I thought we were so happy.I was anyway.I had family responsbilities that kept me busy but I gave him all my love and attention.Now he thinks we should cool it .Should I still talk with him?We talk at least every other day.
2006-06-21 14:53:21 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have been together 3 and a half years.
2006-06-21 14:58:24 · update #1
I don't have any kids I just take care of my mother.I guess he just wanted to use me.
2006-06-21 15:00:32 · update #2
We are both artists and writers.Maybe I mistook passion and lust for love.I'm not a whole lot more mature than he is.I had a sheltered life.But I do feel need for more commitment.
2006-06-21 15:12:15 · update #3
Thanks for all the thoughtful answers so far.I never bought him anything expensive just birthday and christmas.He's spent a lot on me and still does.
2006-06-21 15:24:36 · update #4
hey andymuzic you're sweet . andy is his name too.
2006-06-21 17:17:38 · update #5
I know this is the last thing you want to hear hun but "He's right". I think it took him all this time to face the fact that he was only taking advantage of the fact that an "older woman" was in love with him. I'm certain, there was love there for you. Deeply, I'm sure at one point but not deep enough to overcome the age factor and love you unconditionally. Do you know how great knowing that is on a young guys ego. Your relationship to him was a whirlwind at first but now the wind died down. It's ok to talk to him. There is nothing wrong in that. But don't try to play the sympathy card. He'll only come back for the wrong reasons. Good luck hun and look forward to the rainbows. They get brighter everytime and the right one will last forever.
2006-06-21 15:18:18 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel Good about yorself honey! He was with you for a few years. He absolutely did not use you! It was over 3 years not 3 days. Sometimes people just move in different directions. That does not mean anything was wrong with you. You are a beautiful woman and I don't even have to know you to tell you that. You are just feeling sorry for yourself right now but try not to make excuses and blame yourself. Obviously he saw certain qualities in you not only physically but emotionally also. It is not easy to break free from someone that you love but instead of talking to him every other day try twice a week and do not call him. Let him see that you are strong even if you do not feel like you are. Concentrate on yourself right now. When you go out do little things like hold the door for people, smile at the person behind the deli counter, tell people you do not know to have a nice day, and just keep smiling and you will glow! Do not be too happy or people will think your nuts. But before you know you will radiate that on to someone else and they will appreciate you for who you really are. Take it from someone who knows.
2006-06-21 22:45:15 · answer #2 · answered by gemini23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't. You two are at two completely different places in life. He is no where near the level of mature you're looking for. You weren't buying him stuff, were you? He may have just been using you, or decided that the relationship with you was too intense for him. You may require commitment he can't give you.
Here's the bottom line... you must be hot if that guy was interested in you. Get yourself decked out and go find a new man who really wants to be with you. Men are out there looking for someone like you. Join toastmasters... or a book club, or an organization that will allow you to meet decent men. You can find much better! And get some girlfriends to support you. Sounds like you're a little short in the support structure department!
Best of luck!
2006-06-21 22:01:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 42 also. What are you doing with someone so young? I'm not trying to be judgmental but there is essentially no wisdom with someone that age,they don't have the equipment we do at 42 to understand life as deeply. How did you find any camaraderie? You really need to find someone close to our own age because the young ones change too rapidly for any kind of stable relationship. I'm sorry you had this happen but it happened for a reason, hopefully you don't have any children with him, that would be rather bad for you both. I hope you find someone for you that will love you and understand your affection. You will, I have faith.
2006-06-21 22:06:01 · answer #4 · answered by soniaatcalifornia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iv read some of the answers you`ve recieved and some people can be crule, but don`t let that bother you. 27 and 42 fifteens years, for many people that is`nt a problem its how well you get on in all things that matters. he may have a problem with your age, but is there any chance that it maybe the fact that you have a full time job at home? i know this can take alot of your free time, so maybe you should talk to him about this. best of luck andymuzic
2006-06-21 22:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by andymuzic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid dating men that much younger going forward. The sad truth is 99.99% of men prefer younger women or at least women their age.
You are at a distinct disadvantage dating someone that much younger than you. Besides, why do you want such a young one? You two are worlds apart intellectually and in terms of life experience and life phase. Not to mention the sex. A man your age knows much better how to please a woman than a younger one would.
You are living in different worlds. I'd let him go now. It will only hurt more the longer you hang on.
2006-06-21 22:27:07 · answer #6 · answered by all1g8r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing that comes to mind is MILF. Maybe you don't have kids, so I could be wrong there. Maybe he wanted someone older for the experience or he felt something for you but realized he needed someone his own age to relate to and do things more around his age group. Love comes and goes, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Good luck to you.
2006-06-21 21:57:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he thinks that way, there isn't much you can do to change his mind. However, after being away from you for a while he might realize you does love you and your age difference won't matter. Just be patient -- even though it is so hard!
2006-06-21 21:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he needs space as it all maybe going to fast for him.
He's quite younger than you and still has alot of living left - maybe he feels tied down in the relationship!
2006-06-21 21:56:04 · answer #9 · answered by Beccygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he is right. Find someone your own age. He is young, he doesnt want to settle down just yet. Let him go. If he doesnt respect you and love you for who you are, then I say find someone else!
2006-06-21 22:00:47 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Shelby♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋