How would u feel if ur own mother told u "u cant really sing"?

Question

I approached my momther about asking her to send me to a performing arts high school (boarding) and then she told me that. But my voice lessons teachers and every1 else tell me i can sing. It really breaks my heart that my own mother doesn't even believe in me and my dreams.

Answer 1

I always say:

please remember this


"PLEASE DO NOT TELL ME I CAN NOT DO SOMETHING UNTIL AFTER I'VE DONE IT"

What that means is the people Will try to discourage you from accomplishing what you have set out to do. if they tell you that you can't do it, it Will do to late because it will already done.

My wife is a singer will a lovely voice she sings all the time when she does the dishes, drives the car, cleans the house, she sings alone the very song in the world what I say to you is sing baby sing until your heart is content.

sing baby sing
sing baby sing
sing baby sing
sing baby sing

your mother is jealous do not let her discourage let her discouraging word add fuel to the burning desire to sing

please sing

Answer 2

Can we assume that you watched American Idol at some point over the last few seasons?
Given that assumption, then no doubt you have heard the contestants that tried out, both the bad and the good. And now, after the quality of the winner's has shined through over the competition period, you can not possibly believe that some who "thought they could sing", but couldn't were, in fact, really good, now can you? I mean in all honesty...
Look, I am tone deaf, but that does not mean that I don't know when something sounds good or bad, it means I can't tell one note on the scale from another. I LOVE TO SING TOO, but I sound like crap.
I would be hurt, yes, but when all is said and done, I would be glad that my mother did not promote a dream that may never happen, allowing you to focus on your real talents.
That being said, it is also possible that your mom may have a musical deafness as well.
So, in fairness, invite your mom to one of your singing teachers classes and have her talk to your mother about your potiential. If it is really there, your teacher will be happy to do so, and your mom probably would not have any problem being wrong.
Then, go for it, girl....

Answer 3

I think your mother was being a little harsh. I think she may have come across harsh because of the thought of paying for you to attend such a school. If money is the reason find out if the school has any scholarship programs. After doing the research approach her again with various ways of how YOU could cover the cost. There may be local high school magnet or performance art program that you can get into. Also check with your local department of recreation. These programs are usually offered free through the city/county but are very competitive. I know your feelings are hurt but don't give up. Remember parents are just big kids who sometimes make mistakes. I

Answer 4

She might be repeating something that someone told her when she was your age, but she believed it. If that's true, she may be trying to spare you from pain later on, and it just came out badly. Or, she may be afraid that you'll try to get a career singing. 99% of professional musicians go hungry, it's a tough field to get into and being good isn't enough. If your teachers are really encouraging you, have them talk to your mom about the options. Good luck, and don't worry too much about what other people (even your mom) say; if you feel like singing, then sing. The world needs more music.

Answer 5

It would be really nice if everyone, including your family supported whatever efforts you wish to undertake with encouragement and support. But since you can't expect this 100% of the time, it really has to come from within and with the support of people who are supportive. When someone who has never done anything tells you that you can't do something, they are merely projecting their own fears and failtures on you. This isn't about them, its about you.

Think about this, is your mother really qualified like your voice teacher to determine this? I doubt it. Besides, it doesn't matter how you sing now, it is the singer you will become. She might also have totally unreal expectations of what a singer should sound like and thinks if you don't start out from day one singing like a world-class singer you can't do it. What people don't realize is that everyone has to start from somewhere and improves.

I think you should discuss this also with your voice teacher and perhaps s/he can talk this over with your mother, since the voice teacher is use to seeing talent in those develop, and how important it is that your own mother being supportive to you.

Answer 6

Well, do you value her opinion or did you want her to back you financially for your dreams? If she is paying for your lessons NOW then she is DOES believe in you & IS supporting your dreams...It sounds...no pun intended....that your mother was being HONEST with you....Just tell her that she HURT your feelings so you don't dwell on this for the rest of your LIFE...OK?.....I would be mortified, pissed off & down right upset with my mother if I was a teenager at the time of asking that question. You didn't tell us if you were "arguing" about going to a boarding school before you popped that question. Perhaps there is more to this situation that needs clarification.....Think about it.....KEEP SINGING & SMILING...the world needs more people like YOU!

Answer 7

You will feel sad, but if your dream is important to you, keep trying. You can look for ways to show her that you really do have a good voice or ask a teacher to talk with her.
Look for alternate ways to achieve your goal through your current school and your voice teachers. It is only a few years now that you are still at home and after you are on your own, you won't have to ask for her help.

Answer 8

If your voice lessons teachers told you that, then surely you have talent. Either your mom hasn't really heard you, or if she heard you, you weren't at your best. I wouldn't let what she says, stop you though. Do whatever you want to do. The greatest people on earth followed what they felt inside themselves, and didn't listen to anyone else.

Answer 9

Hi. Tell her you can prove her wrong. That is what I did. They were sad to even think I wasn't good enough, but with practicing and believing myself and I had support from my teachers and friends I had courage.Good luck!
Plus, I asked my teachers to talk to my parents. Maybe you can do the same!

Answer 10

Well, mothers sometimes tell it how they see it...they can be brutally honest. Maybe she thinks that the music teachers are just after your money for lessons.

If everyone tells you you have talent and you believe in yourself, then maybe your mother is wrong, parents aren't always right, although there intentions are normally good