my parents always fight, almost eveyday....we almost adopt their bad routine....it affects our activities....the scandal it brings to my family...and it is as if they are not affected...sana hindi nlang cla magulang ko
2006-06-21 15:25:42 · 17 answers · asked by khatz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ur parents "did it" and ur the person u are today. life is hard sometimes but it wil be OK
2006-06-21 15:28:24 · answer #1 · answered by abercrombie_lover101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if you did choose your parents? No matter what the choice you must look for the lessons to learn in your current situation. Perhaps you don't want to grow up to be like them. Perhaps you need to see what a really bad family is like so that when it is time for you to choose a mate and start your own family you can teach your children what it feels like to be in a happy, caring, nurturing family.
I never seemed to belong in my family either and they were oppressive and judgemental. But when I turned 31, they apologized to me for not allowing me to be myself and for not encouraging me to live the life that was right for me. But, of course, the apology changed nothing. I just told them they couldn't have my life back from me. I had done everything the hard way because of the way I was raised but it all worked out for me in the end...because I was determined to make it work out.
I know that if you will lift up your head and look, forget the shame, and look for your true way, you can find it because you already know in your heart that there is such a better way to live a life than in argument and scandalous behavior.
Find an adult, an aunt or teacher, who you admire and emulate them. Or if there are no adults you admire, read about successful people and how they lived their lives - and I am not talking about the celebrity brats. I am talking about any brave soul who knew they have the power to create their life their way.
Write down what you want from your life and how it will feel to live that way. Write down what you hate about your parents' lives and how you would change that - burn it in an ashtray after you write it so you don't get in any trouble with them if they find it.
Just feel comfort in knowing that you will soon enough be free of their fights and can make your own way in the world. Make sure you know where you want to be and how you want to be treated and then treat everyone that way so it will be returned to you 10-fold now and in the future.
2006-06-21 15:40:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are not born yet...anyways God picked them for you...Sorry to hear about the fighting everyday. Mine were like that too. Last year my Dad passed...it was not untill he got sick did he finally realize how much my Mom had been through...He finally started acting as if he cared...Wish you luck...anyways what does the last sentence of your question mean? Also don't let your parents fighting influence you...learn from their mistakes.
2006-06-21 15:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, in some religious traditions they believe that you do choose your parents. It all has to do with reincarnation. We choose our parents because we think that the life we would have with them would be beneficial to us in some way.
I'm sorry your parents are fighting so much. Tell them what you've told us here. I know it will take courage.
2006-06-21 15:56:58 · answer #4 · answered by PDY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I read somewhere that we do. What the heck was I thinkin?... makes you wonder what you were on? and where is that drug now?
If you learn from their mistakes---which I hope you do--- you will never adopt their routine, but adopt the opposite. If you do not--- chances are good that you will follow their lead.
I learned from being beaten almost everyday- to never hit your kids. It teaches your children nothing, but to fear you... some people who have been beaten, never learn that--and follow the lead of their parents.
So if you did choose your parents, you chose them to learn from them. Not to follow them, but to show you your own right path, and your own wrong one. Which you decide is not up to them, but up to you. I hope I helped you. Good Luck. â¥
2006-06-21 15:39:57 · answer #5 · answered by ♥-=-TLCNJ19-=-♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know myself! Accept them as they are and try to ignore bad behavior, unless someone is being hurt. Some people seem to try to make people cringe. Concentrate on being a good person - you will be so proud of having grown into a good person, despite your environment.
2006-06-21 15:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by bee2yk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only have yourself to blame. Well the half of you that came from the DNA in the sperm that won that little race a few years back. Next time, swim slower!
2006-06-21 15:28:49 · answer #7 · answered by But why is the rum always gone? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They came first.
Pray for it to stop.
I would write down how it's affecting your activities,
the bad routine. Just list them, and how it makes
you and your siblings feel. Leave it laying around.
The right eyes will see it.
2006-06-21 15:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you weren't around before they had you but no matter what you feel now as you get older you see what is you need to do to be better then your folks are always think good for yourself and try being better and best of luck i feel for you
2006-06-21 15:31:45 · answer #9 · answered by wilco254 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be thankful that your even in this world. Get over it, its your parents problem not yours. I hate people like you! Good luck....
2006-06-21 15:31:06 · answer #10 · answered by *Chelsie* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋