have problems going shopping on my own, even visiting my mother is hard. I have tried to explain to him I need my time. He just says I enjoy being with you. I enjoy his company, but there are times I want my own time.
2006-06-21 11:44:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
this is more than overprotective. It is control. After 15 years, he's probably still insecure to think someone is gonna take you away from him.
2006-06-21 11:50:03 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Mandeville 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he a control freak or is he just really so clingy, because he doesn't have any interests at all....like a hobby- or something....hmmm,...what a pain. Being overprotected and being a control freak can be both in one person, but you should be able to get to the bottom of this. Did you ever cheat on him?..or why doesn't he trust you? He has to have some kind of a life away from you- help him discover new things he can put his energy into. There must be a dynamic in your relationship that allows this to happen. Maybe you even encouraged him to cling to you all the time in the beginning- meaning- if he was with you- he couldn't be with anybody else...but now you have a hard time telling him that it's time to give each other some space . I hope you guys wok it out. I need at least an hour for myself every day....so I know how you are feeling. Work it out..and after 15 years, a certain amount of trust should have been earned - unless as I said there was some cheating going on in the past.
2006-06-21 11:58:21 · answer #2 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have allowed this man to control your every move in your life for fifteen years and now you want to be free? I am wondering why now do you want the change? The only advice I can give you from a womans point of view.. You should of never let this go on this long!! Take a stand in your own life, if you want to go then go, leave a note have dinner ready and be gone, once you have let it be known your going regardless of his blessing to allow you to, he has to change, or chain you to the door. The choices are all yours... Step up and step out life is too short to allow someone to keep you as a kept woman
2006-06-21 12:00:31 · answer #3 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs a time of their own,just tell him u love his company and all but that u need ur space.Well my boyfriend he was kind of the same all i did was that i told him that i needed some time for myself too and that for him to make me a favor and not be all around me,so as for now we r all good and happy and man it feels so good going out by myself sometimes breathing in peace.Just tell him that and im so sure there will be no regrets.
2006-06-21 11:51:41 · answer #4 · answered by ~**~**~Cute♥ baby♥ girl~**~**~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone, and I mean everyone has to have their own space. He may need counseling as it sounds like he has abandonment issues. Anything having to do with loss happen to him in his childhood? If you haven't said it already a million times, say, I enjoy being with you too, BUT I need some space, I will come back I promise. Are his parents living?
2006-06-21 11:55:36 · answer #5 · answered by myjamsandwich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, follow him every where he goes, even into the bathroom, and annoy him and then when he says he needs "me time" and then say now that you get the point, give me my time. And if he still doesn't get it, Don't let him sleep for a few days and tell him you want him to stay awake because you want to spend every minute or everyday with him because you REALLY enjoy his company
2006-06-21 11:49:13 · answer #6 · answered by monavyas15 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way you break it to him depends on if he's been like this since day one and you thought you could change him or he'll change over time or did he just recently become like that? If he just became like this ask him what's wrong, maybe something happened and it caused him to react this way. If he's been like this I'll be hard for him to change especially if you've never mentioned it before to him. I know if he was doing this in the begining, I would've told him to back the f**k up and give me space. But that's just me
2006-06-21 11:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by hairstylin_2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant make them stop my BF of 6 years in Exactly the same but no matter what he wont understand I guess if we love em then we gotta live with it or do the exact same thing to them to see if they like. It almost seems like over the years it gets worse is not where u go and with who anymore...
2006-06-21 11:52:57 · answer #8 · answered by ABC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has some insecurities that probably have nothing to do with you, it may help if you talk to him and get to what the problem really is, especially if you have never given him a reason to mistrust you in the past.
2006-06-21 11:53:42 · answer #9 · answered by Keljef99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him just what you said here... I have been married 16 years and my wife has her own life I have my own and we have each other everyone needs there own space to be an individual thats what makes us different
2006-06-21 11:50:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋