My boyfriend can getting excited and stimulated at first, but when we start to move a little further it's like he's concentrating or trying to hard and then goes soft. Sometimes he even has a hard time getting hard at all. He's told me it's not me, that he has always had this problem. When he is satisfying himself he's fine. please help
2006-06-21 13:06:41 · 17 answers · asked by nickyb 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its mostly in the mind.. maybe hes nervous about not being able to perform, just kiss and dont concentrate on having to complete anything, it will take the pressure off and in a very short time he may be able to feel comfortable enough to just be himself and not feel any pressure to perform. kissing and cuddling for longer may help. if he can do it alone there is no one there for him to feel inferior with so its easier.... his equipment obviously works so... it sounds more like a psycological kind of thing. be patient and just dont pressure him.
2006-06-21 13:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is putting too much pressure (metaphorically speaking) on himself to maintain an erection. Maybe the two of you should try abstaining totally for say a week or two. I'll bet by the end of that time, you will both be dying for it and he won't have a problem!! During this time neither of you should masturbate (especially him) yourselves or each other (!) but you should carry on kissing and cuddling together. Hope this helps! Good luck!
2006-06-21 13:11:56 · answer #2 · answered by Tatsbabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no pressure, no talk, and lots of good oral always helps! The problem is that he feels that he needs to perform and is stressing out. Give him oral and expect nothing else from his cock for a few weeks. Hopefully he returns the favor orally. After a couple weeks he'll be hard as a rock before you get to his belly.
Enjoy, I know I would!
2006-06-21 13:17:14 · answer #3 · answered by akpilotguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
erections are blood pressure related, and the erection is maintained by the flow of blood to the tissue of the penis. When blood supply is restricted to the penis due to some medical reason, it cannot fill the tissue with blood, and the erection cannot occur. Maybe he should concider using a product like viagra which would increase his ability to retain an erection long enough for both of you to be satisfied. Using viagra is not a shameful thing, and it only takes a prescription and a few dollars to buy. - and voila - no more mr softy...
2016-03-15 14:37:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him practice satisfying himself but not ejaculate. When he is close, have him practice holding off cumming. This will strengthen the muscle and help him to have longer erections. It is kind of like isometrics for erections.
Of course there are medications offered that might help, but if he can do it naturally that would be best.
Also, does he smoke? Sometimes this can be a side effect from smoking.
2006-06-21 13:13:28 · answer #5 · answered by Jim G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First he should have a complete medical work up to make sure it is not a medical problem. It could be mental. He should see a sex therapist. Then there is Viagra.
2006-06-21 13:11:50 · answer #6 · answered by Mary somersfun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men have a problem called being whack, and apparantly, your man is whack. I suggest finding a guy who has enough control over his dick to fill you with it. OR, maybe he just needs a more stimulating partner.
2006-06-21 13:12:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well get him to go see a doctor maybe viagra will help him out... I just don't see a man not getting excited when the looks at that special someone butt *** naked....
2006-06-21 13:11:06 · answer #8 · answered by Mickey7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a boyfriend who was hard like constantly.. but if i ever tryed to do anything.. he wouldnt ***.. I HAVE NO IDEA..how i could have ever acomplished..such a hard goal... and i didnt.. it sucked.."and i mean sucked" lol
i dunno what to tell yah hun.. give him time to be comfortable in your realtionship maybe hes just insicure.. just try to insure him that hes sexy and your so turned on buy him.. and maybe hell get aroused.. maybe ask him what othe rproblems he maybe thinking about.. well good luck xoxo
2006-06-21 13:13:16 · answer #9 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is sad. But I suppose that your boyfriend is not attracted towards the opposite sex ( that includes you!!!) Belive me, he has gay tendencies. You will find out this fact in the very near future and when you do, please mail me.
In the mean time, get dirty with him. get him tipsy and excite his sensual senses.
2006-06-21 13:11:53 · answer #10 · answered by debozki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋