Should I talk to my daughters about sex if they are 11 and 12?

Question

We've had the period talk, but talking with them about sex freaks me out! I need good advice.

Answer 1

ABSOLUTELY!!! Girls these days are approach earlier and earlier! They are more curious earlier and earlier! If you do not give them the health clean side of it they may get nothing good out of it. They should know the good, bad and the ugly and why abstinence is the best for unmarried women. Also, explain if it were to happen they should demand protection and not be afraid to speak to you after, with you promising not to wild out! GOOD LUCK! I have a 7yr old and a 1 yrd old, you are lucky two in one, I have to talk to one and then the other years and crazier times later.

Answer 2

I AM 12 AND I NO ALL ABOUT ALL THAT STUFF
I LEARNED IN SKOOL AND TV.

anyways, you should talk 2 them about this because its important, would you rather let your children learn the truth the right way or the wrong way.sooner or later they'll find out and its better 2 hear it from sum1 wiser than hear from a 15 yr old that doesnt no nothing about life.

anyhow, start by talking about babies and ask them how and where babies come from which they should already no this concept and evntually you'll start talking about sex.explain 2 them in the least mature way considering that by there age they r still unmature 2 hear about this but they do need 2 hear it in sumway. anyways , keep it simple and dont mention ALL the details mention the minor details and when they get older u can tell them the rest they will then already no everything there is 2 no about it

Answer 3

You really need to talk to them about sex. Good factual info is sufficient. I think teens who get NO talk end up pregnant more often than teens who get too much info. You should tell them about the facts (according to how much you want to tell) and then tell them your personal opinions because I think that has more influence than straight moral messages with kids such as "don't have sex until you are married." If you are going to say something like that you need to have a list of reasons why you feel that way. Create an environment that makes your kids feel comfortable to ask questions. If you think you should not talk to them about it I advise you to go to any website on pregnancy and read the boards and hear all the scary questions coming from 12 and 14 about "I kissed a boy, could I be pregnant?" and "I heard you can't get pregnant if you are on your period so we did it, could I be pregnant?" and all sorts of other terrifying questions that should have been answered in "the talk" that the parents obviously failed to give. If you are really uncomfortable take your them to a OBGYN for their first checkup and they can ask any questions they have in private.

Answer 4

I'm not a parent, so maybe I'm not the one to be giving advice, but I can very easily remember their side. I was first propositioned for sex by a guy when I was 9 years old. You need to talk to them. Even if they already know a lot, it means more to hear it from your mom than a friend or a friend's parent or on TV. It's just a part of life--don't be afraid to discuss it. I wish that my mom had told me more when I was a young teen. Maybe I would have known how to better deal with some very sticky situations when I was 14/15 years old.

Answer 5

You should have already. My daughter is 8 and has come home from school with some stories. I may have already told her too much. If she knows some I usually tell her. There have been a few things she wanted more info. about that I told her had to wait until I felt she would understand better. Try to get an idea from them of what they know. Let them ask questions. This way you can correct them if needed. Try not to laugh, scream, or cry. Then when you get finished talking, get to yourself and scream. haha

Answer 6

My daughter is 11 and I don't come out and say ok lets talk about sex, but if she were to ask about it I would certainly tell her what she wants to know. If you don't she will go elsewhere and that is even scarier than sitting down with her telling her yourself. At least you are certain that she is getting the facts and not a bunch of bs from her friends.
Good luck

Answer 7

Sex its something natural, so why don't talk to them about it?
Kids these days are exposed to sexuality at very young ages, that's not a big secret. They are also a lot of diseases that can be prevented with the correct information, and I'm not forgetting about pregnancy in teenagers which its a big problem. So the best its to have a nice chat with your daughters and make them believe you are their inconditional friend, so they don't will have to look for answers outside home.

Answer 8

OH my goodness yes, you'll be surprised about how much kids already know! I'm the kind of parent that kind'a keep my kids sheltered they get a chance to go and do but not everywhere and everything. But kids are intrigued by the unknowing. They get info from every where. You want them to have the right information and not be miss lead,you also want to know how much do they know already and at a young age by talking about it they will be open with you and talk to you so they wont think its this secretive thing that they can not discuss with you.

Answer 9

Absolutely. Positively. Yes. One of the first deliveries I assisted on in medical school was a 12 year old girl. She wasn't sure how she got pregnant, was in labor, and thought her baby would burst out of her abdomen during the delivery and that our job was to stitch her up (like the movie Alien). If you can't talk with them, go to Borders and ask for a book or two for them to break the ice.

Answer 10

My mother never talked w/ me about sex. her idea of teaching me was having me watch a Nova program on how a woman gets pregnant & how a baby is formed.
Really you should talk to them. while it's true that by now they've either learned stuff from thier friends and/or sex ed, they need to hear from you that it's okay not to have sex until they are ready. Even though we don't think so, our kids really do absorb what we tell them. Even bad stuff.