We talk about it. We talk about our bodies. Talk about moving in together. Having babies. Etc. But do not do the deed. We kiss each other. And are romantic with each other. We are both madly in love with each other, we both feel like we are soul mates. He is an old fashioned gentleman and likes to take things slow.
In his past he has had girlfriends that he has slept with right away. I just got out of a 4 year marriage to a jerk, he was my first sexual partner and my only.
Why is he waiting with me? Do you think that it could be because he is in love with me and is not a lust thing? It's not that he isn't turned on by me either. He always leaves very aroused.
2006-06-21 14:30:10 · 14 answers · asked by bellacervantes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's gay. Just kidding. Does he know that you want to? Maybe he is scared because he isn't sure if thats what you want and he doesn't want to lose you. You should ask him WHY don't we have sex. Start the conversation, you never know what you'll find out until you try. Good luck.
2006-06-21 14:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by hailtotheredskins1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned the fact that he has had girlfriends in the past that he has slept with right away, this here might be the reason why.
Although it is rare now a days to find a man like this, some men tend to sleep around and just not care too much about a specific woman at a specific time. However, once they feel they have found the right one, they want to make sure nothing goes wrong and well for a lot of men "something wrong" in a relationship usually ends up being about sex.
He might just be apprehensive about the whole thing.
If this is something that is really bothering you, I recommend you talk to him about it. Find out why, tell him that although you feel loved and cared for, and you are as content as can be, you don't feel "lusted after"; which every women without exception, loves to feel as if someone, a man in most cases, is lusting after them.
GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-06-21 21:44:36 · answer #2 · answered by PROMISCUOUS SEDUCTION 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is just being a gentlemen. He obviosly has a lot of self control which many guys don't seem to have. You might have to do a little pushing but then again it shows he loves you for you and isn't trying to use you and dump you and that shows a lot of character. I understand the sex thing as it is hard to go without but it doesn't seem to get things going in faster on the relationship and future together track by jumping into bed with a guy either. I think you shoud talk to him as I don't think he is going to be scared off because he obviously cares for you.
2006-06-21 21:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by reallyfedup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe he is taking things really slow and wanting to be cautious. He knows you just got out of a marriage and you might be vulnerable and he wants you to feel safe, loved, respected and cared for. I'm sure he also wants to love you in other ways, sex isn't the only way to express love. If I was him, I'd be afraid of ruining a good thing by rushing into sex with someone I really care about.
2006-06-21 21:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is a true gentleman and wants to take things slow instead of rushing and wrecking a good thing. He has respect for you which is a quility to admire. You are a very lucky woman to have a man so special in your life!
2006-06-21 21:40:32 · answer #5 · answered by errinella2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That makes as much sense as a truckload of sandwiches in Ethopia and everyone is standing at the back smelling the aroma and looking at the feast but no one will eat. There is more to the question than is being told.
2006-06-21 21:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by andyman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's being a good guy and is willing to wait. i wouldn't worry about it. maybe he just wants to do the right thing by you. its sweet.
2006-06-21 21:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by rhiannon507 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is afraid that your still on the rebound and he doesn't want to take advantage you or maybe he wants to propose to you first.
Ask him.
2006-06-21 21:39:02 · answer #8 · answered by Zacko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered the fact that he might respect you?
2006-06-21 21:33:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do the same thing, but how long have you been with him,,,,,,, after that ill tell you was up...
2006-06-21 21:35:53 · answer #10 · answered by Miguel B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋