My 4-year old daughter is very easy to get along with. She loves virtually all of the kids in her class and they all love her. The kid she bonded with first is a little boy named Henry. She and Henry are the greatest of friends. Soon thereafter, she bonded with Katherine. They adore each other too. I just found out tonight that when she and Katherine are playing, if Henry comes up and asks my daughter to play something else with him, Katherine "shoos" him away - literally, shoo shoo, go away! My daughter told me that Katherine doesn't like to play with Henry. (She also told me that when Henry comes up and tries to get her to play a different game with him, she tells him that when she's done with the game she's playign with Katherine, she'll play that game - she's very socially adept and is a natural when it comes to "playing fair).
I do NOT like to hear that one of my daughter's friends is treating another like Katherine is treating Henry. See below for more details.
2006-06-21 13:14:53 · 11 answers · asked by tagi_65 5 in Education & Reference ➔ Preschool
So what can I do to encourage my daughter to object when Katherine "shoos" Henry away? She's 4 - what can I do to ensure that she's not being forced to choose between these playground friends? Should I talk with Katherine's mother about it, and explain that it really puts my daughter in the middle? Help! I've never had a 4-year old before! BTW, this isn't a one-day deal. According to my daughter, this is a constant thing. Thanks for your help!
2006-06-21 13:16:30 · update #1
You should encourage your daughter to tell Kathrine that if Henry wants to join them in their play it is OK. I would also speak to the teacher about it. Sometimes they are unaware of these types of problems since they don't seem to be acting disruptive. Speaking to Kathrine's mom could be a big mistake. You never know how she will interpret your input. Also, at 4 kids see things differently. Any chance you could spend some time at the school during recess and watch as things take place? Hopefully you could intercede and help all the children to get along together. Hooray for you and your communication with your child. You should continue your open lines of communication because it will help as your child grows. Especially in the teenage years!
2006-06-21 14:25:56 · answer #1 · answered by LAUSDDISTRICT8MOMOFTHREE 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would continue to reinforce to your daughter that we must be polite to everyone and it is not appropriate to allow Katherine to be mean to Henry and tolerate it. That being said however, there's reason there's an adage:
Two's company three's a crowd.
This is especially true with girls. Don't create a relationship triangle for your daughter. Let her invite Henry to come over to the house and play, then.
Sounds like your daughter is a first-born and Katherine is a princess.
2006-06-21 13:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by pamspraises 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there any way to maybe have your daughter invite Henry to join in the game that she and Katherine are playing? Or even maybe play with Henry first, and then invite Katherine in to join so taht Katherine can learn to play nice.
that is a tough one with 4 year olds. Good luck!
2006-06-21 13:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by Tyrtyl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your daughter about how she reacts to Katherine telling Henry to 'shoo'. Don't talk to Katherine's mother, the kid is just four, it is not a behavioural problem.
2006-06-21 13:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
children work out their own problems over time ...to become involved only screws up things ...parents get angry they don't want your child to play with theirs'... relax . Henry may pop the little girl at some point... allow them to resolve it .... they do it better then any adult ever can!
2006-06-22 12:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by Clyde 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to talk to your daugthers teacher. She will be able to suggest different games to the children that they can play outside and she will be able to promote different social skills. She may also be able to suggest books for you to read or children's books to read to your daughter. Books can always help the children to see things in a different perspective.
2006-06-21 17:49:00 · answer #6 · answered by Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to Katherine's parents. I wouldn't be surprised if she gets it from them
2006-06-21 13:21:53 · answer #7 · answered by becca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two sister`s, when we were little we never played three at a time. we played kat and lin or cin and kat,you get the idea.so i think three is a crowd.
2006-06-21 13:45:11 · answer #8 · answered by Cynthia W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah...pre-schoolers will in no way be able to manage to pay for to pay the polltaxes that the GOP is passing in distinct states...regrettably, a good number of criminal voters will in no way be able to manage to pay for the polltaxes...
2016-11-15 02:18:14 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them work it out. They're just little kids learning life.
2006-06-21 13:24:18 · answer #10 · answered by Irish 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋