Materialistic?

Question

Are all women superficial on choosing their man. Don't they realize that it is best to choose a man who is working towards a goal rather than on who seems to have everything but doesn't have a legitimate purpose in life. For exampl, A guy who is in college trying to become a doctor but does not dress nice because he does not know how. Or I smooth talking guys that is appealing to their eyes but sells drugs or works somewhere else but dresses nice. In my opinion if the women chooses the guy who does know how to dress right and teach him, it would be better and they grow together, which in turn blossoms the relationship. What are your thoughts? Oh.. I need your ages (Research)

Answer 1

I've thought up most of what you've said, except, no one who is independent needs someone to teach them about themselves.

When people can take care of themselves, man or woman, then they can have a relationship, and can spend more time being in love. Why else should you waste your time with relationship? Sex without love becomes monotonous. Conversations without substance become tedious.
If the other person doesn't inspire you in some way, then your just in a control game. If that works for you, great. But, I think most people are just compromising on life too much. And they end up in a situation that's just convenient. Women cry they need to take care of their guys. Now they've given up. They put up with it and if a guy has a brain, some class and can talk to you, he's gay or something. Guys just play into girls' compromised attitudes toward men and just hang around cuz they need sex. It's biology and psychology. Not much independent thought anymore. Do you have passion, or are you stuck in second best?

Eric, 26

Answer 2

Okay bastard, here's the thing... not all women are superficial in choosing a 'mate' but some are, so those are the facts. You just have to find the woman that's right for you and accepts you for dressing like a bum now.

My age is 102, I was born in 1904.

Answer 3

Yes, women are superficial in choosing their man. At least as far as I've seen. She should probably choose the guy who doesn't care to dress nice evn if he did know how. Choose someone who dresses as he pleases, to please himself and women who would like him that way. He probably is being real in most other ways too then. Isn't that what most women say they want? Someone honest and real, with himself and her too? A doctor usually wears scrubs I think. I'm 42

Answer 4

In some cases it is what catches your eye first. However, for some of us it isn't the materialistic stuff at all. When I met my husband 25 years ago he didn't really catch my eye as quickly as his friend did, however, getting to know them both I really became more attracted to my husband now.

My husband didn't dress nice, actually jean and a white t-shirt was about it for him. And, he owned nothing that didn't fit on the back of his motorcycle. Actually, he would make jokes about that like he had pride in it.... We eventually started to date, got married and grew together. We have been married for 20 years and he actually has lots of colored shirts now. We live in a nice home and I couldn't ask for more....

Answer 5

Um, I'm between 13-19,

I am somewhat materialistic, because I am a hopeless romantic and love the whole roses thang on Valentines day. However, sometimes I love it when a poor guy does something sweet to me. Because a poor guy has bearly any money, so if he buys somethang for me, he must've went out of his way to do it, but a rich guy buying me flowers, that's cheap in a way that I don't care about the flowers as much as I would've with the poor guy. I try not to be a gold digger, I actually used to try to like guys for money but I can't help but get digusted of myself. Sometimes guys with too much money are naturally cocky and disrespectful. I don't like cocky guys for bfs, I like shy and loyal ones instead.

~Hope this helps your research
Amor Siempre
Joyce / Travieza

Answer 6

"A guy who is in college trying to become a doctor but does not dress nice because he does not know how."

where is that guy? if u know such please let me know.
u must be speakin the other way round. guys are getting materialistic, have u ever seen any single rich girl?!
no one seems to be looking for a girl for a loveable and respectful relationship, or at least to be friend with, all they care about is what's in their pants, not knowing that there are a whole world outside of it.

Answer 7

there is a match for everyone in this world. you cant choose a man just on his job. attraction has a large role in becoming a couple. it would be great if every guy had a great job to go with the package but there has to be someone nearer the bottom of the barrel when it comes to jobs. dont be such a snob

Answer 8

I'm 21, have had lots of girlfriends. I do work, but also go to school - and still don't know what I want to do with my life.

Don't know why so many girls like me - I'm just a regular dude - nothing special - not much money. BTW don't want to sell drugs or be a doctor. :D

Answer 9

well.... an sn like "bastard" isnt impressive.... id rather have the one who was reaching towards his goal... then atleast id know he is ambitious and wouldnt flake out on a relationship and then teach him how to dress.. a hell of a lot easier to deal with than a guy who needs to kick some bad habits...

age: 15

Answer 10

I prefer guys, that are not materalistic, dosnt matter about their education weathr they are harvard educated or not, as long as they have strong work ethics and strong family ethics I am happy, proof in this is I married my husband and he is one of the worst dressers I know! But I love him because he is himself daggy or not, educated or not, he had good work ethics, and is family orientated (improtant because I had and he has kids from a previous marriage) WE dont care about nice cars fantastic homes or the lastest in hi tech gizmo's. The basis for happiness is within your self.

Age 33