Two yrs now and a year ago he cheated on me, since then he has been very insecure. He tells me that he would rather die then be without me. He would never hurt me again and if he did he would be hurtn him. he has nightmares that I leave him, and he wakes up mad at me. He always calls me at work telling me he loves me and misses me, and then gets upset when I say I have to go. He is so short tempered tho. When we fight it gets violent. I cant stand when he is rude and hurts me and then expects me to forget about it just cuz he sed sorry. He can be very sweet and kind, but when hes not he can be my worst enemy. He doesn’t respect me. he is so controlling and knows how to make me feel like the worst person ever at times. I wanna believe he is sorry but how can someone love me and be my worst enemy at the same time? I love him with all my heart, but I think he is just tryin to convince himself that he loves me when he doesn’t. he drives me crzy/i love him and would die without him!!
2006-06-21 11:07:25 · 10 answers · asked by amanda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he doesn't respect you, he doensn't deserve you!!! leave him; you deserve better! and do you mean hurt physically? that is NOT to be tolerated physical or verbal. get a new man.
2006-06-21 11:11:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, You should die without him cause the way thing look your way aren't looking very good. And that is where he is going to put you if you don't leave him. The way he is acting is not normal. If he loves you like he says he does then he wouldn't be treating you that way. I went through that kind of crap before. I was with this guy for 3 years when I finally got the guts to get up and go. He did a lot of thing to me, like when he was drunk he had a gun and pointed at and told me that if I left if cheated on him he would hurt me. I was so tired of it that when he had that gun at me I just told him to pull it, but he didn't. the next day he did what your boyfriend is doing, apologizing. I didn't know to believe him or not cause he would say mean things to me too. So, I suggest that you leave the guy and save yourself, There are people that will help you through that if you don't have any family.
2006-06-21 11:22:08 · answer #2 · answered by dlbaca7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds abusive, get out while you still can!
heres a poem bout sum1 who diddnt
I Got Flowers Today author:unknown
i got flowers today; it wasnt my birthday or ne other special day; yesterday we got into our frist fight; he said alot of mean things that really hurt me; but i know he must be sorry, b/c he sent flowers today
i got flowers today; it wasnt our annerversiary or ne other day; last night he beat me up again; he threw me against a wall and started to choke me; it was a nightmare, i couldnt belive it was real; but i know he's sorry; b/c i got flowers today
i got flowers today; today is a very special day; it is the day of my funeral; last night he finally killed me; he beat me to death; if only i would have gotten the strenght to leave him, mabey i wouldn't have gotten flowers today
2006-06-21 11:37:40 · answer #3 · answered by jesus_freak_forever3days2grace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a bit of therapy would help a lot.
2006-06-21 11:12:47 · answer #4 · answered by rilindy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well i think that if he hurts you emotionally or physicaly that its not ture love n if yew kno the old sayin if in doubt throw it out i think thats wat it is but if not sumthin to that affect hope it helps but remember he will say sry n still do it again!! sry dosent alway work!!
2006-06-21 11:15:07 · answer #5 · answered by blondie_duh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave just leave get out befor it gets bad i was in the same spot it dosent get better
2006-06-21 11:10:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better keep him, or else like you said, you will die.
2006-06-21 11:12:47 · answer #7 · answered by silver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his selfish, he only cares about himself. don't put up with his attitude. you don't deserve it, loads of guys can make you happy and better than him.
2006-06-21 11:12:37 · answer #8 · answered by Cherie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he dosent respect you he dosent love you
2006-06-21 11:09:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has gotten used to you.
2006-06-21 11:11:51 · answer #10 · answered by myangel_101211 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋