I asked for a divorce if she doesn't stop drinking! She cannot keep leaving her smelly stinking drawers in the Pub all drunked up every night. It is disgusting! THIS REALLY HAPPENED! What should I do? Give her another chance to stop drinking or just leave her?
2006-06-21 15:20:47 · 28 answers · asked by Jay 1 in Food & Drink ➔ Beer, Wine & Spirits
get her garters...
2006-06-21 15:23:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you were there with her, then you are partly to blame, either for letting her get so humiliatingly drunk, or for letting her humiliate you both by her action of removing her underwear while in the bar. Now, that said, I am assuming from your reaction that you were NOT present with your wife, but heard about it later. I agree that she needs an intervention and counselling. But the best way to help her is for both of you to get counselling together. It sounds like this is not the first time that something so embarrassing/appalling has happened. There are probably underlying reasons for her wanting to drink, and reasons for her behaviour while drunk. You are right to be upset. You are right that this is a huge problem and an obstacle in your relationship. The answer is not divorce. (Especially if kids are involved.) There are things to try first. Even if she will not talk about her drinking at first, if you both can start counselling together and get to the root causes, you will likely be able to work things out. I suggest utilizing the church ministry for counselling. They are devoted to saving marriages and making people happy in those marriages. Also, they are usually free. If you belong to a church, talk to your clergy. If you do not, here is a website where you can find one in your area.
http://www.upci.org/ (church locator at the bottom of the page)
If you ask them, they will not push you to go to church. They will use Biblical contexts, but also real-world advice, and no conversion tactics, if you so desire.
Sometimes a separation is a good idea, just take caution that it is really easy to stop trying when you are separated, if you aren't careful. Remember your wedding vows. This is "worse." But you can make it through. I did.
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2006-06-21 16:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by NotMySecret 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first, get her some new undies. then, try to make sure no beans before bar. if that doesnt work then i would talk to her, i would actually do that first, the others were just a joke ha ha if you didnt understand that, anyway, there has to be a reason why shes doing it, drinking, maybe the two of you need to work something out, where maybe you didnt even know there was something wrong. maybe shes going thru something, or perhaps she need help, from something higher than you. but she needs your support, you shouldnt threaten with divorce. guys always do that when theres a problem cause they lack some serious communication skills. and they just dont want to deal with things. if anything a divorce would just make things harder on her, if you love her stay with her and help her, but dont punish or threaten her. plan something to do together that doesnt involve drinking for a day and spend time and talk. but dont throw it all in her face to make her mad. just let her know your worried.
2006-06-21 15:31:25 · answer #3 · answered by loveboatcaptain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife just needs to be checked into rehab. She has a major issue with booze.
Its hard to believe a woman is that uncouth and disgusting, but I guess a lush bar-fly type will do anything..
I can think of nothing else to say except get her check in to dry out and don't let her leave until she gets the proper amount of counseling and dry time.
Good Luck.
2006-06-21 15:26:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure your wife's really a girl? Come on now, I know a few women, and have seen them totally wasted at the bars, to the point they got carried out. But I've never seen one regularly $hit herself, and leave her undies lying on the floor. Seriously, thats a guy thing, and a really nasty guy at that.
2006-06-21 15:27:18 · answer #5 · answered by shocktrooper342003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that your wife has serious problems perhaps it might have a little to do with the fact you find your sons bad behaviour amusing, or perhaps she is just too messed up to control her life and your child's, but from the sounds of things one of you needs to grow up and take some serious actions and decisions before you both ruin life for the 3 of you.
2006-06-23 15:33:10 · answer #6 · answered by Ragamuffin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just don't think i would go into another bar with her as far as the drinking goes i no how you feel that crap gets old in a hurry ,if what you say is true she has no respect for you or her self about you leaving or staying with her only you can decide that it wouldn't be fair to you or her to say either way
2006-06-21 15:29:32 · answer #7 · answered by sclady62001p 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her if she can't stop shting herself when you take her out she's going to have to stay home. The bar you go to doesn't notice she's doing this? Next time ask her loud enough for people in the vacinity to hear, if she sht her self again and when she's going to stop embarrassing you and herself.
2006-06-21 15:48:14 · answer #8 · answered by STACEY S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a picture on Hotornot.com and let the score she gets decide... Or even better... Put that decision on ebay and have people bid on what you should do... You could make some money and not have to make a hard decision.
2006-06-21 16:47:39 · answer #9 · answered by dudeabides 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
eww gross if u've already warned her, divorce her hun she wont stop if shes too far gone but if u love her enough give her another chance and try to get her help but it is totally up to u and what u wanna do
2006-06-21 15:26:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do an intervention and pack her off to dry out or an AA meeting
2006-06-21 15:22:36 · answer #11 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋