenniferb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to ask this question, then perhaps you should wait. marriage is only about two people, the bride and groom; not Mama, Daddy, cousin, friends, and online chat buddies. don't get me wrong, when you marry you do marry that other person's family. but, both parties have to know how to leave their families at their respective homes and how to take care of their own without interference. the fact that they are having this much influence before the marriage is frightening. don't look at it as waiting because they suggested it, although you can tell them that to get them off of your back. look at it as giving yourself time to find out what YOU truly want and need and learning how to provide it to yourself. and then determining whether or not you and your partner are on the same page re: expectations in the marriage. Good luck.
2006-06-21 18:28:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are already planning to get married next year, follow through with that. Your decision should not be swayed by other people's opinions. Have you asked the soon to be in laws why they want you to wait?
2006-06-21 16:19:03 · answer #6 · answered by housefullofboys3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say that the decision is up to you and your fiance, NOT his parents. You are the ones getting married, not them. If you do as they ask/say now, what else will they want you to do down the road? Will they try to run your lives for the rest of their lives (believe me, I had this happen with my ex husbands mother. She told him she would disown him if he got married 3 months before we did, then tried to run our lives completely from that day forward). Will they, while you wait like they say, try to break you guys up? What is their reasoning for you waiting? Will they try to run the whole wedding/plan it?
Think about these things and talk with your fiance about them. Talk with his parents after that. Make up your own minds. IF you are younger than 18, then I can see their reasoning. IF you are older than that, then they have no say in it and you should tell them that you appreciate their opinions but that it is your decision and you will do it as you want.and when you want. Do what makes the two of you happy, not someone else.
2006-06-21 15:43:46 · answer #7 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you too young to get married in his parent's eyes? Have you not been together long? That may be why they want you to wait....and to be honest, if you're going to be together, you're going to be together, so what's the hurry to get married....wait it out...you may both be glad you did.
2006-06-21 15:42:09 · answer #8 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marry now
2006-06-21 15:34:40 · answer #9 · answered by akash s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋