theres this boy in school that i like hes kind of shy so things just started heatin up a month ago .but now its summer so i cant c him cause he lives kind of far how can i get the guts to call him because he told me to call him so hes waiting for me to call but its been 1 week and hes prbly givin up on me......what will help me raise my guts
2006-06-21 10:52:55 · 18 answers · asked by larysa_diaz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im only 12 and he has no e-mail
2006-06-21 10:58:08 · update #1
keep telling yourself "you can do this" and pick up the phone and call.
2006-06-21 11:02:31 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ohhhh.... go ahead and call him. When you are in high school everyone seems to fret about these things. What is it going to hurt to call him. He is probably wondering why you did not. When you get older people do not care about what others thinks about what they do so... much as when you are younger. What is it going to hurt????not a thing. Don't worry that it has been over a week. Would you care if he would just call you at this moment (no you would be happy and you would not care that it took him awhile to call) Life is for living not, sitting on the sidelines. Good luck and have a wonderful summer.:)
2006-06-21 10:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by momtree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop over-analyzing this. You will only make yourself crazy by doing so!
Just call him!
He said "Call me," right? Call. Think about this: maybe he asked YOU to call HIM because he is too shy to call you! :-)) So there both of you are, wishing the OTHER person would call!
Just call him up, and don't mention the who-said-to-call-who thing. Ask him if he is as bored as you are now that school's out. Ask him if he has any ideas to ease the boredom.
If he tells you he's too busy, and can't talk, OK, at least you know. Just tell him you only called because you were REALLY bored, and get off the phone.
If he says he's bored, too, ask him if he ever does IM.............
I hope this helps. Be brave, make the first move.
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I really like the mall idea mentioned above. If you like going to the mall, tell him you sort of feel like it, but you think it is kind of weird to go by yourself. :-)) Ask him if he feels the same way, and see what he says... After all, you're not coming right out and asking him to go to the mall, you're just talking about it... Maybe he'll say he feels weird too, and suggest that you both go, or meet there...
2006-06-21 10:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by zen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say just do it. Take a deep breath and call. Take chances, the worst that can happen is it wont go well, and think about it in a few years, you will look back and laugh at it. I know because I regretted not calling guys in the past, and finding out they were waiting for me to the make the call... and never did. I finally got this advice to take a chance, and asked this guy I liked at my work and we have been together for almost 2 years.
2006-06-21 10:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by Heather N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you need to calm down and realize that if he says he wants you to call then he does. Men don't say things like that if they don't mean it. If he didn't want you to call, then he would hve more than likely blown you off. So, it's been a week, so what. If he seems like he thinks that's been a long time, then be honest and tell him that you wanted to call but that you were nervous. If you don't want to be honest, then tell him that your parents have had you extremely busy doing things for them. Just relax, it will be ok. Sometimes when I'm nervous i think about what the worst case scenario is and I usually realize I can handle that, and that that isn't what's going to happen anyway. So go for it.
2006-06-21 10:57:42 · answer #5 · answered by babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Naw give him a call now. Have a plan all laid out...go to the movies or some other activity and see if he wants to go, IF not then don't worry about it. Have a plan B that doesn't involve him.
As far as the call...don't be nervous, just call him and act like you are talking to any friend...be casual.
2006-06-21 11:05:05 · answer #6 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kk, u can do 1 of 2 things.
1. call him n ask him if he wants 2 hang wit u.
2. make him a hotmail account, of w/e account u hv n den u guys can stay in contact wit each other.
In standard English (lol):
Ok, you can do one of two things:
1`. Call him and ask him if he wants to chill wit you some where close.
2. Make him an e-mail adress, and then you can chat on what ever account you want. If you make him a hotmail account (recommended), you can chat on MSN, if you make a yahoo, then chat on Yahoo Messenger.
2006-06-21 11:11:43 · answer #7 · answered by Em.Ee.Elle.Elle.Ay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is the shy one and you are acting shy,how can this help any of you? what do you have to loose when you call him? If you don't soon, you'll find more excuse not to and at the end you have just messed yoourself up. Call the boy lover girl
2006-06-21 10:59:13 · answer #8 · answered by junior's800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's expecting you to call then you don't need to worry. But if you're worrying that you won't have much to say or don't know what to say, write down a bunch of different topics. Ask questions to get to know him, subjects you're interested in. Find out what he's into. Good luck!
2006-06-21 11:02:05 · answer #9 · answered by meghanw1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's asked you to call! You should call no matter how long it's been. The sooner the better. Even if he has given up on you, I really doubt he wouldn't appreciate a phone call.
2006-06-21 10:57:42 · answer #10 · answered by Bedam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just call him. but since its been a week, like u said, hes probably moved on to another girl. the longer u wait, the harder it will get. just call him up, and ask him if he wants to hang out or something.
2006-06-21 10:54:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋