i love him very much but he abuses me and my love what should i do?
2006-06-21 15:20:50 · 40 answers · asked by Robin N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
leave him right away and move on. you can always find someone else
2006-06-21 15:22:32 · answer #1 · answered by nea_11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he is showing you now what your life could be further down the road. Most young women are killed by disrespectful bf's or men like that. There is a big world out there...don't just settle for anything. You be choosy
in your choices. I assure you if he really loved you he would not treat you like that. There are so many good boys or men out there that will treat you with far more respect then him. You are not in love with him...you are in love with the idea of being in love with him. Have some self respect for yourself by not allowing anyone to treat you like that.
2006-06-21 15:30:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely not stay with him. Where can it go in the future? If you end up marrying him, do you think he will stop abusing you? Well, he won't. He'll apologize and swear not to do it again. He'll apologize every time he abuses you. Do those apologies stop the pain or the heartache you suffer? If he won't stop abusing you, get out of the relationship. He won't change and you have better things to do with your life than live in fear of when the next beating will be or the next verbal attack.
2006-06-21 15:41:26 · answer #3 · answered by Cat1018 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know I have been through just about the same thing that your going through but with me it was my ex she was very rude to me my friends and family and very abusive towards me. My heart told me to stay with her but family and friends were saying to leave her. So I had to ak myself which was more important my safety or the fact of being alone. I chose to be alone because my life is far to important to have someone being abusive towards me and my way of life so I Packed up my things and moved from Washington State to Ohio and I nevered looked back but I do sometime's think about her and I sit and wonder if I could have ever made it work out but I now know what I did I did for the best. GOD BLESS in your time of need and if you need to chat at all or vent at all please feel free to im me or email me.
2006-06-21 15:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by Randy B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him! The relationship is unhealthy and you should NEVER stay in an unhealthy relationship. He needs to learn to appreciate you and not abuse you. Please do yourself a favor leave him. You deserve better than some guy who abuses you. Even though you love him you NEED to do this. Even if it's verbal abuse it's only matter of time before it's physical. LEAVE HIM!!!!
Love is not supposed to hurt!
2006-06-21 15:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run don't walk in the opposite direction away from him. The abuse will not stop, and statistically will get worse with time until one of you ends up dead or in prison. You don't really love him, you are codependent on him. You imagine he is this loving caring guy, and he is always sorry afterward and promises to never do it again...then he loves you very well until the next time and the cycle starts all over again. Please get out away from him. For your safety and sanity. Peace be yours. I hope no children???? If you need help please feel free to e-mail me.
2006-06-21 15:26:11 · answer #6 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU CAN DO ONE OF TWO THINGS. YOU CAN WISE UP AND BE A SMART WOMAN AND GET OUT OF THIS F*CKED UP ONE WAY STREET RELATIONSHIP OR YOU CAN STAY AND GET ABUSED AND DISCARDED LIKE TRASH WHEN HE'S DONE WITH YOU. UP TO YOU. LOVE IS NOT ALWAYS ENOUGH. YOU LOVE HIM, HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU. HE ABUSES YOU AND YOUR LOVE AND YET YOU ASK WHAT SHOULD I DO?
LEAVE HIM AND SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP. SERIOUSLY. COUNSELING, YOU NEED SOMEONE TO HELP YOU REALIZE YOUR WORTH AND REALIZE YOU'RE NOT SOME PIECE OF TRASH THAT A GUY CAN USE AND ABUSE AT HIS LEISURE! SO LEAVE AND GET HELP. AND NEVER THINK THERE'S SHAME IN SEEKING HELP. HELL NO. I SWEAR THERE'S PROBABLY NOT ONE HUMAN BEING THAT DOESN'T NEED COUNSELING IN OR ABOUT SOMETHING OR OTHER! SO GO FOR IT AND GOOD LUCK TO YOU.
2006-06-21 15:26:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. Obviously this guy doesn't care about you or he wouldn't treat you that way. NOBODY deserves to be abused or mistreated. There are plenty of guys out there that won't do that.
2006-06-21 15:23:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be completely retarded if you stayed with someone like that for one second longer. You need to ask yourself how you can really love someone like that...especially if it's obvious he doesn't love you (or else he wouldn't abuse you). No man can call himself a man if he abuses his woman. He's pathetic and deserves to die a lonely person...
2006-06-21 15:24:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how it hurts you. If he doesn't care then the love between you is one-sided and you should consider if he is worth the abuse. As a matter of fact, he's probably not worth it. There's plenty of nice men out there.
2006-06-21 15:24:37 · answer #10 · answered by windandwater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok sweety are you crazy get out of that relationship as soon as posible you can't afford to be abused bye your boyfriend that is not right you need to tell someone in your family this a veryserious problem and not even i can help you besides saying good bye to him that's all i can say reallly i you need to get out fast because research said 4out of 5 couples the wives or girlfriends end up dead seriously
2006-06-21 15:28:51 · answer #11 · answered by Charnele B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋