I am 22 years old and a recent graduate of Graduate School. I am a virgin and VERY ready to have sex. I am not waiting for Mr. Right but I want to make sure I'm not with Mr. Wrong. I've noticed in myself that I am very reserved in many things UNTIL I do it once then I am very comfortable and I think that thats why I am still a virgin. I am currently "seeing" (not bf/gf but dating) a great guy and I would like to see it go farther. Any suggestions or comments on my situation? (I know thats not much of a question but more of a desire for information)
2006-06-21 14:41:54 · 37 answers · asked by TheBigV 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow good for you!! you obviously have your priorities in order, if you have waited this long then dont just throw it away, but if you feel like this guy is worthy of your virginity then go for it however if you have any doubts then your brain is prolly saying he not the right one. good luck, and make sure you are relaxed and comfty or it will not be a great experiance.
2006-06-21 14:47:31 · answer #1 · answered by austinandjomasmama 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, you have done SOOOO well until now! Why blow it by figuring you should have sex just for the sake of having sex? Wait until you are married (yep, I know it's old fashioned,but it's still the truth) and you will be EVER so glad you waited to be able to give your husband the gift of yourself in an unsullied way. I did it the most wrong way there is to do it, and I speak from experience... I wish with all my heart I had waited to give the gift of my virginity to my husband. Whatever you decide, don't cheapen it by making it for no reason other than you wanted to get it over with. You might not think about this right now, but you will be older and wiser and maybe even someones mother someday. What would you say if it were YOUR 22 year old daughter or baby sister asking this?
2006-06-21 14:50:22 · answer #2 · answered by themom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we think the first person we make love to, (not sex) is the one we want to spend the rest of our lives with. It is also a very emotional event. Some women I have met have expressed remorse over their first times because of the way that some men treat the event. I am sorry to say but I think you are a very special women to still be a virgin at 22 and that maybe you should look at why you have waited instead of looking for either Mr. Right or he still might wind up being Mr. Wrong.
2006-06-21 14:49:50 · answer #3 · answered by dadx2boys1971 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a 22 year old virgin? I applaud you.Don't do it just because you have a desire to. Questions? how long have you been seeing this guy?Do you feel he is Mr right?If not why would you give yourself to him?If you have a good relationship with guy. why does sex have to come into the picture?Keep seeing him and see where the relationship goes first.Find out his true feelings for you.Sex or no sex should not make any difference.Please practice safe sex.For he might not be a virgin.
2006-06-21 15:01:52 · answer #4 · answered by dreamweaver021557 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you will ALWAYS remember and recall your first time. It can be a horrible experience if its not done with the right person.
Second, sex complicates relationships. There are expectations and understandings that must be met first, its not an easy step. (it can and will break many relationships)
Finally, it is something to be cherished not "justdoit" or "get it over with". Don't treat it as an expectation or a step towards womanhood.
When the time is ready you will do it.
2006-06-21 14:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by aliasasim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, 1st off CONGRATS!
Now in regards to your need of info, I personally wouldn't as you put it "just do it".
It's understandable that you are VERY ready to have sex, but you've waited this long don't just because you want to see if thing will go further, sleep with this guy. This may actually back fire on you, might give him the wrong impression and in turn he might not take you seriously.
If you are interested in this guy, pursue a relationship with him, see how you feel and what your heart is telling you. If after a while you still feel as though you want to sleep with him.... then girl BY ALL MEANS; ENJOY IT!!!! But don't "just do it" to do it!
OH...PS, remember to use protection if you do decide to go through with it! :-)
2006-06-21 14:54:01 · answer #6 · answered by PROMISCUOUS SEDUCTION 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You waited this long for a reason, because you probably value your virginity. Don't just do it with anyone to 'get use to it' because once you lose it, you've lost it. Wait for Mr. Right because doing it with Mr. Wrong is just that, wrong.
Plus, why do you want to get "use to it" so you can then go **** anyone you want because you don't care now about yourself because you're not a virgin? That would be very STUPID.
2006-06-21 14:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be what you want. Virgins aren't missing out on anything! You relationship can go farther without having sex. Remember you only lose it once and you will remember it forever.
Most of the girls I know are envious of our 20 year old friend that is a virgin.
2006-06-21 14:46:52 · answer #8 · answered by Maimee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I envy you for waiting. I wish that I had waited longer. If the person is special and you think it feels right then go for it. Only you can know in your heart and it seems you have already made up your mind. Just be careful, there are so many diseases out there to be careful of.
2006-06-21 14:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by jetskichick25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that you are more worried about not losing your virginity than anything else. When the time is right you will regardless of what anyone else says. If you have the time to worry about something you already control you should see someone professional or maybe life is just longer for you.
2006-06-21 14:52:43 · answer #10 · answered by andyman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋