I been going out with this one girl that lives 175 miles away from me, we met online, phone and then in person we clicked pretty good and fellin love we been going out for 4 months and it's been up and down the only problem that we have is that she like to talk and hang out with guys and sometimes she keeps somethings that she does with guys becaus eshe thinks i'm going to get mad i told her that if she still wants to have fun that is better to break it off and that way we both don't keep hurting each other or that i'm trying to change her we're both 30 so i think is a good way to settle down and start thinking about the future, she's the one the wanted the relationship from the beggining, but she thinks that everything should be fine at all time regarless of what she's doing or who she's with, i'm willing to give her space and freedom but she's taking that a step too far, I tell her how i feel and she gets very defensive, she says that i dont want her to have any friends.
2006-06-21 11:15:49 · 15 answers · asked by mitsu422bishi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been in a long distance relationship for 6 months now. It's working very well for us. We have ground rules that we agreed on to make it work. We both have friends of the opposite sex that we spend time with, but no touchy feely, no kissing, no sex. We talk in some way every day (text messages, email, phone, in person). And we are honest in what we are thinking about our future. If you don't have something like this, I'd talk to her about it. Long distance relationships are hard, even if you have ground rules that you have agreed on, but they can work.
2006-06-21 11:19:39 · answer #1 · answered by Andi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a long distance relationship, and I mean long distance. We are around 500 miles apart. 8 hours driving time.
We've been together around 3 months, we met on a phone chat line and things are great. He's great with my daughter and we have fun together and we're both 25.
I do try to keep somethings from him as well only because he is the jealous type and might take things the wrong way as he has in the past.
The key to any relationship is trust and love.
2006-06-21 11:42:14 · answer #2 · answered by BbyGrl80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have a long distance relation ship if you call 4 hours that i been with this guy for more than a year and he doesn't act like her it depends how the person your in the relationship acts some times it works but it just depends on ya two but seems like she wants to be with you but maybe flirt with other guys she shouldn't get defensive when u tell her how you feel i think you might start thinking about moving on. GOOD LUCK
2006-06-21 11:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by ~sindy~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truely it can work, but for it to work it takes a lot of time. For the relationship to work you should be fully commited and being apart so often makes it hard for the relationship to grow, even stay together..so it's not the best thing to get into but if your truely in love then I think you can make it work :) hope this helped!
2006-06-21 11:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by Beauty Call 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in that situation before the best thing you can do is talk to her and explain it properly whats going on to your head and if she's still didn't listen you better give her a space to think without you in her side.
2006-06-21 11:21:14 · answer #5 · answered by Cherie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a 30 yr old male u have some needs a virtual girl isn't going to give you. and don't kid yourself about that. u are probably a very nice guy so you don't need to settle for someone who won't be faithful to you, or won't respect your feelings. it's very very difficult to communicate your feelings and attitudes over email and phone. move on to the next one old chap.
2006-06-21 11:22:47 · answer #6 · answered by ZahirJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a long term relationship for five years before I was married. We learned to communicate.
2006-06-21 11:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by Dianne T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, long dis rels don't work. I've been in one even tho I knew it wouldn't work.
Maybe you need to think bout if this is really what you want... Maybe you're better off friends.
2006-06-21 11:19:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on trust. If you trust her then it will work, but she has to trust you as well for it to work.
She sounds like she needs to grow up a little before things will work out
2006-06-21 11:22:26 · answer #9 · answered by unicopia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your distance is not far enough to let that be a factor......this is a distance that can be traveled often.....
She's not playing fair --- I'd break it off... just at least just keep it casual.......she's obviously not wanting to be "exclusive".........
2006-06-21 11:18:59 · answer #10 · answered by Uwanna Kissimmi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋