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Question

My boyfriend is an amazing guy, - he is everything you would look for in a husband ( and handsome on top of it all) But he is mormon and I am not quite sure if some aspects of that religion agree with me. lol.
I love him and I learned to not care about any organized religions, so I certainly dont give a crap what he does on sunday - goes to mass , synagogue or a mormon sacrament meeting, but if I were to marry him there are some really dumb things that the kids would be taught growing up in that religion....
I dont mind it at all right now - bc I love it when my man doesnt get drunk off his *** and stoned all the time, and some other great perks of that religion, but I am not positive whether I would want my children to be raised in that church. I mean I probably wont mind - but as I said - I am not sure. Do you think its stupid to be planning a future with him when I am not sure about that one tiny huge important detail?

PS And yes I do know everything there is to know about the church .
( do you really think I would be contemplating marriage without at least a looksie into what he believes)

Answer 1

He is probably everything you want in a husband because he is a Mormon. Mormons have high standards. since you would have different views on religion you would have some hard times in your marriage. Don't believe that idiot ZCT, He has no idea what he is talking about. Many Mormons marry people of other religions and they stay their own religion.
If he is such a good guy maybe you should find out why. It is probably because of his religion.

Answer 2

I am not Mormon, but I do know some people that are. The one thing you left out of this questions was weather you have talked to him about the children. I know of couples that leave this type of decision up to the children when they are old enough. It might not make a difference to him if they are raised Mormon and he might respect your wishes to not sway the children one way or another. If he does care to the extent than maybe it is not worth it because this will be a lingering issue.

Beyond the children if he is not whiling to listen to you or your opinion than you are going to have bigger issues than religion. Your spouse needs to be the first person in your life, because not to be harsh but children grow-up and move out. Your spouse is going to be, and has to be, the number one person in your life otherwise everything will fall apart.

One last thing is you DO NOT have to join the church if you get married. This is not a requirement I know couples where one person is Mormon and the other is not and it does not matter to them. The other answer to your question posted here with the link might be a little bitter toward the religion; and if you follow the advice of some link to Mormon on-line propaganda you need to do some more research. There are articles on-line that claim George Bush is an alien you can make any point and back it up with us-less trash on the net.

Answer 3

I don't know why people believe "myths" I have been a Mormon me entire life, 34 years and there is absolutely NO TRUTH to the accusations of "plagiarism" in the church(I am sure that is what you are referring to.) Yes there was plagiarism in the church YEARS AND YEARS ago, but that has long gone, there are some people who try to use the Mormon religion as an excuse to plagiarize, but the church does not practice it, nor do they teach it. If your bf has led you to believe that it does then you don't have such a "great man" as you claim. If you are really concerned about this then why don't you go in and have a meeting with the Bishop or even the relief society president and ask them to explain their beliefs to you so that at least you can make an educated decision instead of attacking a religion which you obviously know nothing about. If you have more questions that you would like to ask me you are welcome to send me an Email, click the link in my profile.

Answer 4

First, let me say that I'm LDS. I take great offense to people demeaning my church and what I believe. I don't understand why people can't leave others religion alone. We aren't a cult, we don't follow anyone but Christ! Please stop being bigoted and start doing some research before you answer questions.

Second, you don't have to convert when you marry him. There is nothing in our church that says you have to be mormon to be married to one. He will not get thrown out for marrying a non-mormon. Who you marry is up to you, and has no bearing on your relationship to God.

Next, would it be so bad to have your kids grow up with the morals and values that LDS people have? They don't necessarily have to go to church, be baptized, accept the church to have the values inlisted in them that we believe.

If you don't believe in this religion, then maybe you need to learn a little more about it so at least you understand it better.

You need to sit down with your boyfriend and talk about these things before you go any farther in this relationship. It's hard enough to marry someone of the same faith, but someone outside of your faith is even harder. You need to decide how to raise your kids before you have them. Maybe write a list of questions you have for him and then ask him, that way you won't forget anything you have worries about.

Different faiths can get along. My aunt and uncle are perfect examples. She's LDS, he's athiest. They have been married for 30+ years and are still very much in love. You just have to find a balance between what you believe and what he believes.

Answer 5

If religion isn't important to you, and it seems as if it isn't, then marry him and raise your children Mormon. However, if you actually care about religion, and want a personal relationship with Christ, then reconsider this. The Mormon religion is unusual. Their beliefs are different than protestant religions. I would hope you would already know this though. You say you like it that he doesn't get drunk off his *** and stoned. Yes, I would agree. However, many men don't do that and are not Mormon. Bottom line is this: Learn about that religion, and decide how important it is to you.

Answer 6

I think that as you mature, as you get sucked into his religion (whether you want to or not - his church will force him to convert you), as you have children & argue over the right way to raise them (with/without religion, with religion or the cult of mormonism) you will regret this for years. Also think of what affect it would have on your life and children if you were to have some. Better to get out now while it's just a little painful than later when it is potentially devastating.

Answer 7

You will be required to convert or he will be thrown out of his church. Be very careful about getting involved with a cult member. This is not a religion like going to a Christian church or being a Jew, this is a hardcore cult. Do the research. Good luck.

Update: You claim to know EVERYTHING THERE IS TO KNOW about the LDS? What an arrogant statement. If you knew even half the facts about that cult you would run a mile.

Answer 8

I've grown up in a Mormon family. I was forced to go to church every Sunday, and church activities all the time. I never really believed in it. I eventually got my parents to get off my back when I was 15. And I've been able to research religion, and find one that I believe in. My parents don't aprove... But I'm happy. So I would definately plan a future with him, but you should just ask of him that your children get to have a say in what religion they're goning to be. Don't MAKE them go to church. Don't let him baptise them unless THEY want to. It will make them happy.

Answer 9

I would be VERY careful about getting mixed up with LDS's. I believe they are heretics. They changed the Bible many times which is a HUGE no-no. And yes, they have some far out beliefs that can't be supported by the Bible. They use the book of Mormon as if it were equal to the BIble. Search for the truth yourself. Beware the LDS's.

Answer 10

I whole-heartedly agree with Beth's answer-
"Religion is a biggie when it comes to agreeing with a potential spouse. People tend to be pretty set in their ways and if you don't think you'll be able to agree on how to raise your kids, you really should consider not marrying him. This is the kind of stuff that causes divorce."

Talk to your sweetie- I'm sure he'll understand your concern. Be sure to respect what he believes- he'll appreciate it.

I really encourage the two of you to decide NOW on where each of you stand, and how you will handle certain things, like the kids' religious education.

A couple things to do to better understand where he's coming from-

Read the Book of Mormon- I don't expect you to believe it (and neither should he, yet), just read it. Let your b/f know your intent in reading the book (if you want to). Hopefully he will also be tolerant of your investigation.

Talk to other members of our church, preferably converts- they will be better able to understand your feelings. They may even give you ideas on how to deal with questions you have with various teachings.

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One more thing to consider- Jesus said, "By their fruits ye shall know them." What kind of effect do we (the LDS people) have on those around us? on our neighborhoods and communities? What are our political views? What is important to us?

Best of Luck