i have a 2 year old daughter and every time my boyfriend comes around she starts crying and screaming!
2006-06-21 13:51:50 · 26 answers · asked by x0x_puresweetness_x0x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
has he done anything to her? thats weird . maybe theres something about him that she just doesnt like and i think u should get down and dirty and find out what that is.. may not be something that happened... he could have some features she just dont like like my 2 yr old daughter doesnt like men with beards and mustaches she cries....so figure it out and if u cant figure it out.. maybe letting him go is for the best
2006-06-21 13:54:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A two year old daughter? Hating someone? Are you sure it's hatred that she is expressing? It could be jealousy, or sorrow, or anger, and it could be for any number of reasons. I think it's a bit premature to assume that it's hatred, and that he is a bad person because a baby cries around him.
Now, it is possible that it is hatred, and children do seem to have an intiution concerning such things that we don't. The problem is, we really don't know what the children are really trying to say. It could be a warning sign, or it could be his hair, or glasses, or his cologne. I had a daughter who would be scared of bubbles in a bathtub!! We thought that she didn't like bathing, but it was the bubbles that formed as she was being washed. I would say that before you believe that a child hates someone, or even just doesn't like them, you really have to take a much closer look at the situation, and eliminate all other possibilities. Perhaps you have done this already, but if you haven't, I would suggest that you do. It may not be as bad as you think it is. I don't think you should break up with him because of that.
2006-06-27 06:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by Earl G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't break up with him because of how my 2 year old is acting. Lots of things could be scaring her. Maybe you can hold her and sit down and talk to him. Ask him not to pick on her or make goofy faces towards her. Just you and him talk on an adult level and let her see that you are carrying on a conversation with him. Later on (after a few visits) you can both maybe sit in the floor and pass a ball back and forth to each other and then maybe she will want to intervene and play also. This will probably take some time but its probably just a phase she is going through. Tough it out and give it some time. Assure her while she is upset, but don't react suddenly to her being upset (meaning ridicule or scold or anything that will attract any negative attention) and sooner or later she will get out of this stage.
2006-06-21 21:03:58 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you leave her with a babysitter when he comes around? She may be connecting you leaving, her every time he shows up. If this is the case, then do things where she can be apart of it some times. Assuming this is the problem, then when you and your boyfriend plan to go out, put her to bed before you leave home. In time, she will get use to the idea ofthe two of you together. As long as she's is included in the fun once in awhile.
2006-06-21 21:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when a child is introduced to someone new it takes them a while to get used to the person. This is often mistaken for abuse or dislike. The truth is your two-year old is not used to sharing you with a stranger, but once the guy warms up to her she will be fine. Do not allow your life to be controlled by this crying and screaming. Give it a while and maybe have him come with you to the park and play with her or take her somewhere she will enjoy. Good luck
2006-06-21 20:57:03 · answer #5 · answered by Kay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. She will have to get over it. She may just be acting up whenever you bring a boyfriend home. You could dump this one and end up with the same thing happening with the next one. You should not let a 2 year old child decide who you date.
2006-06-21 20:55:33 · answer #6 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think she hates him. I dont think anyone at such a young age is capable of hatred. Babies tend to be very shy or in some cases will cry when they are around people that they are not familiar with. Maybe you three can do some activities together as a family, so she can get more familiar with him, and this will allow her to see that he means her, or you no harm.
2006-06-21 23:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by Sher-Sher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use to hate my mom's boyfriend too, so I know how it fells. You should probably try to get your daughter to do something with the both of you sometime, this may find some things of common interest. If this doesn't work do what you fell is the right thing.
2006-06-21 21:02:04 · answer #8 · answered by jordan b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have done something you do not know about. Get her help and you may have a big surprise. It is not natural for a child that age to act like that. Something happened unless her father is putting ideas in her head but she is even a little young for that. I suspect the boyfriend did something besides just visit you.
2006-06-21 20:58:27 · answer #9 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all she is too young to HATE! Second you might want to ask yourself this question. Does he do something to make her not like him? Or is she just a momma's girl looking for attention? It might not be him but her terrible two's. If it is only when he comes around you NEED to figure out WHY!!!
Always place your children before a fly by night man!!
2006-06-21 20:56:36 · answer #10 · answered by Maimee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋