How should I react to my fiance saying that he likes to look at women and go to strip clubs???

Question

Its just simple, my boyfriend told me that he likes to go to strip clubs because the moves that the girls do make him think of the things that he wants me to do for him. He says that he just likes to look. But how can you look at a girl with a hanging P****? What is sexy about that? I even did some work to my body (not surgery, just a little weight gain in all the right places) to make him more attracted to my body, but he had the nerve to tell me that he just likes to look at women. What should I do or say to him??????????

Answer 1

I hope that really pisses you off. If you take this bull before you get married he will not change when you are. He may say he will and you might even believe him or expect him to but he won't. Think long and hard before you marry this loser. Stop the pain now hun. Good luck.

Answer 2

Lose him. If it is something that is disrespectful to you (which it would be to most women) and that you don't agree with then you need to leave him. Obviously he has no respect for you or how you feel. He must not be that in love with you if he can't respect your feelings. It seems just like he does what he wants and doesn't care about the consequences or if there are any. You need to have respect for yourself and get up and leave. No man respects a woman who doesn't respect herself.

And I don't like how people are saying he is a man, what's wrong with looking? He is not just glancing or looking at women in the mall or something, he is going to a strip club like a perv. He is not just looking, it seems like an obsession. There are decent men out there who don't go to strip clubs because it is sleezy and trashy, or they have a girlfriend or wife, what can he see there that he can't see or actually have at home? And as for the boys who would get mad at their friend for not going- maybe they should stop hanging out in such a sleezy place and get a girlfriend. I don't care what anyone else says or what he says, he is going there to get off. And you need to lose him, you really do! There are decent men out there, and men who will love you and accept you the way you are, a man who truely loves you won't need to go to a whore house to get off, he will respect you and above all he won't expect you to change who you are. But you can't expect this guy to change either, just dump him, you already told him how you feel. He obviously doesn't care. Find another guy who will treat you right. Period.

Answer 3

Get rid of him. If he's your fiance he shouldn't already be looking at nude women. Maybe in 5 to 10 years but right off the bat that's no way to start. Looking at an attractive girl on the street is one thing a strip joint is another. Shouldn't he be spending the money towards your future together?

Answer 4

well you have to let him know that you are uncomfortable with that knowing that he likes going to strip clubs an looking at other women if he has a woman at home why does he go an look at the same body parts that you have an you are his girlfriend not those girls so ask him whats the thrill sometimes you have to just stand up for yourself i know everyone gets scared especially me but be brave an tell him an ask him to stop that you do not like this type of behavior from him

Answer 5

I am going to turn this around on you. Haven't you ever admired a good looking man? Haven't you ever taken a peek at his shoulders, or abs, or even his rear? The only difference between staring at someone in public and going to a club is these people are paid to take off their clothes, NOT anything else.

You need to understand that men are visual creatures. They like to look, as they are stimulated by visual representations. You must understand that his looking at other women does not in any way reflect how he feels about you, nor his desire for you.

You should be glad that he can be honest with you about this, many men find the need to sneak around or lie about it. If he has the confidence to tell you about it, then you must realize that he has faith that you will trust him, thus making him more honest with you.

Perhaps you could talk to him about this, but I get the feeling that you perhaps are personally offended that he enjoys looking at women's bodies. Don't be. It's a guy thing, and you will either need to accept that this is part of who he is, or dump him. Is it worth losing him because of it?

Answer 6

He doesn't find the women attractive. Most men do! Your lucky! You said that he told you, "It reminds him of what he wants me to do." He is thinking about you alot, meaning you really turn him on. Basically, he loves you, but there is a sexual side of him that needs to be fed, and so he goes to the strip joint. Kepp in mind, most guys like to imagine other women. He is putting your body i ntheir moves, which is basically the opposite. If you really want him to stop, try doing something crazy and different. Hell, act like a stripper one night, it will really turn his crank.

Don't listen to these feminist dumbasses, they don't know what they are talking about. Understand, men love sex, and they can do it at ANY TIME EVER! Every man in the world, while they may not go because of something they must prove to a relationship, they love to see any woman nude. If you dumped him, your basically ignoring the truth, and the next guy will be the same, but you have these ideas set in fro mthe first guy, until you give up on men. Follow my advice. This is a stupid reason to dump him.

Answer 7

I don't think he has exclusive feelings for you. He sounds like he goes there alot and he has you already. Don't you find it disrespectful? He could doing things with you instead of going to strip clubs. He isn't sensitive to your feelings. Have you ever gone to these clubs with him or does he not want you going with him. Do you know about the VIP rooms. He might be doing stuff in there with the strippers. It just sounds like you're too conservative and sensitive for this guys machismo attitude.

Answer 8

Nothing. Just because people like to look at others don't mean nothing. Its when they touch that means there is a problem. Go with him. Have a great time! Buy Carmen Elektras (spelling?) strip tease work out videos. They will teach you the moves you need to know.

Answer 9

Honey, as long he is just looking and not touching and still comes home to you -- don't sweat it.

Remember, women think differently than men when it comes to sex. Do you like to look at naked men. Try going to a male strip club and see how you like and see if he gets uptight about.

If he gets uptight, then drop the bomb -- that "road" goes two ways and you have just as much right to look at naked men as he does at naked women. That may wake him up a little. I have found that men like to have what they want and they want their women to have what the men tells them to have. So shake him up a little and go to a few male strip clubs. You may not enjoy it but he doesn't have to know that. You may see a big change in him and where he goes!

Answer 10

I would be offended. To be honest with you, there is something wrong with this picture, because you seem to have gone out of your way to please him, but he doesn't seem to be satisfied or appreciate your efforts. I wouldn't believe for one minute that he just likes to look at women, remember, they are naked, not dressed. As the old saying goes, there are a lot of fish out there in the sea, maybe it's time for you to start looking for a new one that can love, accept, and appreciate you more.

Answer 11

Tell him to have a good time. If the love between you are true, he will come home. If he dont come home cause you let him go to a strip club, well that is good for you, cause you need not waste anymore time with a guy that dont love you.